Little bit of background info... First met this girl in history class last semester. She sat next to me the whole semester, but we said little to each other the whole time. About half-way through the semester she added me to her friend's Facebook as she didn't have one. Instead of taking advantage of this, I continued to be my shy little self and barely spoke to her. Just before the semester ended, she created her own Facebook and I added her as a friend. Instead of asking in class, I asked over Facebook if she wanted to cheat on the last essay of the semester with me and some other people. She agreed, and I got her number when she called me telling me she was done with her part. We talked a little from then on, and I sent her a little funny text in class on the last day. A few days later, her "boyfriend" at the time messaged me on Facebook and told me to stop talking to her and that she thought I was a stalker and all this other bullshit. I told him it wasn't worth my time to get involved with the drama, and I stopped talking to her after that.

Recent events: Turns out my roommate and another buddy of mine are in her Biology class this semseter. They became friends with her, but both have girlfriends. They asked her about the message her boyfriend sent me, and she said she had no idea and wondered why I stopped talking to her. I guess she was a little upset about it. She has another boyfriend right now, a kid who used to work where I work (A&F) but I didn't know him. She has befriended both my buddies on Facebook.

Now I'm not sure how I can get back into this. I think initially she was interested, then lost it as time went by and I didn't speak much with her. What is the best way to start talking with her again? Should I have my friends invite her to a party if we ever have anymore (we've had some noise complaints already)? I'm not sure what the best approach would be...

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Well I'd treat it as a lost cause and move on, but if I were you it wouldn't hurt to tell her the truth in person, ask her out to lunch or something and explain it to her then just leave it there. If you already truly accepted that it's a lost cause it won't be a big deal for you what the outcome is and you won't wory about it when speaking to her but just tell her what happened, it can only get better from there and it's better than not saying anything. Good luck!

easy..
if u still have her on face book just be cool and msg her saying long time no chat.. or w.e then when she replies... go i saw u in the halls or where-ever and i was trying to think why i stopped talking to u and i couldn't remember why but i remember when we did talk i had a lota fun.. we should chyll sometime i know it'd be fun.. then go if that's ok with your boyfreind..
and most of the time the girl will say yes.. this has been feild tested.. different situations but basiclly the same idea..
good luck..

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I sent her a message on Facebook inviting her to a party my buddy is having (one that is in her class), here is how the messages went:

Me Her response Best I could hope for, really didn't expect much different. Kinda surprised she added that at the end, as I didn't bring up her ex or his message at all. I know she probably won't show tomorrow night, but it was worth inviting her. There will be plenty more ladies to mingle with.

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Ok going by what you wrote, This girl clearly liked you and was attracted from the start. And she is still interested and sees you as having BF potential. Even if she doesn't think this, its a good thing to see it that way.
Also its good that her ex seen you as a threat. It means youre doing something right. You hav'nt done a whole lot wrong here, yes you may took a set closer to LJBF's, but its still game on here. Just keep yourself on the 'potential lover' road, rather than in the 'friends' category.

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