I'm currently stuck in a very strange situation. I've recently met a girl at work and i was never really sure of what to think of her, we work on the same level, we can see eachother but we cannot talk due to having to work constantly. If she got the chance to drop by she'd be very talkative with my co-workers, but barelly with me. I noticed that from the start, everywhere i went she'd be eyeballing me, if she'd drop by, she'd say nothing but she'd be hanging at my desk. After a while i decided to break the ice and call her in to help me fix some issues with work, after my shift i dropped by and thanked her for the help, complimented her eyes and left while smiling at her. she said thank you and kept smiling back while holding eye contact.

2 days later, i come home and see that she added me on facebook even though we never really spoke. I'm assuming she is interested but that she is shy.

the biggest issue is that i have no time to flirt at work because i simply don't have the time, and honestly, my job > everything else.

Should i invest in talking to her on facebook after work, or is facebook in general just a horrible way to communicate? I'm very good with body language, so i feel like it'll cripple me a lot.

Another factor is that she has a boyfriend, but a friend who is dating this girls best friend told him that she is no longer interested in the relationship because they are too different and that he's a legitimate whiny partypooper.

Edit: decided to just go for it since i have nothing to lose tbh. Not sure how the conversation went but guess it was okay. since i knew jackshit about her and remembered me complimenting her, i kinda used that. The conversation went as following.

Me: Hey x, you happen to have a twin sister around?
Her: I'm afraid not, why?
Me: I'm still fascinated by your eyes, having to hold a telescope at 20m might come across as creepy. It's easier if i could put her next to me.
Her: No sadly not, i'm very sorry!
Me: Np, i'll find a way! How does it feel like to supervise 15 new recruits?
Her: Very nice! i actually enjoy doing it a lot! (type's another msg 4 times but stops)
Me: Yeah i can tell. Seems everyone is knocking your door, probably for another reason, but you're a great help.
Her: Thank you
Her: I don't think it's for another reason, there's plenty more good looking girls on the floor. (Didn't expect her to assume this, tried going for a mystery, push/pull route)
Me: Complimentday (something we have here) was actually last week, but i'll make an exception for today. You do have something that stands out, but i can't figure out what exactly.
Her: What do you mean by standing out?
Me: I might be a bit too direct, my apologies!
Her: No, not at all! I really like that, i'm the same way aswell

Let me tell ya something I learned bro. You are over thinking it. She is in to you. Walk up to her say: can I cak you a question? When she says yes strait up ask her "when can I take you out for a drink?"
If she says no then you know she isn't interested if she says yes, I'm guessing she will, then you know. If you like this girl find time bro don't let work rule your life. Even if all you have time for is one drink after work take it.

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Definatly good advice which i'd follow on instinct aswell. Thing is that people where i live tend to be quite conservative, it takes some form of connection or bond even if it's small before girls will say yes. I'm also working next to a really good looking girl that brings me food every day and wanted to go out with me some day, thing is that i managed to build a ton of rapport with her whilst also being flirtatious so being confident isn't really my issue. It's more that this girl is different then the one i go out with, more quiet and conservative while the other one is very spontaneous and open.

Since i've already pretty much opened her on facebook, i'll go ahead and invite her for a drink tommorow though. Do have to prepare a decent comeback if she mentions the fact she still has a boyfriend though, i'll probably figure out tommorow morning.

Girls like to think they are conservative but nothing is more exciting to a girl than a cute guy hitting off with them from the start.
Shy girls are hard I can tell you that much. As for the boyfriend problem if your friend is right she won't say anything about it. If she does bring him up let her know your more fun then he is anyway or something to that effect. If you can get her to bad mouth her boyfriend to you your in

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You're probably right. She doesn't play hard to get, but never said anything out of herself so i had to readjust my strategy for the time being. all other girls asked me a question because i was new and i hit of very well with all of them. because her and i never spoke but she kept playing the eye contact game, i decided to play along and eventually broke the ice as i mentioned before. From all my past experiences, i never managed to cold approach a shy/quiet girl and get her on a date with me. every time i did build comfort with some slightly added attraction they went along with going on a date. I believe these type of girls always need some form of validation.
Anyways, i'll make another post when i'm back from work tonight to let you know how it went.

You're trying to jump from start to finish. And sure, if she's crazy into you it will work. But most of the time it won't. People are very attached to their comfort zone and don't particularly enjoy stepping out of it.

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Haha, oh man, i really hope i did right.

So i followed the advice i got and asked her for a drink. I waited a little bit till the SPAM was right (we work with a smaller team during 5-6 pm). I had a hard time asking her because everything felt so strange, i cannot explain why. We never had a personal talk, she again didn't say a word that day, but acted super energized around me, still didn't talk to me. She'd laugh if i told a joke to my co-worker, but we never ever talked, super strange! Anyhow..

she walked past me so i called her name and said i had something to ask her, she came to me and then i asked her if she wanted to go out for a drink this weekend, that's when things started to get a bit strange.

She started smiling and sat next to me, didn't say a word for 5 seconds and then said, i really can't because i have to work tommorow and i'm going to the sea. (She didn't lie). I for some reason froze up a bit and didn't try to ask to go for a drink before she had to work, or try figure out her schedule to make a plan. Anyhow, after that we had some small talk and she just kept standing up, walking around me, and laying her head on my desk, not giving me eye contact when we'd talk. After that i just turned around to my co-worker, invited him for a night out on saturday and he agreed to join me along with a few others. (kinda did this to show rapport). For some reason i did mess up and said something like ''we can always see if you have time during the week''. I did act as if i didn't mind like still being normal to her, build more rapport with friends and eventually went back to work because i felt akward AF. Thing that came across my mind is that she never ever mentioned her boyfriend either.

Hope i didn't mess up too much, i have honestly no clue on what to do next. I told her she could still make up her mind till tommorow. Only reason i'd wanna talk to her again would be to make a more comfortable approach, only issue is that i don't wanna beta out too much by being needy. I feel this had more potential and that i could make a date.

Like I said, jumping steps.

I don't particularly get this "just ask her out" ideology prior to forming any kind of connection. I mean really, why would she?

There's a difference between her being curious about you and her being interested in you. Laughing at one of your jokes doesn't qualify as interest.

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Problem is, i don't get the chance to really build up because she acts very differently around me, i can alpha the fuck out of the other girls who are being drooled all over by other guys, but not this girl. If she viewed me as a normal co-worker, i'm sure she'd talk to me because she does the exact same thing with everyone else, excluding me. I never gave her wrong impressions, or said something bad too ruin everything. it was always fun and she laughed every time, but still can't get to talk to her personally.

It just occurs to me, that if she was interested, you'd likely know it.

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I honestly think she does, just now she sent me a cut picture of her eyes because i told her earlier today they looked great. On facebook she talks pretty open, but at work i feel like she plays a game where she wants me to chase her around. I had not realised this, but i wonder if she's a bit protective because i'm gaming the other girls really hard. It just happends naturally and i never thought of this before.

It could be that she is tying to remain somewhat professional at work. You have her number?

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That's the thing, she comes down to my workplace, sits at my desk while being a bit teenager like with the other folks except me, she's the type of person that gets along with everyone else. Like, if i were to be meant nothing to her, she'd definatly have casual talk with me, but i think she's somehow trying to get my attention. I get along with every single co-worker, we laugh a ton and have mass amounts of fun, i even have a very close band with my boss. What stops her from just normally communicating with me?

I don't have her number yet, but she took initiative to add me on facebook without me ever asking or mentioning it (so she manually searched my name to find me, she didn't even know my lastname either). I just took a leap of faith to get her number tho, said i was going to go out, left my number, told her to text me & that it'd be cool to get to know her better.

Also, earlier that day, i told her i could feel that her self confidence was pretty low, she said it was and yet when she's around me, she acts surprisingly self confident and energetic.

Meaningless.
Living the fantasy that she may like you, isn't better than taking the chance to find out for real. About time Bro, now get her out, get her back to your place. You got her number but remember a close ain’t a close unless she is getting out of her CLOTHES!

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Why else would you add someone you haven't talked to before? It makes no sense.

Don't forget, she does have a boyfriend, i think it's the reason she might be acting up a bit. I did ask her out for this weekend but she had to work late tonight, early tommorow and goes on a small holiday after. And when my co-worker asked her why she said no, she said, well it's very hard for me to get to there when i have to work late and leave right after. Kinda felt like she wanted to but couldn't, she also never mentioned anything about having a boyfriend.

Also, what should i do with texts tho? Her weekend is planned so i can't go straight to that, is there a good way to build rapport? I normally hate texting, but if it has it's use, i'll definatly go for it.

Btw, i'm not trying to justify her actions in a positive way, just trying to understand the situation/signals.