Now that it's settled you can move on.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Just an update:
Been giving her space now that we are long distance and she's been making a lot more effort, saying she's excited to see me (she's coming back this weekend for about two weeks), calling me randomly, wanting to talk longer than me, etc. I've been working on myself a lot and I've focused on my own life. I dealt with the anxiety of not being able to hold on loosely to this relationship and in turn being needy and wanting it to really work. Now my attitude is more balanced and I have my own happiness with or without it. I am feeling a lot better, and I am hardly thinking about her during the day until she texts me or if I decide to text her. In other words, I think I had a lot of anxiety and pain associated to the idea of us possibly breaking up and now I've managed to come to terms with that. In turn her behavior has been more focused on me and seems to want to make sure I am invested in this. I am, but I am just not going to go to the lengths I was before to make it work. Anyways, I've noticed she's needed more attention, and she has been mentioning me visiting her next month where she is. She called yesterday and I had a pretty unemotional tone at first, and she sounded worried and scared. That wasn't really on purpose, but I had just finished something and I think she expected me to be really cheerful that she was putting in effort and taking initiative. The most important thing to me right now is that I've dealt with my own attachment issues to her that would have caused me a lot more pain in the future if I didn't correct them. It's the only thing I could control of the outcome is a split. I've dealt with the idea that we are in different places and that growing apart is really just life. That helps me not feel as responsible for this, and let's me let go when my ego isn't as involved.

Can you let go? Can you just say 'Fuck it' and walk away? Can you fuck another girl guilt free?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Yeah at this point I could do all three of those in order. Or in reverse. That's where I am at emotionally and mentally. Honestly I feel single which feels liberating. I think that whenever I have been in relationships before I've lost this feeling and grown a strong attachment to the partner just because we are now girlfriend and boyfriend. Not sure if that's my ego trying to make it work and making me hyper vigilant or what but I feel autonomous now. Hard to explain but I know it's a step in the right direction.

I've appreciated the feedback. I think everyone has brought a unique point of view to this situation, and mostly to myself. I might be one of the only success stories you guys find in this relationship section...

Go fuck a random and report.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Yeah, I knew I was walking into that one.

It's very medicinal

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

medicinal pussy