Hey everyone, I've been following the forums for the past few weeks and I really think the things I've read here have helped me a lot with interacting with other women. And just as a heads up, I am still in HS.

Now there's this one girl. HB8, great personality, very fun. She has a BF, who I know, but don't really talk to, just a "hey, whats up" in the halls. I just met her a few weeks ago, and from the first night she always seemed attracted to me, started texting me, ect. I went with my 2 friends, who are together, another mutual friend, and the HB8. We just hung out in the mall, went to dinner, she sat next to me, went to the movies, she sat next to me, and when I put my legs up on the empty seat in front of us's arm rest, she put her legs on top of mine. now whenever I talk to her on AOL or text with her, she always gives me those "haha i love you" 's and when she is leaving or is going to bed she says something like " ok, night, love you <3 " and to tease her, I'll just say " K, later " and she'll get mad and be like " I'm waiting for you to say something back" she'll write in parentheses (Love you too HB8). Like thats what she wants me to say. now is she just trying some sort of shit test? she's really confusing me..

Thanks for any help.

Bro,

There's two possible meanings behind her behaviour.

Either, she's genuinely into you, and bored with her boyfriend.

OR

She's just a flirty type of person.

Now, the only way you're gonna find out which one it is is by responding to her apparent advances. Start up some light kino (holding hands, touching her on the arm when she laughs) and also get some longer lasting eye contact going on.

If she responds by not shying away, and responding to your advances, then you're in, and you need to get her on her own in order to pull the trigger, and initially, kiss close her.

If she backs off, or seems uncomfortable, then you know where you're at. At which point, assuming you want to stay friends with her, you need to back off a little and resume normal friendship interaction.

Hope that helps.

Wilde

Hey,

Thanks for the advice man. I'm very good friends with 2 of her friends, and they've told me shes a flirty person. But I've showed them some of the things she's said to me over aim or texts and they can't believe she says those things.


A few times, I've been talking with her in person, with a few other people, and I'd make her laugh or something, and she would be the one to put her arm around me, but I'd just shrug it off or move away. But then I would put my arm around her and she would put her arm back around me. I hope thats a slightly correct way of push and pulling her?

Yeah that's a good way of physical push-pull behaviour.

Try some more mental stuff, get inside her head, punish and reward.

oh cool. any examples of punish and reward?

wenever she tries anything physical, you say "no no thats unacceptable"
then u do the same except a more extreme example of what she did

ex. she playfully pokes you, then u tickle her

Yeah, what that_guy said is good push-pull.

Punish and reward is similar but it's designed to make her qualify herself to you. The second she starts qualifying herself to you, she's becoming attracted to you, and the more she does this, the more attracted she's going to be.

It's really simple, if she says something you like (i.e. that's conducive to building a relationship with her) then you reward her. It doesn't matter whether it's by phone, text, online or in person, the principle is the same.

So for example, she may say, "Ryguy, do you wanna hit the mall this weekend with me?" and you reward her by talking with her, making her excited for the mall outing, and spending your time and effort on her.

If she says or does something that you don't like, then you simply freeze her out, in person or on the phone, you make your excuses and leave, via text or online, you just don't reply. And you don't talk to her until she gets back in touch with you. She'll wonder why the conversation was ended prematurely, and soon she'll learn.

Remember to not freeze her out if she makes the effort to talk to you though because you don't want her to think you've lost interest; you need to show IOI's towards her when appropriate.

Wilde

enough said

Awsome, I'll try it out, and let you guys know if anything happens