Long time lurker finally had to make a thread for some input from others who may have found themselves in my position. I'm engaged with the love of my life. Total soul mates we can read each other's mind. We have an openish relationships. I.e. A few three ways a few swinger things etc. All pretty casual and until recently all our 3ways have been with a guy. So I work with this chick. Really cool and we hit off instantly chemistry commonalities etx etx. After have a few discussions with my fiancé she gave me the go ahead and we all had a good ol sexy time together. Thursday and Friday and Saturday morning(we all fell asleep in her bed woke up for another round then went out and got breakfast). So Sunday I'm text battling the other girl and she's very into it. Dirty stuff. Now at work today she wants to talk and says she really likes both of us but it's a lot for her to digest. She wants things to go back to the way they were(we were become very fast friends she could tell me anything etx). That's cool. But she also says she doesnt want to say anything won't happen again she had a really fun time but she doesn't want any expectations like it will happen all the time or everytime we hang out. So in other words she's sending big time mixed signals now. I've been playing it cool because honestly I like sleeping with her and I like spending time with her but she is 3rd in my life and my fiancé is #1 and 2. However I am confused as to how I should proceed. Should I take her word for how she's feeling or just proceed on? I'm 50%positive if I just make a move whenever I can deal the deal again but I don't want her to think it's just about that. Also this is new to me everyone else we've slept with was more casual not on our lives but I see and talk to her everyday. In addition I am concerned I am going to fuck shit up with my fiancé. We talk about everything and she says she is cool with it and I haven't crossed any line she's set but part of me has a big fear that I will unintentionally cross it. I honestly want both in my life because they are both amazing but if my fiancé told me to stop talking to the other girl id drop her like it is hot. Anyone have any insight? Ever dealt with anything like this?

This isn't really a unique situation. You have a girl that you've bonded with and she knows that she will never be first when it comes to you. Basically, she's the other woman. You just need to let her process the situation that she's in. How you do that is be normal. Treat her the way that you've always treated her and she'll be back for more.

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Who would you drop? The fiance or the co-worker?

Anyway, what Jack said.

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Drop the co worker for sure. Basically talked about it with everyone involved and I'm just gonna focus back on my relationship with my fiancé. Anything else is just too confusing. Too many emotions and shit not worth dealing with. Fun experience but not worth the stress. Thanks for the advice. I'm just going to keep doing me.