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Bart. Do you remember that advice I gave you in response to your question about being sincere in your tinder profile? The advice around how to be a more interesting and generally better person? Print that out, print a few copies. Keep one with you at all times. Put one on the wall in your room and keep consulting it when you're feeling in doubt and have questions about things.
Before you start worrying about "getting laid on tinder," think about how to be a person that can talk to other people, not just girls, but people in general. If you have social anxiety and find this difficult, you may want to look into finding a counselor or a therapist that can help you out with this. Find someone who specializes in social anxiety. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has proven to be very effective when it comes to social anxiety.
Also, remember I suggested taking a class of some kind, like boxing, improv, music, martial arts, whatever. DO THAT! You will meet people and maybe learn how to be a bit more social. Start there, do that for a while, find something you like to do that involves other people and then maybe you can begin to think about talking to women for potential romantic relationships. You still got a lot of work to do. You may just wanna get off tinder completely, because it's obviously creating more anxiety in you, which doesn't seem to be helping your cause.
Do you have a sister, a mother, a cousin, a childhood friend that's a girl? Any woman in your life? If so, talk to them. Just ask them questions about how women like to be treated and talked to. Just practice talking to SOMEONE of the opposite sex. Again, it doesn't have to be for romantic purposes. Just take some small steps before you get there.
And if you're gonna go the escort route, just remember to BE SAFE, use protection, be honest and be respectful.
Yes, I do. I will print it.
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You might be right Jack, but from the way Bart is describing his life, it sounds as if he has no exposure or interactions with the opposite sex. Only he knows what's true and I don't want to talk for him. He might not get answers about how to arouse a woman by talking to his mom or sister, nor should he probably ask them about that, because gross, but it sounds like at the very least he could benefit from talking to a woman and having some female energy in his life. Maybe he'll get some insights about other things, who knows.
Bart is a "I need one more answer" type of guy. He's not making the moves because he wants to know outcomes before they happen.
I think the whole female energy thing is not important if you carry yourself masculinely and this is a major part of the problem for most men now. "Can I get laid on tinder?" It might as well be, "Can I get laid on tinder because I can't do it in real life?" I have never met a guy that gives off a masculine vibe that will ever ask if he can get laid. They can be the biggest dickheads in the world to the most introverted guys. The one thing that they do know is that they will get laid. IME, that's what female energy responds to. This is why a lot of us say that you should build attraction from the inside out. If you go the route that Bart has been taking, trying to go from the outside in, you're setting yourself up for failure. (Hope you're reading this Bart)
Yes, dont worry, I am reading. And I am not sure what you mean by "one more answer" type of guy.
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He really needs an escort.
What's the point of hiring an escort? are you saying I should do it once just to break out of my shell or are you saying I am hopeless and I should just forget girls and hire escorts?
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