| A little bit of background on what I've been through can be found on my first topic, read It if you want. Although I don't find It necessary before reading what I am about to say.
I got back together with my girlfriend and things were going fine up until now. Last week, she suddenly became a little distant, cold and a bit moody, and even had a talk with me about postponing sex(It never happened before), something I initially disagreed with, but we talked and in the end I was ok with it, but she changed her mind and we did have sex.
But at the end of last week and the beginning of this week, things have gotten worse. She became even more distant, cold, and extremely moody, to the point of sometimes lashing out at me for no reason at all. Now is the thing: she's says she is always busy with school work - I was cool with that - and we would rarely see each other.
The problem is last Saturday night, she said she had school work to do, but then I saw pictures of her at a birthday party with her friends, in other words, she lied to me. On Sunday, she told me she would come over, but only after she finishes her school work(funny, isn't It?), she then started doing It in the morning, and only came to my place at the end of the day and spent one hour with me saying she had to leave. I didn't complain.
Ok, she then says we are gonna see each other Wednesday(today), because she has more school work to do Monday, the problem is yesterday, she cancelled the plans we had, saying she had even more school work to do. Well, I was intrigued. I couldn't help It and I sent her a message asking: "If you don't want to see me, you could just simply say so, okay? I won't get angry", she then freaked out, said I was wrong, that I was making up things in my head, that she can't and will not stop doing her school stuff because of me(but I didn't tell her to!) and asked me If I wanted to break up(What!?).
Then I couldn't control myself and confronted her about how she lied to me(yeah, I ignored the lie at first), and that I had a reason to doubt her wanting to see me, and that's why I asked that. I also told her that I understand the situation she finds herself in, and that I have no problem with It, and even suggested to her that we should see each other only when she's done with her school stuff. She calmed down.
And now comes the interesting part: a few hours later, she sends me a message saying that the problem ALSO for her not wanting to see me is that she doesn't feel like having sex anymore, that she "stopped having sexual desire" and doesn't know why. And continued to say how stressed she has been.
I again suggested that we better see each other only when she fixes these problems, that I can't help her with It, and that If she wanted my help, she would be by my side, not driving me away like that. But It then turned yet to another very confusing argument, where she accused me of saying she only thinks about sex. It all ended with her telling me to go pick up my things at her house. I was left talking to myself.
I don't know what to make of all this. I am trying to make things work, but It's like I am doing It alone. I don't have a voice in this relationship, It looks like she wants to control It her way, I can't say anything, I can't question anything. She seems to think It's all about her and her actions don't have to be justified.
Am I wrong? What should I do? I really like this girl and I am not feeling well right now.
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