how to get confidence and friends?

im mostly last picked, and i never go out in the weekends cuz i dont have anyone to go out with.

at school i sometimes see girls checking me out and stuff sometimes, i just always manage to screw up for some reason if yall are PUA's then id be a SUA.. Screw Up Artist
it happens when i start talking, girls see im not confident even when i try to be confident.
im not enjoying conversations most of the time. i think its bullshit. im just pretending like i care and ppl notice i guess

i have also got a bad reputation, i mean. im always nice and sincere to everyone but it kinda makes me sick to be like that all the time. so after a while i stop and people think im letting them down. and the start disliking me.
and i act like i dont care, which is kinda true but people just think im an asshole.
so i end up being lonely.
when girls ask people that "know me" about me, they always tell them im a loser or something.

thats about it. im a loner, i do have a 2 good friends, but not at school. those people are cool, one of them is a natural i learn a lot from him.

i also have a girlfriend, who i love a lil and trust a lil. shes hot though but she lives far away.

i just want a lil help

grtz and all the best of luck to all of you
stekemrt

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Your losing the race already with your attitude man.Because you feel people think of you as a loser you automatically act like a loser, and your body language will also reflect this.I think if you wanna be more open to meeting new people use alpha body language.Theirs tons of great books out their on body language, so pick one up and get cracking.You might feel a bit of a loner now, but trust me, soon you'll be looking back on this period of your life laughing.The guys labeled as "losers" happen to be the guys that master the game; eg.Style, Mystrey, DeAngelo, Tyler Durden and so on.So cheer up, UR NOT A LOSER!!!

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Treat dem mean to keep dem Keen
Nice guys finish Last.Start your Evil-lution

Do you know what an AFC is?

Average frustrated chump.

If you didnt knew that....well, that would explain the attitude. Dude if you keep thinking like that your life is going to be miserable....You need to slap yourself and start thinking positive.

Whats your favorite sport?
And your favorite team?
And your favorite palyer?
What if your favorite player says:

"Uhhh....Im gonna screw up this game.....I just screw up everything"

How do you think he would play with that kind of thougts?
Im sorry to say this, but someone has to:

GROW SOME FREAKING BALLS!!!

You are your worst enemy. Why even bother to aproach a girl if you are sabotaging yourself?

I agree with beaker, read some PUA stuff. I bet you havent read anything. Am I wrong?

You have to be proud of having the courage to ask for help....that speaks well about you.

hey man, read "the game" by neil strauss. That will get you started and keep posting on here, guys on there are pretty good about helping each other out. I haven't run into any rude people yet so long as you don't say dumb stuff. Also e-mail me or even IM me if you have questions, that should be in my contact info, if not AIM: coolchaz0426. Let me know if I can help. I mean I'm only 3 months into PUA but it sure helps a lot and it's changed my outlook on everything. I use to be really shy and quiet and still am at times but thats natural and I know i'm confident. but I found that at times that I'd have no friends to go out with, or they'd all be busy or something. I'm in college so I'd say screw it and go out alone to parties or dances, movies, events ect. with a cool attitude and I'd meet at least 1 or 2 new people each time. That is one way to really build your friend circle, you don't need other people to hang with to go out, sure i'd be nice but you don't need it just go out there and be the confident self you can be and don't "give a damn" about what people think of you thats none of your business just have fun and people who judge or criticize others outloud because of their own insecurities and lack of confidence. If you are ever insulted or called out, just point out one of their insecurities to put them in their place. Have that attitude and you will be golden and will have friends and soon enough girls calling you in no time. Contact me if you need help or just keep posting. Good luck bro!

thanx dude!
you know im quiet and shy too
but i can also be talking to a big group really well..
it all depends on how i feel

and i cant control it.. yet

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

The way I've improved my confidence is by talking to everyone I meet. I travel a ton and I used to only talk to people I thought I'd feel comfortable with. Now, I talk to pretty much everyone. What this does is that it removes your preconceptions of people and thus prevents you from judging them by their looks. That's what it did for me anyway because once I started talking to all these people, I'm not as nervous around attractive people because I know that underneath their good looks, they're just like me. Hopefully this works the same way for you and gives you confidence. Go out there and socialize!