We see posts in here a lot of times from guys in bands who are using playing a show as the crutch and as the only time they are able to meet new women.

I suspect the same has happened for you when it comes to this bar.

For example if you were to meet a woman somewhere other than the bar and you ended up getting with her, and then the next day you were to go in to this bar, your demeanor would probably naturally be a whole lot different than it may have been without having been with the woman the day before.

You would see that you don't have to rely on the bar for a damn thing, and you would be there because you want to be there.

HOWEVER, I don't feel like the people at this bar are treating you that great. On the other hand, maybe you're not putting out fun vibes when you're there, that I do not know.

From what you've said if it were me I would stop going there, or at least stop until I realized I didn't need to go there but rather that I genuinely wanted to go there.

Relying on one venue can quickly spiral as opposed to being open to expanding your social life everywhere you go.