New to the forum, in a LTR (14 months) and think I'm being used or cheated on, I figured I would share the Red Flags and get other opinions. Note we have Sex regularly and see each other a minimum of 6 days a week and talk everyday. She usually picks up her phone when I call and text me back quickly. She does also invite me on trips with her both Business and otherwise.

Red Flag #1 She took me home first date, just did foreplay and later admitted she had sex with another guy she dated the day after our first date, said she just wanted to see if there was something there and a week later asked me to be her boyfriend before finding this out later in a argument.

Red Flag #2 In discussing our sexual past she admitted to sleeping with male friends "as a great way to get to know them better" and had slept with over 50 guys before me, She is 26, She was also big into couch surfing community. Still talks to many of them

Red Flag #3 While she is cute she also acts masculine, owns a business in a male dominated field.

Red Flag #4 We moved in together very quickly, and later after a bunch of fights I asked her to move out and she did but she wanted to stay together and continue the relationship because she understood I was under a lot of stress and we moved in to quickly together but she would eventually want to live together again. It's been a few months but she goes through weekly day long cold/distant spells but still states she wants to stay together and work things out.

Red Flag #5 Mostly talks to me about my business contacts that could help her, always is keen and happy to discuss this but never likes discussing the relationship if it is something she is doing to make me unhappy and refuses to change these behaviors (mostly being cold and distant) (or talking to single male friends that she either once had a relationship or fling with)

Red Flag #6 Never acts jealous even knowing I have attractive (most physically more attractive than her) female friends and a couple that are interested me, also does not react when I flirt in front of her with other girls. I'm also pretty attractive and financially and professionally successful as well as she is.

Red Flag #7 Week after she moved out we were supposed to meet up another night for a event she texted me to say she is too tired later through some phone snooping I see she texted a guy that night that I never met she claims is just a friend and has a girlfriend. The day of the event she texted she would let him know what she was doing after work and the text ended there. She later introduced me to the guy after I told her I knew about it.

Red Flag #8 Several times she has stayed over she has been getting late night calls which she does not take from a guy I have met via an email intro and phone call from (professional related) out of state but says is just a friend and these calls never happened when we lived together.

Red Flag #9 Keeps condoms in her apartment when we lived together and after she moved out (We have never used them) she has never gotten rid of them she says she keeps them in case we ever might need them if we do it in a place where there could be a mess. She also used to carry a condom in her bag but stopped after I told her it made me uncomfortable.

Red Flag #10 Had a guy she once slept with years ago she claimed had a very small penis in our relationship and she just kept him as a friend. He helped her move out of my apartment. Also early in the relationship the same guy visited her from out of town for professional reasons after we had established we were in a relationship (now lives in the same town) and slept on an air mattress in her bedroom because she had roommates at the time. (we also went on some double dates together, he is actually a nice guy. So I went along because he had a date.)

Red Flag #11 A night after a fight she left my apartment and went silent the next day and did not answer her apartment door the following day or pick up her phone or respond to text until later in the evening.

Red Flag #12 Once flirted in front of me with a guy in front of me she had admitted to having sex with twice in the distant past. Got defensive when I called her out on it then admitted it was 5 times and only for sex as she was never interested in him. Later apologized and said she regretted doing that to me.

I stopped reading and just started counting red flags.

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And those are thing things you actually know of... I cringed when I read this. 50 people...? Got Damn...

The older I get, the less I want my lay count to actually be. I don't think I've had 50 (51 including u - btw 50 sounds like a pretty nice round number) and it's already difficult to remember them all...

Op how does it feel to have a relationship with slut?

I do not even fuck her without condom, cuz infection risk.

if i were you, i d check myself for fucking elisa test.

How tight is her pussy?(just for curiosity)

Sorry dude but drop it like is hot, even she is hot.

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Good god, why are you even bothering with this woman?

How tight a girl is has very little to do with how many guys she's fucked and a lot to do with genetics.

@OP:

She seems to be a very sexually open person. Are you sure she even wants a relationship?

Not that it even matters because her behavior certainly doesn't indicate she does. Which makes me wonder, why the hell have you allowed this as far as counting 12, TWELVE red flags?

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But to the issue, for the OP to put up with this woman he has no other options in his life, and no self respect and no standards.

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Only the most desperate of men would tolerate being treated as an emergency dick.

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Not really 12 red flags:
Ok...so she slept with you the first night and banged another dude when she was single.

The red flag here for cheating isn't really the number, more so that she still talks to them.
Not a red flag

Not a red flag. YOU asked her to move out.
Again, the red flag is talking to ex flings
Not being jealous is not a red flag

Red flag
Red flag
If condoms were missing that would be a red flag.


Kinda red flag, will explain later
Dunno...this is less than one day of her ignoring you after a fight. Could be she was getting dick, could be she wanted space.

The real red flags look to be she is still cool with dudes she's slept with. You guys see each other a minimum of 6 days a week (WHY?!?). Best case scenario is she's sexually open, was into casual hookups with friends which didnt mean nything to her,and now is in a committed relationship. Medium scenario, is she flirts with these friends but not further. Bad scenario is she sleeps with other dudes.

What's glaring and simple though, is you guys just arent a good fit either way. You have a problem with her sexual history, and you dont like that she keeps these guys as friends. You dont have 12 red flags, but if there are 12 things you see as red flags, it means you're not a good match. Some of this is just your own insecurities, like her job and her not being jealous. The flirting can be a red flag, but you admitted you do it as well. This cannot be a healthy relationship with the snooping and all the bs. All your red flags boil down to is she's fucked 50 dudes, and she fucked friends. Regardless, you dont trust her. So move on. All of your points are just linked to her sexual openess; these kinda suspicious things will always be there with a chick who is friends with ex flings. You have a lot of examples, but none deeper than she talks to dudes. You've checked her phone, see her talking to a dude, but not meeting up. I'd think with the snooping you'd find something more solid; as it stands its all just suspicions dealing with her and her lifestyle. Which is why you shouldnt have picked her in the first place if you couldnt handle it. So, best to find someone you dont have a list of 12 red flags on. I really wanted you to say "the condom from her purse was missing" or "she was supposed to meet some guy and that day she went missing on me." Dont get me wrong, she could be cheating, but again, this is just the way a relationship looks when you pick a woman who has had 50 dicks and who still is cool with ex flings. So its tough to distinguish whether she is cheating or not.

Move on man.

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She is not interested in a "healthy" seriously relationship.... I would stop wasting my time with her or just keep her as a FB right now... but seriously she is not wife material...

What exactly are you looking for tho OP? Are you looking for a serious relationship?