Hey everyone - this is my first post and I'm only writing it because I went out sarging today - for the first time (ish).

From what I've read (which isn't that much if I'm honest) I'm a natural. I've been doing lots go the things I read about without actually realising why I'm doing it or without any motive in mind. That being said, I have issues. I've only ever had 1 girlfriend and cold approaching scares me. The few times I've done it it didn't kill me though so I suspect I can and will keep doing it.

Anyway - a quick introduction.

I'm 31 and based in Leeds, UK. I read about The Game from Neil Strauss and then bought Rules of the Game and am attempting to follow his instructions. It's really difficult though (obviously) as I'm learning new skills and behaviours. I guess my goal is to have a few different relationships and then hopefully settle down.

Anyway, my field report:
I went into Leeds and pottered about just scoping things out while I chatted to my friend on the phone. I've been following the Rules of the Game by chatting to randomers each day (not consecutively unfortunately - time is an issue) so my mission today was to Open strangers. I was told to do 3 but I only did 2. I know it's easy to sit there at your computer and say, why didn't I do 3 (and I'm doing it myself right now) but I'm taking baby steps.

My issue with the opener was that I swallowed my words and didn't make much sense either time which knocked my confidence. I got back on the horse eventually after listening to a few tracks to pump myself back up a bit.

My opener was, If a guy approached you and mistook you for his blind date would you tell him or would you go on the date? Pros and Cons would be appreciated in feedback if anyone has any thoughts. One girl (worked in a shop and I'd chatted to a few minutes) answered and another girl who I'd started talking to when I was walking down the street asked me if it was a pick up line.... (to which I could've said, it is but it isn't for you as I don't date blondes?)

I guess I failed my mission for the day but I felt more open and able to talk to girls I wouldn't have before, so although I have nothing to show for it (numbers/dates etc.) it feels like a mini win. I approached a random girl outside Boots and asked her if she was lost (constantly looking through her phone), started talking to the girl I was sat next to at a restaurant but what I really wanted to do (but didn't) was just walk up to a girl and tell her that she looked friendly and that I thought she looked hot and would she like to buy me a coffee(!). I drove past one girl and she was really cute and I thought, it's now or never so pulled a u-turn and drove back down the street but she'd gone. I was very ready to say it to her though so I guess that's progress?

I definitely feel I would do better with a wingman as it would make me feel more comfortable and I'd want to show off but I'm struggling to find one.I will mention here I have a spare room in my house and when it's ready I'm going to rent it out to someone who has similar targets to me (P.U).

Anyway, tomorrow is Monday so I'll go to the supermarket after work and wander around and try and find a girl to chat to. Hopefully with enough practice I'll get more comfortable because at the minute it's difficult to initiate and once I have all I want to do is run away!