:Now I have talked to her about her behavior, she too knows its bad but she gets all defensive and says "That's the way I am, why can't you love me the way I am "

translated as meaning "you aren't hearing me, and I don't feel connection to you as a result and I'm feeling exasperated"

She's not getting the empathy she's looking for. As another person suggested, connect to her at the feeling level.

If you're coming at her with logic/problem solving u'll lose her everytime. Connect to what's alive in someone first (how they're feeling), there'll be plenty of time for problem solving MUCH MUCH later.

It sounds to me like your gf is insecure and needs attention alot. Try connecting on an emotional level for sure but I dont even know if that will be enough tbh. If she's insecure like that, she's insecure like that. Think of it like this, if your gf had a guy friend she was close to and he texted her abt sex with another girl, it would feel a certain way. Even if you knew they were just friends, its tough to not feel that way. I see it as something you can help her become more secure with, like by connecting emotionally or bringing her around these female friends more. But imo it depends on whether she can become secure enough in herself and understand it.

Ps, you dont need to tell your gf ABOUT A FRIEND'S PERIODS. Its not her business. "I'm helping a friend out" should be enough. You dont need to go reporting a friend's personal business to your chick. If she needs to know every conversation you have, you're with a chick thats way too needy.

That is such complete bullshit. A fantasy existing only in your mind. Like a Bigfoot riding a Unicorn.

Shit doesn't exist.

You were either a servant orbiter - emergency dick in a jar orbiter - and you have long dreamed of one of their vaginas falling on your dick.

Or you were fucking one or two of them.

And you are still hoping, by remaining to be an emotional tampon.

No wonder your GF is pissy.

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I don't want to fuck each and every girl friend of mine, I've got plenty of that.. What I gain out of helping them is a sort of happiness, a good feeling and it has nothing to do with being an orbitar,those days are long gone by.

OP, how well does your girlfriend know these women?

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Ultimately if you can't allay your Gfs insecurities, u'll have to make a choice.

I've been there before. I have several female friends (of which the relationships are entirely plutonic) and dated an insecure woman who acted fine with everything initially only to give ultimatums that I ditch first one, and then another or lose her. This girl even had an "after 7 rule" (pretty funny) where she'd said I was forbidden to hangout with ANY female friend after 7pm, unless she too was present. I realized it had nothing to do with me and that I didn't want to suffer trying to continually help allay someone else's insecure mindset so I ended it with her, though she kept trying to come back into my life but that's a whole other story.

And ya, I disagree with Hambone Jawlock in that you can have female friends without them being orbiters. If they've been in your life before you met your partner, and you're good with boundaries then your partner should respect that and if not bye bye. Never ditch the people that are important to you for someone you're dating, unless of course they're saying disparaging things towards your partner and refuse to stop. Doing so will only compromise your own values and if the relationship goes sideways, well you've lost some pretty important supports in your life and u'll likely end up trying to get them back and regret having dumped them.

Totally agree, plus don't try to convince her with logic, women are emotional, not logical.