I have noticed that i have been more in a more feminine state recently. How do you guys keep yourself in a masculine state of mind?

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What does this even mean?

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You're in a feminine state of mind because you accepted an open relationship with a girl that you didn't want to accept. You've put her needs above yours. There is no way to be in masculine state when she is the most important person.

OP are you saying in laymans terms that you are a little bitch ?

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So when i say a feminine state of mind. I mean more easy going. Less boundaries. If someone was messing with my girl, as much as i hate to say it. I don't know if i would call him out. These are a few examples.

Being general, it's easy to say okay these are the reasons, so just do the opposite. It's not that easy for me though to just make the swap just like that. I'm looking for more specific things like how to build up that masculine energy.

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Neo : We are dating right now, and i did want to accept it. I'm still young and want to experience one, but i didn't get into it just for that. I am extremely happy with her, and we have awesome chemistry. It's just for the time being though because by the end of summer she will be in a new state. So i'm enjoying the experience. I could see how you would assume that's where i am getting it from, but it's not. It's more of my past and my parents that put my into more of a feminine state, and i'm working to get out of it.

I do however agree with making her too important. I know that i need to put my needs above her's, so i will take that advice. If i can pry you for a bit more information. What would be way of putting my needs above hers?

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Mr. Assertive : I would never say i am a bitch as a person. Although, at this moment in my life, you could say that i am taking on some of those traits. I understand that, which is why i'm looking for guidance.

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Omar : This is more of the advice i am searching for and a good start. Thank you

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I must have a feminine state of mind. I expect that women I go out with to be hit on by other men and I don't feel the need to call them out. I'm extremely easy going and I think the whole boundary setting thing is insecure.

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It goes back to you're in an open relationship you don't want to be in. If its open on her side, I dont know why you'd call out some guy hitting on your girl. You feel the need to call it out because you do not understand what an open relationship is, ie you each see other people, and even then, its because its what SHE wanted. A "masculine" state of mind is to go for what you want, NOT to accept it and rationalize it. Obviously this situation is what you accept. You cant be masculine accepting what you're given, and if you did become more masculine, you'd leave this relationship.

What I see is various threads on this girl/relationship. Now you can change the theme every time, but it all comes down to you're in a situation you dont really want to be in and dont understand. This thread might as well have been called "how do I not care when my open relationship is open?" If an open relationship is what you wanted, you wont care if some guy was hitting on her. Especially if it were open. Truth is, something is wrong man. If guys are hitting on your girl, its up to her to shoot them down, open or not. If she's not and its bothering you, maybe neither of you know what relationship you are in. Guys will hit on your girl, its up to her how she handles it. Not you. If she's not handling it when they hit on her when you're not there...well thats an open relationship for ya. If she's not when you ARE there, then she doesnt respect you or your time together.

Whenever I have girlfriends and they say "there was one guy who was hitting on me that other night..." I laugh at them and usually answer with something like "You're so cute, trying to make me jealous" with a smile, or "I believe he wasn't as pretty as I am". With a smile.
I don't care about other guys hitting on my gfs. I only care about their reaction.

If by being feminine you're saying that you're non-reactive then what's the problem? You're not supposed to act as a caveman, ready to fight. You're supposed to keep cool.
By the way, is being more easy going a bad thing? That's new to me.

Ohhhh, Neo i completely agree. If we were still in a open relationship, i'm 100% there with you. That's not the case anymore. We are boy friend and girlfriend now. So that's why i brought up that question. None the less, i do see what your saying. Thank you for that.

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Dude. Zeru.

You WERE boyfriend and girlfriend even before. And OPEN relationship is still a relationship. She's still your girlfriend. I think what you're trying to say is that now you're in an EXCLUSIVE relationship.

The difference is:
If you're open you can fuck, kiss, do whatever with other guys or girls. That can be done either right in front of you, or without you being present. Some people are cool with either one or the other. Or both. But that's not something they accept. If you have to accept it you're not cool with it in the first place. Get it?

And exclusive relationship is one in which you don't do the thing I mentioned above. You don't get intimate with other people. Flirting is generally fine, but out of common sense it's not something to be done right next to your partner. I believe it's perfectly normal to enjoy the attention you receive from others, right to a certain point.

Anyway, neo is right, in essence. If you feel you're in a feminine mindset that's because you're accepting a lot more shit that you'd like to.

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