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PostPosted: Fri Apr 29, 2016 7:45 pm 
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How you guys handle other guys hitting on you girl? I have some different scenarios I have been experienced that I don't really know how to handle.

I never really had a real relationship so I am really insecure about when you start to trust each-other.

Scenario 1)
A test girls use to do where they start flirting with an other guy while you are around her to see how you respond. Or some random guy just enters the conversation and she let him in.

I feel like I have encountered this test mostly in early stages, before i get to kiss the girl and so on. So i can't really stop it by just go there and kiss her. My best bet is to talk the guy off or show leadership by trying to make it a group conversation where he listen to my jokes/stories. The later is how ever really hard to do if he got some clue.

Scenario 2)
When you started to date a girl, you have seen each-other a couple times but you are not together.
Say you go out and party with friends.

Guys will still hit on her, and there will always be a guy with a better game.

You can sit there and watch her and deflect some guys by kissing her or if they are clueless just talk them off. But you can't really babysit her without being a needy.

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I never really had a real relationship so I am really insecure about when you start to trust each-other.
This is the real problem. What do you think a secure guy would do?

If you do a search of the forum...this topic is discussed over and over again.

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You don't "handle a guy hitting on your girl". That's her job. And if you command any shred of respect you - nevermind. Fuck it. Just use the search function.

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Whatever I want. If I want to talk to my girl, I will whisk her away. Being too aloof has screwed me up in the past. But I'm never jealous. Take it as a compliment.

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PostPosted: Sun May 01, 2016 7:10 pm 
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I did some field testing.

I tried to be chill and just have a nice time talk to others practice my social skill to be the one who lead the stories.
And at one point the girl went as far as putting her hand on my knee and started massaging it when a guy came to talk to her:P

I assume this is her way of signal others away?


I have witlessness this behavior before among other girls before but I never knew why.


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I did some field testing.

I tried to be chill and just have a nice time talk to others practice my social skill to be the one who lead the stories.
And at one point the girl went as far as putting her hand on my knee and started massaging it when a guy came to talk to her:P

I assume this is her way of signal others away?


I have witlessness this behavior before among other girls before but I never knew why.

Keep it up bro. And for future reference when a girl starts massaging your knees, it is time to escalate.

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PostPosted: Sun May 01, 2016 10:07 pm 
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Go talk to other girls. :P

I dont care whos hitting on my GF. Shes hot so guys are going to hit on her. If I worried about it I would never get anything accomplished in my life.

At a party and some dude starts talking to my GF? Maybe I'll talk to him if he seems interesting and start a convo. Maybe i'll walk away and talk to other people (including women) if im not interested in conversing with him. If hes overly annoying or lacks social grace I'd just take my GF and walk away but truthfully she would probably tell him to get lost first.

If your woman doesnt respect you then you have bigger problems than random guys hitting on her.

I'll give you a few examples of my life.

1) Last weekend I was at an art gallery with my GF. I happened to be several feet away from her talking to a potiental business associate while she was looking at a painting. Some guy walks up to her and starts chatting her up. I noticed but didn't much care. Shes a big girl and can take care of her self. Few minutes later Im done talking to to the gentlemen I was conversing with so I walk over to my woman, place my ahnd on her lower back and say "hi babe." I stick my hand out to the guy who was hitting on her and introduce myself. He was rather annoying so after a minute or so I turned to my GF and said "hey, you have got to see this" and turned back to the guy and said "it was a pleasure" and walked off with my GF with me. Simple, tactful, graceful. This will work for you almost anywhere.

2) Several months ago my GF and I were at a dinner party celebrating a promotion of one of my GFs friends. During this party some guy comes up to hit on my GF while I was talking to someone else. When I came back I introduced myself, the guy shook my hand and gave me his name as well. We got to talking and now today hes one of my best friends. He stopped hitting on her once he realized she was with someone and he turned out to be a cool guy with lots of common interest.

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The more experience and confidence you develop the less women will want to take a risk of messing up an opportunity to be with you. These particular behaviors are going to be things that you experience most often when you're undeveloped in your game and the girl who can sense that feels a need to toy with and test you.

I'm not one that deals with what I find to be disrespect on any level. And thats not something I have to verbalize, its apart of who I am and the people around me pick that up and respect. I respect others, others respect me. I respect the woman that I'm with and she respects me or she'll never get another opportunity with me from that point onward.

The girls are simply unsure of you. And that will wither away the more you get out there and actively develop your game. I would suggest that you steer away from high level social environments at this stage when you're just starting out with a girl. You want to hook them emotionally before all of that and thats best done when its just the two of you for the most part.

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