In 3 weeks you don't know who she is. You only know what she wants you to know about her and what she wants you to believe about her.

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You know how fucking creepy that is?

Yall on this forum are falling in love with girls over not how they treat you, but "WHO THEY ARE?" Do you read celebrity bios and fall in love with them too?

With all the internet, with all the thousands of chicks in your city, state, you really meet only 1 girl worth dating in 2 years? If your odds are that bad, where the fuck are you meeting women? Most of yall sound like you "sarge" in retire homes and the first chick who has teeth comes along = be my gf forever. You really cant find ways to put yourself around women you're compatible with? Jeez, its not difficult when you're dating sensibly. I can find a woman worth dating in my building right now. If you think you're tastes are so unique that only a certain woman in a million can meet your requirements, you're fooling yourself or dating in the wrong pools.

I swear I read shit on this forum, and half the guys sound like they're this close to tying women up in their basements. And I read this shit and I think sometimes, "I'm GLAD this guy didnt get this woman." Because if he's so invested after 3 weeks, heck if she decides to break up in 2 years dude is gonna O.J.

Maybe.."gasp", stop being a loner. Start surrounding yourself with people who are like minded and you can connect with. Start going to places where the women who are "worth it" to you go. Nah...its always gonna be easier to fixate on one girl who wasnt really interested in you, but thats still easier than fixing your shit.

Whats fucked up is if you guys listed reasons why this girl was special, I could throw a rock outside my home and hit 10 girls with those qualities. These girls aren't interested in you guys , and I'm sorry, I've yet to read a guy write about a girl doing something extraordinary to warrant the very thread they're making. But...they say the chick is so sweet and caring...well was she sweet and caring when she hit you up only after you deleted her? No. She didnt give a fuck abt you, she wanted to validation back, hit you up so you'd come running and has now left you in a worse place. These girls dont even give a shit about you guys...Its sickening reading all this adoration for girls who obviously dont even care like that.

The girl who is worth is the one who will PURPOSEFULLY put you in a worse place just she can feel wanted for a night? She'd fuck your night over for FACEBOOK?!

FACEBOOK

FACEBOOK

FACEBOOK

Yeah, she's really worth alot. A girl who would waste your night for some validation and a facebook friend request.

Maybe the girls you guys define as quality really ARE rare. Because most of them aint shit.

DONT fall for chicks for WHO THEY ARE. What are these chicks really doing for you? What are the bringing to the table. Because I'll tell you what. Read Oprah's biography. She's an amazing woman. And I guarantee more amazing as a woman than this chick. But I'm not gonna have feelings for Oprah because of the amazing woman she is. Because then, I'm just crazy to have feelings for someone who isnt doing anything for me.


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Neo's post is as true as it is harsh OP. I'm sorry but he's right.

You guys fall in love not because these girls are worth anything, you fall in love because they show you a small hint of what "could be". They give you 10% affection and you start imagining what 100% would be like, and then you invest back as if they actually were giving it 100%. You don't even fall for them, you fall for the ideal you have created for them. And a testament to that is you saying "it's who she is". Man, you have no fucking clue who she is. You've dated 3 weeks. Who she is is who you're imagining her to be.

But finding excuses is easier than facing reality. "She's different". No she's fucking not. You may see her different just as a shit hunter will eat just about anything and call it a feast. Then he'll blame it on his high held standards.

The thing with standards is, I have some of the highest of anyone I know personally. And yet I still find great girls regularly and I don't even try very hard.
But if you're meeting girls "worth dating" once every two years, you're not actually "meeting girls". You're simply doing nothing, waiting for the stars to align themselves again and another girl to somehow fall in your lap.
I have friends like you. They do NOTHING but blame the women, men, society and just about anything else for their failure. And just like you they fall in love with every girl that gives them the time of day.

As long as you keep finding excuses you'll never take accountability for your own happiness. And nothing will change.

PS: for what it's worth. In that moment, she was being honest. She was also being honest the next day. The difference is simply that her emotions shifted.

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I understand, just wonder how I could've handled things differently. Since it seems, after all, that at this moment she was ready to commit.

First sign that she wanted the chase, not you. See it's nice when a girl is chasing you and putting up with flaking, but thats the first sign she is not interested in YOU, more the chase.
Next flag that things are unrightfully serious. This was your second date and she's getting mad? Red flag that there isnt much substance behind this.
This is way too serious for a chick you first went out with a week before. The mistake I want to point out is like this quote and the others, you made the mistake of thinking her high levels of interest were real. She was way too interested up front, so when she is giving you hints at being serious, it means nothing.
2 weeks in, these are more conversations that shouldnt be taking place.


You say she was ready to commit 3 weeks in. Thats the problem. Dating is great, but you have to have a level of emotional maturity to actually get to know someone before thinking commitment. and 2 weeks is not enough time. You got swept up in the high interest she was showing you and took her words and interest to mean something. Now you're here after 3 weeks thinking she was special, when she just liked the chase and will move on to the next guy who is flaking on her.

Dont rush into anything; if she was level headed she would have said, this guy has flaked on me 3 times, I'm not gonna keep chasing him, and that would be the end of it. If you were level headed, you'd have taken your time. The only difference between you and her now, is she has realized it was just a fling, meanwhile you actually though her interest meant something.