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PostPosted: Tue Apr 05, 2016 7:12 am 
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Lately guys, I've been depressed - after dealing wirh it for a long time I be just accepted that's how my mind works... I'd be glad to PM someone about it. I'm interested in your opinion as to how to get rid of it


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Do you really think that a bunch of guys on a pickup forum are the best people to seek help for mental health issues?

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PostPosted: Tue Apr 05, 2016 7:23 am 
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Women are not the answer to your problems. Despite what one may think, they cannot make you happy. You need to find meaning in your life -- a direction, a purpose. Depression is often a symptom of a greater problem.

Like JackZero mentioned, you're on the wrong forum buddy.


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What fuels your decisions? Your mind.

So how do you change the mind? You change the thoughts.

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“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”

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Practice it.

I used to be extremely lazy as well. Same exact story you wrote here. I changed my diet, started getting more sun, stopped masturbating and watching porn. taking cold showers and things changed. These things don't effect everyone, some people went through experiences that have created their motivation. However these things do hinder many.

Many of the process chemicals and preservatives in our food set the chemical foundation in the body for laziness.

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Practice the thinking, the eating, and the reduction of bad habits and you'll begin to see change. Just be aware that it can take anywhere from 3-10 months before you start seeing any noticeable differences. This is your life here, you have to be in it for the long haul.
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I feel like depression is a word people tend to through around lightly. Are you really depressed?

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That link seems to be broken...


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Talking to your doctor is the number one answer to this. Only he is going to be qualified to give you medical advice/refer you to someone to talk about/prescribe you something. Nothing you find online should be substituted for ACTUAL medical advice.

That being said, I went through a long bout of depression right around the beginning of law school that lasted for about 8 months or so. Some of the things that worked for me were:

-Exercise. Yeah yeah you're releasing endorphins and all that, but once you get into the groove it's just plain fun. If you're into it, I'm sure your local gym could be a great place to sarge/meet people, although personally I usually have my music going to block everything out so I wouldn't know lol. Plus you're going to see results over whatever period of time you commit if you go to the gym, and that can help with self esteem.

-Get a hobby. A big part of my depression came from not having much time to myself. During 1L (basically freshman year of law school) you have about 2 hours of hw a night per class. The idea is that you're supposed to commit 8 hours of studying a day plus class. When I added that up to my commuting time (another two hours out of my day) and tried to to get 6-8 hours of sleep, it basically worked out that I had no time to myself. It wasn't until I started carving time out to go to the gym and to read/write (I'm big writing on short fiction) that I began to feel a little bit better. Some other hobbies I have are listening to podcasts while I play videotapes (so I can pretend I'm doing something productive haha), sports, and photography.

-Diet. Take at look at what you're putting into your body. Log your meals on MyFitnessPal for a day or two to get a general idea, if you're seeing more junk food than meat, vegetables, and complex carbs, then it might be your diet that's contributing to how you feel. As Fat Bastard said in Austin Powers (3?) "I eat because I'm unhappy, and I'm unhappy because I eat." He also said that he hasn't seen his willy in nearly 2 years (long enough to declare it legally dead), but that's neither here nor there.

-EFT. You can try the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), which is completely safe to try on your own, although probably more effective with a therapist or experience practitioner. It works by targeting energy meridians through tapping in order to deal with past traumas, fears, and energy imbalances. Everyone is different, but I had some good results from using it.

-Gratitude. Write down 5 things that you're grateful for every single day. Do it all in a notebook or on a note in your phone. After a week it's incredible how much it adds up. Since there's no repeats, it's gets to be pretty interesting coming up with new things to be grateful for. The first few days you're usually grateful for basic stuff like your parents, home, job, being alve, etc., but once you're like 5 or 6 days out you'll be thankful for the little things, like making it to work on time, or the girl who said hi to you in line getting coffe. It's really humbling in my opinion, and it's really easy to do.

Overall, and this is just my opinion here, I feel like depression, anxiety, nervous ticks, etc. all come from imbalances somewhere in your life. Identify these imbalances (physical, social, intellectual, spiritual, emotional, etc.) and set goals to change them, and you'll be in your way back to equilibrium. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that your brain is simply 'wired' to feel a certain way. Yes, anxiety disorders exist, but why label yourself before you see a doctor? Plus, these types of disorders wax and wane as you move through life, and can even completely disappear, just like other habits. How many people on this forum thought that they were 'wired' to be AFCs and changed themselves into PUAs?

What I'll say is this: it's called 'going THROUGH depression' because there's an end to it. Talk to your doctor, enlist the aid of your friends, family and this community, and never give up, and I guarantee you'll make it through this.


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Women are not the answer to your problems. Despite what one may think, they cannot make you happy.
Sorry for interrupting, but why do you say that? I think a good woman would be my motivation. To push forward and build a good life for my future family that I will have with her. And personally, sex feels better than many drugs. I get a great feeling from just spending time with a woman as well. Also from knowing that somebody loves you.


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Women are not the answer to your problems. Despite what one may think, they cannot make you happy.
Sorry for interrupting, but why do you say that? I think a good woman would be my motivation. To push forward and build a good life for my future family that I will have with her. And personally, sex feels better than many drugs. I get a great feeling from just spending time with a woman as well. Also from knowing that somebody loves you.
A woman will not save you from an otherwise shitty life. Happiness is something you build on your own and then chose who you want to share it with. Yes, ofcourse she will add to your happiness, but she should never be the main source of it.

If your career is headed no-where and you have little or no friends, you will make this girl the center of your galaxy, and that will inheritedly bring about needy behavior on your side. You will drive her away and you'll be left with nothing.

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