I met this cute girl at this dance a few weeks ago and she was interesting and she asked me to facebook her at the end of the dance which I took as an IOI so I facebooked her and left messages. She then showed little interest so I took her as one of my failures and left it at that. Recently last week I left a message as a last ditch attempt to get any response be it positive or negative before I removed her from my friends list. Here's our history of convo on facebook.



Me :: I usually forget names but I actually remembered yours, I don't know why I guess Hover was easy to remember. Anyway It was nice meeting you. You danced pretty well but you weren't the best I danced with tonight but you were good enough to remember. Next time I'll teach you some moves Anyway, I have something cool to show you sometime if you are interested but it's a one time offer since I have a lot of work this week. Let me know

Charlie

(the next day)
Her::yeha i have a lot of work this week too .. four test! eeck!

(2 days later)
Me::good luck on your tests, I hope you test negative, but if you don't, don't beat yourself up, they give pills for most things. good luck, and don't share so much next time, i don't know you nearly well enough for those details yet


she never responded after that so I left it at that until now.

(4 weeks later/ 5 days ago)
Me::I never bothered to ask.... until now...why, did you ask me to facebook you if you never intended to be a friend and at least make convo? LOL..why should i keep you?

- Chaz

(just now)
Her::i had asked you to friend me because at the time you seemed very nice.. but the past two messages you made fun of my dancing and then made me feel guilt fr asking to be your friend.. that ot the most inviting conversation starter

(Just now/my response)
Me::
First, my dancing sucks too ( I was just kidding with you, I wasn't being serious, it wasn't my intention to insult you.), Second I'm sorry I appear mean I'm really not, I guess my sense of humor can appear mean and thats my fault. Third I didn't want to be "another number" on your friends list I've had some girls say "oh facebook me!" in the past and that was the last I heard from them. so I was kinda mean about that because I thought thats what this was about, i'm sorry. If you want to delete me thats fine. But I honestly didn't mean to insult you i was just teasing. To be honest I thought you were really nice at the dance too or else I wouldn't have facebooked you.


- Chaz

I guess negging doesn't work for some girls or maybe I over negged. What do you guys think? Any help would be great. I already moved on and took her as a lost case so Im not too worried.

The power of negs fluctuate greatly from girl to girl, and even more drastically when you are online IM'ing each other. You better get to know her first and know her tolerance level for playful jabs at her before negging.

But I feel you. When I first started, I blew out quite a few girls just because I negged them too hard. Then again, some girls seem to like it---the more the better---so you just need to get a feel for their personality and go with it...carefully.

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When online i never neg the target as they don't see or hear what your tone of voice or body languege. That can only work after an establish phone conversation has happened then they know you are just being "yourself" and wont take offence. Sounds like you need to start over on this one. Two steps forward and one step back..

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yea but were my responses ok? What about my last response. What else should I say?

Well you want an honest answer or an answer that won't sting?

I think that about answers your question.

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yea your last response....not too god bro..without stinging you too bad, that last message was AFC and a major DLV i think...

I knew when typing the message that I would DLV myself. That is the whole point, if a girl feels insulted you DLV yourself so she doesn't feel too intimidated and you start from square one and then pull away and DHV a little bit more if she continues to talk to you, I'm still reading Mystery's handbook but thats what I got out of it, obviously the negging didn't work so I went two steps back and apologized, If I had continued to play cocky/funny with her she would have gotten fed up or thats what I sense from her message so I intentionally DLV'd myself to show her I can be "nice" and im not a jerk since she was obviously looking for a "nice" guy. I'm pretty sure I showed her enough confidence. Guys if it sucked then please give me some help, I could use it. I understand this is most likely a lost cause so i'm not trying too hard but i'm trying to learn from my mistakes and I want to know what "should" I have done.

Yeah some girls love Negging. Its easy to tell the girls who love Negging because:

A) They will neg you back
B) They will shit test you

Now when she told you about the test. It sounded like a cry for help. I have alot of friends in college and most of them hate studying and especially test.

Next time if they situation arises like that again with another chick.

"Wow 4 test. I bet your really stressed out. You should let me take you out to relieve some of that stress."

I would leave it at that. The best stress reliever is sex. I think almost everyone knows that. And I have gotten dates around mid-term and final exam time from women because they needed a break from studying. They won't come out and say it but if you offer there 75% of the time going to take you up on their offer. If you do take them out do something relaxing. No drinking unless its wine and its over dinner. Best thing I suggest is cook for her. Ask her to help you cook. You will be suprise what things you can do while cooking or waiting for the food to finish cooking. Maybe while your waiting offer a massage.(Which is a excellent skill to have) If someone turns down a massage something is wrong with that person. Go for a sensual one instead of erotic/sexual massage.

They way I do a sensual massage is the same way I do a sexual massage. I just talk alot more and ask questions during a sensual massage. Ask questions that would relax the body and mind. Play some music. Sing to her if your good at singing. Play her favorite artist. Then eat your food offer dessert which should be chocolate. Cuddle while watching a movie or TV. Wait for the IOI that she wants to be kissed because she will be. She is relaxed and attracted to you. Comfort usually insures a lay.

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