Thx man, i think this thread must be locked.

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Think I might send:


Dear XXX,

I'm writing this to you after taking some time apart and being able to gain a new perspective of the way things unfolded between us. I will be the first to admit that towards the end of our relationship I acted in ways that I shouldn't have and I made mistakes. The expression 'it takes years to build trust and seconds to lose it' couldn't have more truth to it. I acted in a way that questioned the trust in our relationship and that wasn't fair to you. I know I made mistakes but I hope you understand the reasons behind it, I am not justifying the behaviors at all but merely explaining how it got to that place. I felt there was distance between us and a lack of communication on both our parts. This caused me to question my trust for you and caused me to act out of character and in turn that jeopardized your trust for me. Since our break up, I spent a few days reflecting on my own actions, the things I could have controlled and done differently, I shouldn't have taken our relationship out of the boundaries of just you and me. Truth be told, I didn't know exactly what was going on and presumed the worst. With that being said I truly feel that if we can improve our communication and our openness with one another we could both gain this trust back and be stronger for it if we ever do reach a place of that caliber again.

I know you very well, and I know that when you make a decision, in your head that decision is likely final. You may think a certain way towards me right now but I just ask that you take these things I'm saying to you and really think about them. The truth is that I love you very much even if my actions did not show that to you. Everything aside, you were my best friend and regardless of anything I will always support you and respect you. If nothing else I at least want to express these things so we can both move forward without negative feelings towards each other. Letting you in was something that meant so much to me and I will always cherish that.

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Sickening.

I know all of you may be fed up. But I cannot help this. I was going to go out tonight, but didn't because I literally cannot hold a conversation. I feel deep down the emptiest I have ever felt.

For the first time in a long time I had a feeling tonight that on a saturday night she is probably out and with a guy, enjoying her partying scene, as it is her spring break. I sit here alone in my room, as she was suppose to come over to my house today after her track meet. It is crazy how life can change just like that.

Its no lie, Im having the hardest time of my life processing this all. Its like I am a system and it has overloaded. 'Let go'. I cant simply just do that.

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Yes, she beat me with those too.

You are in lots and lots of pain and you need help.
Stop trying to contact her. If you continue one day you might find police on your doorstep telling you about charges of harassment.
If I judge from how many private messages you've sent me and I haven't replied to none and you keep sending me one every day I can tell how big of an issue you have.
I am terribly sorry of what you went through. Nobody deserves abuse of any sort but you need to let go of hope.
Things will get better and the pain will go away. Just be patient.
You need to look after yourself and build your life so that you are happy. Forget about dating for a while.
Start meditating, focusing on gym or any other physical activity makes you take away anger and keeps your mind busy and in a month's time you'll feel better and look behind you and wonder why you behaved the way you did.
She can be the best person in the world or she might have done so many things to you but it is over.
Call your local abuse line and speak to someone and they will point you out to some groups who will help you with your recovery.
It hurts a lot. I know but whatever doesn't kill you it makes you stronger.

And please don't pm me any more. I cannot help you more than what I've told you.
My advice will be the same: get help for getting over the abuse. Let go of her.
I refuse to read any letters or give you any advice on trying to find a way on how you can get her back.

There is no point talking about it. Even if I had a magic wand and I could make her come back you will again break up because your issues would make her go away.

I have already told you. You are not in a position now to write a letter. And in the LAST private message I sent you, the contents of a letter would be more of wishing well and letting go, if you still feel the need to do it. Forget all the above you wrote. This is why she dumped you, which was long overdue. She will not give a fuck about your letter, it will just boost her ego and feel that she still has control over you. Now stop sending private messages to all of us and for once do as you are adviced. Tell us how you feel after 30 days of No contact. Then 60 days. At 90 days the pain will go.

I obviously have deep issues. I feel so needy towards everyone, its ridiculous. No wonder she left me. I feel all my friends leaving me too.

I dont know in what direction to turn.

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I get it, this topic is closed. Please dont post any pics of random shit. I get it, trust me.

Lastly before I close the chapter.

I wanted to share something with you. I met her ex boyfriend more than once on a few occasions and we interacted, he was a very nice guy. I sent him a message because I knew of their break up.

This is what he sent to me:
Hey man I just got your message. So happy you messaged me because I truly believe no one understands this. I had no one who could understand what I went through. Sorry for the late reply. The same thing happened to me. She's an extremely manipulative person. When her and I broke up I had to go through the same thing. She ignored me for a long time before ending it. I really have no advice other than give yourself some time. I know you probably are still pretty emotionally fucked still but just give it some time and the feeling will go away. I think the main thing that helped me get through it was realizing how shitty she treated me together. There's really no excuse for how she treated you. I had to go through the same unacceptable shit. Hopefully one day she'll learn to treat someone properly. There's girls out there who will treat you better who are everything and more that she is.... I hope this is some help


A big part of me wants to send her a letter. FOR MYSELF. Saying the things I did wrong.