But isn't that the entire purpose of getting to know me? To know what i can offer to spice up her life?

i mean, i have a wet-bar in my basement with fully-stocked liquor, and im a certified bartender. I bet this would come across as a HUGE offer. But if the girl who i was trying to meet up with decides to not "get to know me" anymore, then she's seriously missing out on a huge opportunity and there's nothing i can do about it... or is there?

Also, this girl likes to drink. A lot.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

No. You have to flash those things in front of her like a gaudy billboard. As of right now, she just knows you as some dude.
Does she like to do it alone, or when she's the center of attention?
Regardless, she has to be aware of these things, or it can't be a factor. Most guys have *very* little to offer a girl. If you don't make it clear what you bring to the table, she's not going to care to go fishing. That's usually a waste of time.

She also may not believe that you "just want to be friends" and figures you're just a pussy who can't be upfront with her. Believe me, I've had the exact same misunderstanding with women who were somewhat pretty, but I wasn't really attracted to. Most women are conditioned to think that literally every guy wants to fuck them. So if you say you can't be bothered, you must just be lying, and a pussy too.

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Alright, i'm beginning to understand. Basically, when i meet some girl, i just have to qualify myself without sounding like a try-hard.
Good question. I didn't know her that much. i showed the text conversation to some of my guy friends and they said i should erase her from my contacts and move on.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

My view is there is too much investment on your part in the exchange. Keep it lighter, tell her ur busy and invite her for a juice drink. It's tinder so it's even more of a #s game than RL. Keep honing your presentation.