If this does happen, look at where she's coming from when she writes it because this is the most selfish thing she could do. You are going through hell because she wants to be single. If she realizes that she doesn't want to be single, it's for her well being and happiness and has nothing to do with yours.

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It is still very tough after two weeks! :/

She keeps posting pictures from her exchange and is very active on Facebook... it hurts like hell every time she makes an update or is tagged on a photo! She looks great and happy in all her pictures and she just cancelled our airbnb reservation we made some moths ago, from when I was supposed to visit her...

I have gone completely silence on Facebook and haven't contacted her once after the breakup, but I feel that I am the one who loses this break-up, by not being active on social media.... I want to let her know that I am still traveling on the 6 weeks holiday we planned this summer and that my best bud is joining for a crazy trip! I know i shouldn't be thinking like this, but I want to show her that I am over her (which I am not) and that I am doing great...

I think a lot of it boils down to the fact that my ego, doesn't want to lose this break-up since the relationship wasn't great when i think of it... I actually don't understand how I can miss her so much and why I want to get back with her so badly when she treated me like shit.

Any comments on this is received with gratitude.. Is it possible to win a break-up, when she was the one who cheated and are having fun on exchange - and if so how?

There's a saying that the best "revenge" after someone breaks up with you is to live a good life without them. Something along those lines.

OP you're still thinking in terms of her. You still want to prove shit to her and worst of all, you're still following her on social media. Why? why have you not blocked her yet? That's not something you have to do unless it affects you in a negative way, but it obviously does, so do it.

You're like the recovering alcoholic that decided he's giving up drinking. And that's awesome, but then why are you keeping the 6pack in your fridge constantly exposing yourself to it? Why torment yourself?

I want you to block/delete/unfriend her across all platforms once you finish reading this post. I feel you man, I know you don't want to do it because deep down you're still hoping she'll come running back. What if she writes but you don't get the message because you blocked her, right?
You're on the right track man, so commit yourself to it.

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Barf. How old are you dude? My guess is around 20.

The more I am in tune with my own feelings/impulses, observe other human relationships, educate myself regarding human relationships & other materials that talk about monogamy/marriage the more I see monogamy/love/marriage as man/social fabricated terms to describe things that exist only in people's heads were implemented to create order in society.

I can't tell you how many women I've met that slept with a dude, found out he is a loser, and have a baby now and he is no where in sight in the child's life. This is farrrrrr more common that the actual happy (for now) married couples I know.

You simply like this woman a lot probably because you haven't met that many and she's the only that gave you herself or fucked you well (hard to find). And yea, the depression, alcohol abuse, w/e else... I bet you're in love w/that too.

Do you know what the Bible says about marriage - having originated the idea? It is God's gift, and not for everyone. Well what are those to do who aren't given this gift? Become asexual? Since sex outside of marriage is a sin?

What the hell does the bible have to do with anything? lol.

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All the energies you're going to use becoming the Guy for her,

I m left to wonder... who will be the GUY for YOU?

what happens when she goes abroad does she turn into a pumpkin?

I know you are right! I have blocked her on everything and unfollowed her from Facebook to begin with... Thanks for your reply!

Just to give you guys an update!

My rational thoughts are beginning to kick in. I haven't contacted her since the break-up. It's been tough but it's beginning to work and I am slowly moving on!

I have had some succes with women again and I have found that it's actually not that bad afterall. I had my whole summer planned with my ex, so when i broke up with her, my boys stepped in and now we are going to central amerika for 7 weeks. No way that her treating my like shit, should stop the plans that i made!!

I have also discovered what mistakes that i made with my ex, and honestly it's my own fault that it went so far. I was a doormat, I was scared of standing up to hear, I was being needy and pushy and I stopped treating her like the way i did in the beginning! I most my goal and my determination and that will NEVER happen again. I will never let another girl be my sole focus in life and I am sure that better things are coming.

Since the last time I wrote, I have signed up to this crazy military race, where you need to be in really good shape to make it. You have to swim in cold water, go through mud, run many miles in the sand and get over different upstacles. Gonna be sick and I am getting in great fucking shape, which girls are noticing.

Finally I got a promotion on work and because I have learned that it is okay to make demands, I asked for higher salary. They accepteded and even agreed that i deserved a big pay rise, due to my newly found working moral (have been focusing on work to)

Anyway thanks for all the advice guys, I really appreciated every one of them Now I am going to head out tomorrow and get the hot girl from class, that has been checking my out the last couple of weeks!

Congrats dude.

See? It ain't all bad. I've had a poisonous relationship once and it ending was one of the best things that ever happened in regards to my personal growth.

Keep at it.

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