We have been going out for like 3 months and i have done alot for this girl, we also admitted that we love each other, she had big private problems with her family, i helped her i motivated her, and we are together now, i havent f closed yet as we ve had like 3 dates after we got rid of the problems and some LMR occurs, but then on our last date she told me she wants me to know she is seeing her ex once every month, and she interrupted me "before you say anything let me finish" she said she sees him as a friend now and she is also disscssed by what he did to her, and she says she contacts him, as a friend and they have a coffe once a month. She had a 2yr LTR with him, i acted cool and told her its ok if she wants to end our relationship, but she said she wants me not him, i told her i respect her honesty, and i understand that 2 yr long relationship they still contact each other. After this date we went on a coffee with her friend, she was all flattered and complimenting me, then she called me like 5 times for random stuff in the next 3 hours after i went home.

Im still not okay with her seeing her ex because i admitted to her that im loyal, and still i have my value, so i cant risk it because 2 yr long relationship can always lead to friends with benefits. Even though shes attached to me, ill tell her this and next her, if its the only way.

Any ideas ? Or a possible solution to argue and discuss things out with her not to come off as needy ?

There's something odd about a girl WANTING to keep an ex around who treated her poorly (I am assuming you meant to type "disgustingly"). I'm not buying it for even a second, you should be every bit as skeptical.

Think about it. If you had an ex who'd treated you piss-poor why would you want them even as a friend, let alone an acquaintance afterward? ESPECIALLY when you're dating someone new. Sounds like there's some attachment still lingering.

You've every right to feel unsettled regarding the situation. Your needs for security aren't being met, tell her this and be ready to follow-through on doing what's healthiest for you.

This is a pretty big red flag in my book.

I'm starting to think that you are a lost cause. You have a girlfriend that won't have sex with you. She is going for coffee with her ex and you disapprove of it without telling her. You've helped her through her personal problems. What exactly does she do for you? She calls herself your girlfriend, but you're not getting anything out of it.

Why aren't you in the type of relationship that you want?

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Because he feels that's all he deserves.

What you attract is directly correlated to how attractive you are to yourself.

hahahaha ofc not, i was too kind with her because her personal problems got her in depression, and she was a wired case i had to help her, its a good deed i did, and i cant come of as a maniac by tearing down her clothes after the first date we go out as a couple, she was sending me pics we dirty talk but there is still an LMR we have 19 yrs so she acts a bit childish, she says its early for her to have sex with me. Any ideas ??

Again...she has personal problems, depression, and she acts childish. Now she's hanging out with her ex and in the back of your mind you know her ex is going to fuck her. You still haven't said what makes her worth all of this especially since everything you described is one sided with her getting all of the value in the relationship.

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Waste of time.

To quote RC back in April:
That was before about 4 more threads about this girl

This most likely still isnt a relationship and just a girl who you see who's fucking her ex. Regardless dude, what the fuck is wrong with you for wanting this woman or having to need 15 threads for a chick? This shit is sick at this point. Move the fuck on and stop being desperate.

Damn Neo with the sleuth work at it again (faggy Damn Daniel voice).

Childish 19 year old. Lol. Sure, keep telling yourself that.

Coupled with her ex you two make the perfect boyfriend OP.

You're the emotional tampon while he's the dick she rides whenever she wants to be treated like a sexual being. I can help but wonder how many times she kissed you right after she finished sucking him off.

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Ok, thanks ! i didnt even expect you to see the big picture here, because you just read one sentence i wrote and reply to it like everyone else here, trying to look cool, you are just a simple moron with no experience, i got alot out of this girl, just didnt "put it in" and she was in depression, i got her out of it, she told me she still contacts her ex because they had LTR, and is disgusted by him bla bla and she wants me and loves me, now she is attached to me, her fb posts some songs ive send her, and comments on my pics n stuff.. but her contact with her ex, can lead to sex as she told me that her ex was an ass licker who cheated on her. He can lick her ass again and get to sex by persistence. So i will lay her down again and if i get LMR before panties again, ill tell her that i cant call her my GF as long as she doesnt clear out things with her ex, and i know itll e damn hard on her, but i have value and i did enough, its her turn, in case of f close, then we can be mates, until i get in a relationship with someone else.

Kinky. Do do you masturbate to these 'pics'? Does she take them, or does he? Does she wash it real good 1st?

Is it once a month because of her menstrual cycle?

Maybe if you do more stuff for her, she'll let you peek through a hole next time.

Or maybe let you be the 'fluffer' if he starts to lose his erection.

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Ok you dckhead, the full story is we had 5-6 dates with intense making out sessions and contact all the time, i helped her with private problems, she calls me everyday and she said that she wants to tell me she is in contact with her ex as a friend so that dont surprise me, she could just hide it and fuck him, in my country we have a different mentality unlike your sexland town, ive spoken to many "puas" in our town and they say that proximate time for them to f close a girl on this age is like 1-2 months of going out with her, on our age, if u dont have arguments go fuck yourself, i know what to do i just wanted opinions

Heywood, you live in sexland? I'm on my way.

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OP's virginity intensifies.

You're right though. We are being dickheads to you. But that's simply because you're being a primordial dickhead towards yourself in the first place.

I'm going to spell this out for you once again:

You are being an emotional tampon while another guy is being a dick with a pulse. She says she loves you yet sees her ex. She says she loves you yet you fear sex can happen between them. You're not dating a retard. She's not gonna get raped. Everything she does, she CHOOSES TO DO.

Also quit the fucking knight in shinning armor act. She was depressed, so what? Are her legs unable to open because of feeling depressed?
No, her legs are unable to open because she doesn't want you in between them.

So yeah, you have no self-respect. And since you don't, I sure as hell will not. And it's probably why she doesn't either.

Now you can either throw bitch fits on the forum, or you can sit the fuck down and think about it for a few minutes. Take a hint from the "inexperienced" guys.
She's using you. And she's being fucking selfish as well, because you're not getting anything in return aside from a couple of comments over facebook.

And you're ok with that. Is that the guy you wanna be?

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