Like I've told you countless times. You are the only one who can help you. We can't chose your career, we can't chose your actions. We can only advise as to what's best, and then it's up to you to start doing.

I'd like to see you start a journal where instead of letting us know how helpless you feel, you actually write the positive things you do with your life in spite of feeling like shit. That's how you grow.

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I'm sorry, I wont be posting again, but I had to post this. I just had to. I spent hours, upon hours, researching this week, talking to you guys, who have helped me out big time. Huge shout out to R.C and Jack Zero. All of you though.

I feel very very happy, as after hours of research, talking to you, my consellor, and just pinpointing character types. I stumbled upon something which was like reading a description of her, and my relationship, and everything you said.

Please, just read all of this, keep scrolling down, it literally, LITERALLY, describes her to a T, everything, from the smile, to hand writing, to her promiscious ways, lack of sex, EVERYTHING.

I cannot believe it:

http://npatraits.homestead.com/natype.html

Why was this thread unlocked? Very bizarre, I'd like to hear the rationale.

It was never locked.

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I am quite certain it was two days ago, at least briefly. Someone named Chief stated something to the effect that nothing useful was coming of it so locked it.

Yeah it was... I got a warning for one of my posts on here yesterday and saw the thread locked.. Or maybe it was the other one?

Oh yeah I think it's the other one that got locked.

Anyhow, Skinny, if having to name or diagnose what she is helps you move on then so be it. It likely won't get you any closure, however, as the more you focus on her, what she's doing, characterizing her - ANYTHING focused on her, the slower your progress will become.

You're deep in a rumination cycle and that's most often a catalyst to depression, if you're not already in one. The more you allow this to consume you, the more you'll find yourself isolated as friends, and others will begin to pull away out of frustration from hearing your war story everytime they speak with you. Beyond that you can't expect to have an audience here for very long with people who have little to no investment in you to sit and read you drone on and on and on about her, and what you're doing to demonstrate you're moving on (which looks like window dressing and validation-seeking behavior to be honest).

Have a few people close to you you can confide in, journal as well as another member suggested, and stick with YOUR experience meaning your feelings, what's going on in you and keep her out of the conversation. That's my best advice I can give you as to where you're at and moving forward right now.

You know what op, it is not surprise for me any more that bitch kick your ass out. I think there is no diffetence between you two. I ve never seen such a loser like you. You do not even deserve to fuck her.except biology how can i classify you as man.

But you would be good at something. Go to holywood and try to act in horrow films as get raped and murdered victims. You can get oscar from it.

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I don't want to answer with the things that he and I were talking about, but his diagnosis of her is one sided because he had to admit his personality type before he understood what was wrong with her and how they were toxic for each other.

I'm not sure about R.C's role in it, but he and I usually think alike. So whatever I was saying, he was probably saying at the same exact time.

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Co dependents and narcissists make strange (but common) bed mates. Narcissist wants to be idolized, co dependent wants to be accepted so does whatever it takes to cater to narcissists' drives.

What's sad is that the epiphany came here after months of useless chatter and so much input from people who didn't know what they were talking about and giving the OP the ability to pick and choose the people he wanted to hear and ignore everyone else. It could have been so fast and easy if it was done somewhere appropriate...but this is a pickup forum.

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I don't think any of this has an impact (edit).Counseling and reading is fine.. But let's be honest.. He's not with her because she doesn't want to answer his calls or see him. He had a chance to grow from this.. Now all of this after she shut the door is window dressing. If she hit him up a year from now he'd go. If he met another chick just like he'd go be with her. If he had left her he'd have really progressed and learned something. He's like an addict that stopped only because he went to jail and couldn't shoot up. He fucked himself over and unfortunately I have no faith this guy can actually change.

I'm sort of optimistic about it when it comes to him being able to move on and not blaming himself for her behavior. It also was a two year relationship that's been over for months, but he just accepted that it was over yesterday so he's still vulnerable to her. If she came back into the picture, I doubt at this point that he could resist her or any new woman that's a narcissist because he's a pleaser. Being able to please someone that can't be pleased is like having an orgasm to a guy like that and he'd overlook all her abuse in order to get that next orgasm. I hope he continues with real therapy.

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That's the thing though.. I don't know what's gonna stop him from getting into this again. I mean was he just so desperate to have this girl? Did he enjoy the abuse? Did he just blame himself for the abuse? I've met some abuse victims and damn... Even they don't talk like he did... This girl didn't even sound like a great abuser who would typically get away with it and can manipulate someone into staying. That's why I think there are some serious issues with the op. Even in his last post its always about this chick not himself. That's why I'm pessimistic that he'll just continue to pattern and he'll keep looking outwards for the source of his problems

No, I didnt enjoy the abuse, I hated it. I dont understand what you mean by, 'this girl didnt even sound like a great abuser'... how can someone even be a great abuser...