A girl I've been texting asked me if I want to talk on the phone with her tonight after she flaked on me. We made plans at some point last week and she ended up flaking right before we were suppose to meet up and then she went on about how bad she felt, offered to hang out tomorrow, I told her I already planned for today and didn't wanna waste two days and then she asked if I wanted to talk on the phone. Should I hit her up tonight about talking on the phone? . . something about it doesn't feel right. Like some sort of consolation prize

There is no problem talking to this girl on the phone, but the question here is what does she want to discuss over the phone?

In this situation, I'd advise you use the phone call to set up a solid date, time and location, nothing more. You shouldn't spend more than 10 mins with this girl on the phone.

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Do only want to not talk on the phone because you feel its a consolation prize or do you have genuine hang ups about talking on the phone?

She offered to hang out with you today, you couldn't do it and so she offered to share communication with you through another platform. Those are clear signs of interest from what I'm seeing. If you like the girl.. have her call you. If you don't leave it alone and move on. Have her call you though, let her know that she can call you when you get in.

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Just see her.. If you think she may flake again just tell her to meet at your place. Win win

Tell her that you will get your assistant Siri to book an appointment for this call

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What Genesis said. She genuinely does not deserve you wasting your time. Your phone conversation should be to ensure that she makes up for flaking and meets with you tomorrow. If she does meet up with you tomorrow, then after you may reward her by having a phone conversation. See if she ACTUALLY feels bad and she makes your next meeting.

I think everyone is reading this incorrectly...

Girl flaked on op
Girl apologized and rescheduled to the following day.
Op rejected the reschedule
She then suggested that BECAUSE OP doesn't want to meet tomorrow that they talk on the phone tomorrow

The girl is already suggesting they meet the following day and op is the one rejecting the idea.

I read the replies while at work . . and I decided I was being a bit brash, after all me and her were really connecting on an intellectual level since we met

So we made plans for today . . she flaked again, same reason as prior saying she felt nervous about meeting with me and that I should just come visit her at work, she even said "I'm so bad at keeping plans"


Now it doesn't matter if we're connecting fool me once . . shame on you. Fool me twice . . and I'll be damned if I let you have a third chance to fool me. I haven't responded to her text since she flaked on me she texted me saying she was at her girl friend's house and planning to watch porn (an obvious ploy to get some type of arousal out of me) and then she texted me a few hours later saying "i'm drubk" . . as in drunk

What do you guys think? I know I'm making the right decision but what is she doing here, what's her agenda. Is she just entertaining herself by getting attention via text?

Why don't you meet her at work? She obviously wants to scope you out. I'd say, meet her at work, then see what happens. It's obvious that she's uncomfortable, so the meet may make her more comfortable. The phone call was also to establish more comfort on her part.

However, if she flakes again, she's out.

Should I check her tour schedule and join her fan club too?

Her explanation for flaking should have been in your opening post.

If she flaked on you once and told you she flaked because she felt nervous, you have 2 options:

1) Forget her
2) Proceed and continue with her

If you proceed, then you have to accept that you'll have to take care of her nervousness if you dont want her to flake again. If you haven't met, you have to take care of the obstacle of meeting, ie her nervousness. This could have been a phone call.

Alot of guys do this; they take a simple obstacle and make it worse. If you knew she wanted to be more comfortable to meet you, why not just make her more comfortable, instead of rescheduling as if that would change anything? If you decide to give it another chance, play it right this time. If you dont want to risk it, fine.