Hi guys,

I've been dating a girl for few months. I absolutely adore that she is working hard, trying to accomplish a lot. It's like a big plus, but not the important factor(most guys know what i'm talking about).

But it's double edged. Because, words like "i need to climp on top of a company" etc. is annoyance for me. It feels like it's a change for traditional male/female role. It just brings lots of unnecessary attention towards career and not so much on family life and kids(if that is going to happend).

And i'm honest, I rather want to be the hard worker(while she openly admitted, that a "home going" wife(in terms of a tradtional 8hrs job), is not her)

Am I wrong if I call on this and tell my concerns? Any experience with ever hard working, achievment seeking women? Or, will everything settle down and people change?

Let me tell you the ugly truth. She will wait until she finds better bf than you and she will kick your ass.

It is kinda obsession i know that shit. She will never stop till she ll feel depressed and has bournout. With the time you will figure out you are not enough for her. This kinda chicks adore victory in every area of life. Who is successfuller than you is a potential cheating material for her..

After a time she will say that she has to go business dinners, fucking meetings bla bla shit what end with distance between you too. Fuck and do not commit. If you already saw that signs, drop it like it is hot fella.

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Yes, i'm afraid of the ugly truth(and i'm shocked, because im used to be a big supporter of hard working people, but it feels overwhelming now).

I don't know if it goes for every girl, but it bugs me so much already. The decision I have to make is have a talk(which might end good), or end it. I'm risking something no matter what.

This is so depressing.

This the same chick you were "in love with" after 3 weeks?



How old are you guys?

Sadly at this pt the answer is never 15 like I assume so I'll give real advice.

You're insecure.

Is the "insecure" thing the generic answer here? My concern is grounded in terms of a work/romance balance and i'm sick worried, that this is bound to a personality trait(if so, that will affect me and I can't help, as it's far away from my view on male/females roles). I'm wondering, what your experience is and how you failed/made it work.

But yeah I can see that I fell in love to quickly, before clearing my head for this(I prefer calling that inexperience).

Nope. Not from me. All you said your problem was were her WORDS. Never mentioned a problem with her actions. So if WORDS are affecting you, not her ACTION...come on man, thats insecurity.

Heck in your last thread you even sounded insecure and said so yourself:
Also, you went through a chick's phone and was told this by another poster
So please dont act like you're getting a generic answer.

You're INSECURE. Quit playing like the shoe doesnt fit. And I wrote that before seeing the other signs, just confirming my assessment. You're afraid you're not her priority and will never be. That was my read before I read anything else. Now its confirmed that you have issues with insecurities. I could tell from how you tip toed around it like it was about your values, but never mentioned her actions = shit in your head. Any other guy, I'd say if you want a different kind of woman go for it. For you, you want to be her priority and are threatened

Can guys here NOT act like they're special?

Christ.

Go date someone in the 1800s. Maybe you'll have more luck there.

I'll be straight up with you OP. That 'traditional male/female role' is a huge crock of shit. And a stupid way to go about things. You live in the 21st century and yet hold on to 'values' that were sustainable decades ago. And that's just fucked up.

I will personally never find anything attractive about a woman who's goal in life is to sit at home and mind children.

Neo is right though. Your problem is not her being a hard worker, it's about you not being her priority.

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Alright. Don't hit me. I back off. I get it. Jesus.

I also agree that you are insecure. You shouldn't see your relationship as a power game.
A woman who is after a good career is not a gold digger and she is worth investing on.
You should judge your relationship based on what positive things it brings in your life and how it adds to what you 've already had as a single person.