It just doesn't make sense to me why she gets so sexual with me and then when it comes to actually fucking she doesn't want. Fucking attention whore

I'm just getting kind of frustrated cause I keep getting by these girls who seem like they are down to fuck but when it comes to it it's a no show.

So no pics?

God dammit.

Nah but on a serious note, it happens. Some girls just enjoy the attention. Don't beat yourself up, happens to all of us sometimes.

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Maybe you could not so successfully escalete. Try to kiss her do not hesitate to make your move. Maybe she is an attention whore but, you can use this for serving your benefits, by behavioural psychology basicly this the samw with pavlov's dogs.

From other perspective like you said, she played the dumb with you because she wanted attention and that was what exacly get from you by playing fool.

From now on, you do not have much to lose, so without hesitation make your executive move to her. Isolate and bang.

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OMG girl, where was the warm buzz with drinks and foreplay? You know better than that! Come on! every girl loves a massage.... Some oil....Some chocolate... Showing of new V-twin 80 cube kick start dildo... You know...Romance.

Men get blown out all the time for not escalating.

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Polarize. You only live once (or so I'm told), and it can all end 10 seconds, 2 days, or 2 months from now. The point? Stick your neck out earlier, at least that way u'll know whether she's interested (in that way) or not. If not, you'd tried and can move onto the next who'll be receptive.

And by polarize I don't mean running out the gate trying to jam your tongue down her throat, but at least escalating earlier and u'll get a sense of the vibe/temperature and whether its worth pursuing or moving on.


And next time I'd probably avoid being so verbally direct UNLESS there's already been some escalation. This was just from red light to green, at least how I am reading your post. I haven't read your entire thread, but if she's 'bicurious' she may have had some reservations and/or timidity towards this whole experience and that approach could have shut her down quick. As someone else said a massage, or something else involving contact and building tension would be more conducive to the result you're looking for;)

I see what you guys mean with the escalating. I didn't tell her how I wanted to fuck her right when she came over. There was tension between us prior. She was sitting close and we were looking at each others hands.


If she wanted to bang she would have went for it. Thing is she's banged girls before so it's not like she's never had sex with girls before.

The thing that frustrates me is that for all this time we've been texting each other it was highly sexual like I mentioned in the post so it's not like she didn't know I wanted to fuck her and there was te sion between us all that time.


At least now she sees me in a sexual light and knows I'm down to fuck. But I'm not giving her any attention at all anymore.

What would you guys do from now on?

Is all hope gone front banging her

IDK, What about rear banging her?

Anyway. Freeze her out, you are not making any productive gains chasing her ass, give her the opportunity to chase yours.

Peruse other options in the meantime.

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Yeah maybe I was too direct. But she saw me at the gym and wad all smiley and inquisitive. I wad telling my friends about this and perhaps I read too much into her behaviour and perhaps she was just joking. Comes down to the fact that she is just straight. But still I feel now there is no hope at all. She is a very direct person and openly sexual so that is why I used that direct approach. I just feel bummed out because I feel like I could've done something differently.

Like what, make her gay?

You're only bummed because you didn't get the result you'd hoped for. You tried, however. Perhaps moving forward be a bit more direct with your intentions instead of letting it build up and then feeling deflated after all is said and done.

Look being a lesbian's a tough gig, just ask Heywoodjawbone she's always going on about having broken gaydar. No but seriously the options are far and few between, not knowing if the girl straight or other, though it seems that these days more and more women are open to the idea of exploring encounters w other women.

To be fair, if you were a guy and did this, it prob wont work either. You had the whole seduction built up over text and when she was at your place, you shifted gears abruptly. Shouldve teased and flirted when she was at your place, have some wine and SEDUCE her, vs just put it out like that.

Rc told you how to do it And you basically pulled out your cock instead. Maybe she was just joking, but you failed to seduce her when it was time to.

I think she felt the hesitation in op's behaviours. I thini op could not send clear signal with her body. Talking is one part of the game other part is using your body. Women are good BS detectors, especially when topic comes to hesitation. You even had not enough confidence to do this. Next time blind your eyes be more executive.

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Aren't you already setting up a threesome with her?

But yea unfortunately your sentiments are normal and this is frequent. I have had women text me photos or their vagina and then forget me next week, and girls ask me out then stop texting a few days later. It happens often, don't get down. There are more women out there than you realize and there are always hotter!