You guys act like she's 100% the pyscho, and I'm not so much. That's pleasing to see

Good one. Yeah that's when you're serious about not wanting someone in your life

I had an ex do that to me, in fact. Required nothing more than telling the police you feel threatened. She tried coming back into my life 4-5x over the past year lol. It's not necessarily a measure if you're going to breach your own no contact, in which case I can see Skinny easily doing.

Haha true...he'd break it. But I think if he did it or told others about the abuse, this girl would cut contact with him completely, get him off her friends social media and destroy all hope of his that they would get back together. Like if he showed the pictures of the bites, she'd block HIM from everything for damage control. This girl dumped him when he was asking the friends questions, imagine her response if her reputation was shamed as an abuser. He'd have no hope of things ever working with her again. Which would help him, but he wants that hope.

Yep, but she also knows he'd spring back to her faster than a double twisted elastic band.

Abusers need the abused; they support each others unhealthy beliefs - the Abuser that through violence he/she can get their partner to fall into line, and the Abuser who believes he's not worthy of anyone's love unless he's making that other person happy (even to the point where his own needs are being suppressed). No different from Avoidant and Anxious types hooking up ... Avoidants withdraw, Anxious' pursue until the Avoidant cools-down and reproaches. She knows she can treat him like human garbage and she can have him back with the snap of a finger - why wouldn't she believe this?! If he posts the bite marks she can say it was self-inflicted and that he's just drama to save face. Plausible deniability. Big whoop, why didn't he claim assault when it happened surely the marks have healed by now and the event has long passed. Not to mention he already comes across as a basket case and if he's sharing this story with numerous other people with all the details they too might question his bite claim. "Maybe he paid someone to bite him" "Maybe he bought some vampire teeth from Hot Topic and inflicted it upon himself", really whose to say but Skinny and the person (or thing) that created the marks.

At some point she'll likely attach to someone else if that hasn't already happened and frankly that's the best outcome for any positive prognosis for this guy.

You think I would do any of this to myself?

And what do you mean attach herself to someone else, to get the same results or to fall in love. No I'm not asking cuz I'm scared she has another guy you guys seem to think she's a parasite and incapable of love when maybe our bad relationship was a one off.

Operation Lockthread has commenced.

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I printed and wrote down some of N2voids responses to bring to my therapy session tonight. I will post in my journal. Thank you for the feedback. I booked an 'emergency meeting' with him now.

I think positive steps were made in tonights therapy session. She is deleted off everything. I discussed everything, even brought up N2's post. I am meeting with him again Wednesday to discuss my codependency behaviors. Hopefully you can see improvement in my field report.

Not about others, about YOU. Other validation-seeking = codependency

Hopefully I can see that I am making positive steps*

Why do you feel the need to find validation from everyone here? She hasn't replied to anything, it's been at least a month. You shouldn't be spending all your time here. If you don't have a new relationship to post about, then you should go find one to fix. If you are depressed, that's clearly beyond the scope of these discussion boards. Your problem isn't your ex girlfriend, it's your mentality. It's the way you think about your ex girlfriend. It's the way you think about yourself. You need to build some confidence in yourself and start to look at life as an opportunity to do something. You can't waste your life on here. Seriously. You should be coming back with bad ass stories when you are traveling to different countries. No more of this sappy, sad shit. It's not that no one cares, or maybe it is, but you need to shift your focus from trying to fix your problems to seeing what's going right.

Did you contact her yet?