I got out of a long term relationship several weeks ago. Worked on myself and am happier than ever before. Grew my business, invested into myself and improved as a person. Went on some dates, had plenty of fun with women being interested but here's the deal. I have been going out on dates with this girl who I find extremely attractive - both physically and personally. We have a great connection, I met her friend, we're both into each other. Had a brief conversation how she thinks of me as a boyfriend material. Even though I've been single for just several weeks I have been impressed enough to consider giving it a go.

Now - the issues. We're both extremely busy and get to see each other 2-3 times a week at most. She is moving to London in September (it's almost certain) which is about 1h flight away from Dublin where I am based. I really like her, would like to get serious - she's in the same frame of mind but there's that.

I am meeting her tomorrow and we're supposed to have a chat about this situation. To be honest I don't want to think as far as September, I am enjoying her company and I want her to be exclusive. I want to enjoy and live in the moment. How do I approach this tomorrow and is there something I am missing her? I don't feel desperate to make it work but I definitely see something special in her.

Any advice? Give it a go or don't.

You need to know what you want first before asking advice on how to go about it. It seems like you're asking us what you should want. Think with the end-goal in mind and work your way backwards.

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Sounds like you already know bro. You've listed way more positive things about this whole situation and seem willing to invest. Also, 2-3 times a week is a healthy amount of hang times for a new relationship. Maybe just talk it through with her a little but don't make any major decisions. September is still a long way to go. A lot can happen in that time frame. See how the next few weeks go, and keep checking in.

Relationships that you make a "choice" to be in like that usually don't work. It's like trying to force yourself to take a shit. Just doesn't really work.......

You shouldn't even be talking about this type of shit with a girl. Dodge the conversation. She likes you cause you're a player. Not cause you're some pussy who's gonna go all exclusive on some chick he just met. You need to not let her change you with the flip of her hair like that. Stay the player and she'll stay in love.

Relationships need to just "happen." Where you and her are both at a time in your lives where being in a relationship with each other makes sense. You don't "talk about them" and "plan them out." If you do, you're heading straight for failure.

Relationships are not logical. Stop thinking like such a typical online dating nerd.

And have you slept with her already? If not, you shouldn't even be thinking about a relationship with her. End of story.

Magic nailed it I think. You've only known each other a few weeks. You don't know shit about each other.

But lets be real about WHY you posted it as a problem.

Your questioning it in the 1st place should be a giant red flag don't you think?

I'm guessing you do however believe she's very hot, and ginormous fun in the sack.

So if you place this giant 'relationship' chastity belt over the whole thing you'll have some protection on your investment. So nobody else starts tapping that ass.

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That is true, I suppose I wanted to know what to say/do as she brought it up saying how she thinks I'm a boyfriend material. I really am enjoying her company and all the perks. We are going to keep on hanging out, spending quality time and having quality sex - I'll see where we are in another few weeks time.

Heywood Jablowme Correct, I am not into sharing my women. She's definitely in the top 3 of the hottest girl I've been with (if not the hottest) but she also is fun and good company. I am not very worried about her finding somebody else but long term I can imagine her as my girlfriend because she's the kind of girl you're proud to walk side by side with.

Magic is right.

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I can't add anything better than the advice already given. However, you have a red flag.

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Very interesting read. I'd like to think I am approaching this with an open mind but you guys are right. It's very soon to get committed and make it official. Attraction is there, I am having fun and that's what I really care about. I have options, there are other women talking to me and messaging me and it definitely adds value and she's aware of it (and no I wasn't even telling her but women have approached me while we were out on a date - out of the blue).

Thanks for the reality check and cooling me off. I'll keep doing what's working as see where it goes.