Thank you guys.

I don't have much people to talk to, I'm a loner (by choice mostly) and it helps coming here, even if It means getting a dose of cold hard truth. I guess I needed that. I'm floating through my own existence. I'm 28 in a few weeks, I need to get a grip.

I don't quite understand this.

Why be a loner if having people to talk to helps? it's that kind of a contradiction?
Anyway, you gotta realize that your neediness is a byproduct of your lifestyle - which you're not pleased with. So like I said, concentrate your efforts on that and solve two problems with one solution.

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Just an update.

After basically three weeks of no real form of contact, except a word here and there through facebook. I decided to block her from social media and erased her phone number.

I get a text message on saturday night :

I was at your bar tonight and really sad you weren't there.

I replied ''who's this?'' and she said it's me Lisa, glad to know you also deleted my number.

I replied ''ah'' and the she said ''Well nevermind, obviously you werent expecting me to text you''

And then I said ''Well if you want to meet up I'll be happy''

She said : Tonight?

Then we agreed to meet up. When I saw her she was crying, she started telling me I was an asshole from deleting her off my life, that she just was so focused on work she had no time for me. We went back to my place and she cried some more. Telling me I scared her before with my actions but that she wanted to see where things would lead us, Also told me ''Can't you tell I care about you, I left all my girlfriends to come see you'' etc etc. I remained calm and collected, did not appear needy, just told her I was happy she came and that I felt the same way, I wanted things to work out and while I realized I fucked up, I understood where I went wrong and was ready to just go with the flow and hang out with her with no pressure.

Then she passed out in my arms and we slept together (No sex) next morning she was really cuddly, kissing me everywhere. When she left she said ''Well, write me?''. That day I did not text.

The next morning I unblocked her from social media and added her back on facebook.. During the day I messaged her asking how she was and she was evasive. She told me she didn't remember what she said, did not know what she wanted and didn't know what to tell me since she felt ''lost''. I told her I really wanted to spend time with her and if she didn't feel the same maybe I had the right idea in the first place in blocking her and should go back to my own ways.

I'm basically heartbroken all over again. When she came to my place I thought this was it, I thought she realized she liked me and missed me and wanted to work things out. I realize she was drunk but how can she say those things and not mean them. And how can she go cold one day after? Should I just block her again and be done with it?

Fuck

You just jump completely give yourself to her when you have a chance to make her invest in you. I would have expected the same outcome.

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At what point do you stop playing games though. I really wanted to make things work with this girl.

Maybe I should've ignored her message?

When she was at my place bawling her eyes out, I really felt like she was honest about things. I don't understand, I'm lost and heartbroken. I was moving on for my own sake, feeling better... Started eating properly and working out since I had deleted her and stopped stalking her shit. Now I'm back to square one.

She backs off of you and the moment she reengages contact, you meet up with her the same day..not bad, but not good.

She gets emotional and you spill your guts to her.

She hangs out with you once and you add her to all of your social media again.

You didn't try to have sex with her when she spent the night.

What about you has changed in her eyes sinvce the last time? You are still displaying clingy behavior and you refuse to allow her to pursue you and she has demonstrated twice that she is willing to do it.

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I did not spill my guts to her. Like I said I was really calm and collected, and she did most of the talking.

No didn't try to have sex, probably a mistake yes. For one I was extremely nervous about the whole thing and almost puked before leaving my house to go meet her. Second she was drunk and passed out, the next morning she had a massive hangover, didn't want to push things.

And yes I added her back on facebook only because I felt it was dickish not to, and because we had a good conversation where I felt she made her point and we were ready to go forward with things. She really was speaking like she wanted things to work out.

Jesus, I'm fucking wrecked.

Swear to god the SECOND I start feeling better, this happens.

You may have appeared calm and collected, but you spilled your guts.

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Now what, I block her again and move on?

If blocking you makes you feel better, then go ahead. The problem is that you need to learn how to not smother women and not allow them to think that they are your primary focus.

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Is all of this melodrama really needed for a 3 week fling?

When you find a girl worth dating once every 2 years, yes it might.

Seriously? What does she do that other girls don't do when you're only 3 weeks in?

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