You acted a pathetic mess. Nothing PUA about it. You gamed yourself right out of a relationship.

You acted a pathetic mess. Nothing PUA about it. You gamed yourself right out of a relationship.

A woman once hinted to me "so I guess you'll soon be changing your FB status to in a relationship?" and I ignored it.

I also did not get away with it.

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Classic.

Quick update:

1) Moved out of our flat
2) I'm somewhere inbetween going too much to the gym followed by partying too hard, ruining my next day hangover workouts. Need to find a balance there.

3) We exchanged the last stuff we still had from each other yesterday night. I was at the restaurant with 3 girlfriends from holiday that she does not know, and I asked her to meet me there to to the exchanges. It was a very awkward encounter, I was very anxious but apparently she was so even more than me. She was kind of confused in her speech and she didn't even look at any of the girls in the eye.

4) I have no news of how it's going with the new guy, I am obviously better off not knowing anything and just focusing on myself to be in better mental health right now. I must admit that anti-anxiety pills have played a role here but I'm trying to cut off and replace them as much as possible with workouts.


I know I should be slapped in the face and "getting your ex back" is not an option on this forum... but the fact that she was seemingly affected by the fact that I was there hanging out with other chicks makes me believe I still have a chance. I can't lie, I would still like to reconnect but I have no clue how to do that, and I just don't want to ruin everything again now that I finally managed to give her and myself some space.
We just say "hi" on campus or in the streets when we see each other (basically every other day or so), otherwise it's no contact at all.

As it should be.

If there is ever to be a re-kindling, she will let you know.

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So minding your own life works? Who knew.

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"Works" is a big word. I just stopped a well advanced hemorrhage triggered by power play and followed by extreme emotional clinginess.

She didn't write me or asked anyone about me ever as far as I know (reminder: we know 95% of the people we know in this town we both know them in common so eventually someone would have told me if she gave a mini-fuck). Anyway, we got a big rooftop party this weekend at a friend's place and we will both be there with the usual 100 people that always hang out together. For the two reasons that We both know everyone (and everybody knows our story and how it ended) and most girls are unattractive/taken I won't really be able to focus on other chicks that night. Any advice on how to keep my cool when she'll be the whole night in the same place as me? Any way I should already start reinitiating contact in that setting or is it way too soon ? (Moved out like 10 days ago, she's jumping on another dick). Last but not least, we moved in together 6 months ago because we quickly became good friends and shared the same sense of humor, maybe I should bring that initial attitude towards her now to lower her guard and then work my way out of the friend zone?
Thanks for the support guys!

Any more excuses you wanna find?

100 people and most girls are unattractive and taken? Come on man.

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I know what you mean here, but believe it or not it's the case... I was often labeled as the lucky one that got the only single hot chicks of the whole group.

Not only is it so, we all know each other and it's not gonna happen in that group of people.


This being said, anything special that I should keep in mind that night?

Move on bro. You are still torturing yourself by fucking your mind about her. Let this one go. After me every chick is second hand and i ask myself why whould i buy second hand instead of first one. Plus it s always harder to fix the things from ex relationship to find new one.

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Update:

So I happen to be part of an event organisation group (probably gonna work with these guys full time for some months after graduation) and I found out that the "ex" jumped me and asked the guy I worked with (he's an outsider of the uni) to organize some parties (included a bday party with 250 people) in order to organize HER bday party.

Idk if I make myself clear, basically when we were "together" I happened to throw some cool parties here and there. I introduced her and some other people my "partner" who has all the contacts to organize good shit and now she goes with her friends to this guy to ask him if he can make her a cool bday party like mine.

The guy being kind of a friend asked me if it was fine, because it's good business for him but he wouldn't want a disappointed partner. I told him to say that he asked me because he had to as he knows we have history, but that I said it was fine.

Ofc it's not fine at all for me. It's totally "fake it till you make it". This party is gonna be a blast with all of the 200 people I know from uni, and I won't go. It makes me so angry she is organizing it with an association I'm part of and she just "jumps over me" to get to the guy to make her party.
I thought I was moving on (the gym and pills helped me stay calm and eat again), but now I feel like at square one again...

So you were not cool with it but you said you're cool with it, and now are complaining that in fact you're not cool with it?

Would life not be easier if you just fucking stayed true to yourself?

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Well, I think it was his job to tell me she asked him to organize her party, I also thought it wouldn't help my cause to put myself in there to say that I'm butthurt by the whole situation. I told him it bothered me, but I don't think that him pulling back and telling her "Hey it's bothering him so I won't do it" would
1) make me look good
2) help me? (move on, feel better about myself,...etc.)

Doesn't sound to me that you're feeling pretty good about yourself right now either.

You suffer from special snowflake syndrome. I told you before, hundreds of people and she was the only attractive one? yeah right.
And even if that were the case, then you just need to broaden your spectrum.

You're beating around the bush. You're lying to us but most importantly you're lying to yourself. You're in denial with regards to this whole situation.

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Well at that party she was the only one that interested me because as I said she's the only really good looking and most importantly it's a very "closed community" and everybody knows about us and our past.
Tonight at that famous party I told you about, the following happened (please find below the text that depicts the situation and that I am sending her tomorrow when I sober up. I know some of you guys May say I shouldn't bother and send her anything but in this case it's also affecting ME so I should let her know this is annoying me):

Hey, about last night sorry I came in a rush to you but I was really bothered by what happened with OTHER GUY coming to confront me. He said he had to talk to me and I said I didn't have anything to tell him and I acknowledged that he had you now and that I didn't want to have anything to do with him. He insisted many times and I said that i didn't have to talk to him. He then proceeded to push me with his forehead against mine which I didn't accept and told him to stay away and don't bother me with his attitude. I did not react but when the bouncers came I warned him that if he did that one more time I would put him back in his place. Then he left I think. I don't want to know and I don't want anything to do with your story between you and him but please control your guy because I don't want to be bothered again at 5 a.m when I am just dancing with my friends and having a good time.
I hope you're doing good. Best,


also after this happened I had so much adrenaline I went to her and told her "so your guy came and did THIS to me (imitate his head pushing gesture). I don't know if you sent him or not but please control your guy"
She answered "ok" she seemed frightened because I was extremely mad (maybe a bit drunk too, so was she). Anyway, I think I shouldn't have done that but I was really bothered that not only it's hard for me to move on on my own but I also get this guy to provoke some reaction from me.
Anyway, I'm proud that at least I didn't break his face despite still going to her and making this "mistake". I think he is feeling insecure about me and this is a compliment I guess.
Best,
Theberry