I walk in a retail store the other day with two of my female friends (one of whom I'm sleeping with).

We have a cashier that is nice to me, and on the way out (according to my female friend) whispers to the cashier next to her "He's hot"

So the next day I return to the store to make a return and I go to the dressing room. Lo and behold I am helped by the girl from the day before. I say hi, do my thing in the dressing room, then come out and hand her the sign they give you when you go in and say "I don't usually give strange women my number." smile, then walk out.

I come back to try on a different pair of pants, do that, and on the way out she asks for the sign and I say "give me your number first" but not in an overly aggressive way. She laughs a little and says "I can't"

What went wrong here would you wager? We chatted a bit in between just about her pointing me in the wrong direction etc.

You should persisted a little more.

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She also said "have a nice day" very politely after a second or two

Next time, and actually always do the following.

"Let me get your number" whilst pulling your phone out, in your case by the passive way you reacted I gather it's stowed away in your Gucci purse.

I often give my phone to her because I usually have pussy juice soaked fingers and will often mistype or miss hear the girl.

Upon getting my phone back "Cool. I'll text you now so you have mine."

It's really that simple. Not really rocket science is it. Instead you kinda made a deal of it, but that's ok you now know better for next time;)

OMG a definitely IOI!! Now you can go tell your buds about the hot chick who said "have a nice day"...and once your elation wears down reflect on what could have been.

She said she couldn't. She didn't say that she didn't want to. Some stores, especially men's clothing, hire attractive women to get men to come in and buy stuff. This causes a lot of guys to Flirt with the women working, so they make policies for the women to not give customers their personal information.

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lmao seriously...you think it's because I didn't hand her my phone? She had a pen behind the desk and post-its......Yes my phone was in my pocket but I've had girls just write theirs for me

I'm not saying it like that lol I"m saying it like she was kinda not open to keeping the convo going even

I would think that if she had really found me that attractive, she'd have laughed and said "ok" and played along with the game. There was NOBODY around.

"I can't" may mean several things such as she has a bf, is dating someone she likes, has a penis under her skirt, who knows doesn't matter really...

Not every girl who finds you "attractive" will date you, and yes, as one of the guys above mentioned persistence is good for polarizing the girl one way or other. It CAN be a very attractive quality if she feels something towards you to begin with as it demonstrates confidence and also women love to feel pursued by someone of 'value'. The difference between a guy she's attracted to and a guy she isn't attracted to with respect to persistence: attractive guy is more attractive, unattractive guy is 'creepy'.

Anyhow I get the sense the convo was just a bunch of fluff, be outright "hey you're cute too" vibe step up a bit, stick your neck out...often times women can tell when you're posturing and for a moment its 'cute' but after that its a turn-off. Go straight for the jugular.

I picked up an ex (a best friend of mine now) who worked at a Club Monaco (clothing store similar to Banana Republic) at a mall near where I'd lived. I went in tried a top on I had no interest in buying. The size was way too large, she came to ask if I'd needed help and I just straight up said "Look I didn't come in here for the clothes...I came in here because I think you're incredibly cute and had to say something". She blushed, I got her #, we ended up in a 7 year relationship, best I ever had to date:) And 8 years later we're solid as friends.

Why I am saying this? Take chances, ALWAYS, but beyond that BE BOLD. High risk=high reward.

I understand where you are coming from, but on the other hand It's not really my style to outright say she is cute. I tend to not give much in the early stages, in fact I never really like to compliment at all (until we are committed, or at least just give backhanded compliments).

I had a bit of a sexual tone but not too crazy. I don't think I was posturing much at all, I think the convo was more like:

Me: Hi how are you
Her: Hi how many? *smiles a bit looks down*
Me: Two, which side
Her: That one
Me: Oh good, don't want to confuse those *slight smile*
Her: How'd you do?
Me: Wonderful, *hands her tag* I don't usually give strange women my number
Her: hahaha

10 min later

Her: Back for more?
Me: Yup, now this color
Her: I'll hold on to this one for you
Me: All set
Her: How'd you make out?
Me: Good, now we have two winners
Her: Ok I'll take that, now can I have the number
Me: Give me yours first *smile*
Her: I can't *smiles* *takes the tag*
Her: Have a good rest of the day

Looks pretty benign

Why refrain from a. Compliment if it's true? Is it going to cost you anything?

I think as n2 said, its not much. Just because she thinks you're hot does not equal "I will give him my number." Sure, if you did this with a few sales girls who said you were hot, you'd prob get a number or 2. But this chick could have had a bf, could not be interested in dating right now, could think you're a player and not wanna start anything with you, or just didnt want to be easy. As Jack said, could be the policy and she knows she's being watched or someone could walk in. You could have very well gotten a number from what happened, but its not guaranteed. Could be your friend misheard. Could be the last guy she gave her number to kept showing up at her job. What I see really missing is any real conversation or qualification to make it more solid; it's a quick "kinda" flirty exchange, but when its that quick and without substance, you shouldnt really worry if it doesnt work out.

Situations like this if you aren't good about being honest with your intentions then role play, chicks dig it like cats dig catnip so long as u own it

Example playing the prize like she's trying to creep on you as you're in the change room ignoring the fact she's an employee and it's her job to assist customers. "Omg you little perv!" Sorta vibe who cares what's the worst reaction she gets mad good then you've qualified and she failed for being a frump. Next!

Dude.

Just whip your phone out, and while you hand it over to her, say, let's hang out at some point. She'll enter her number or not. If she doesn't cool. On to the next.

I do like the dressing room story though, lol. One time I just straight up asked this hot employee as she unlocked the door "what are you doing later?". I got denied, but I'd rather go down swinging than with a wimper.

I've had to turn down male employees in dressing rooms. They get aggressive in there (and in the gym locker room).

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