Hi, I'm writing for the first time, so please excuse my newbishness.

I met a beautiful girl tonight while walking into the bar in my hotel. She apparently had gotten there right before I had, and pulled up to the bar in between two seats. I told her that she had to pick a seat and couldn't have both, which led to some banter between us. I did the cube on her (which she said she had never done) and after some conversation and light kino for about 10 minutes I took her to a wine bar next door. I found out that she was a doctor, and at the wine bar we talked for another 15 minutes before she asked me "where are we going?" I told her that we were going to whoever's room at the hotel was on the highest floor, and she agreed, but before leading me to her room we stopped to get another beer at the original bar. There, I learned that she had just gotten engaged about two weeks ago, so I smiled and congratulated her before trying to continue escalating the kino. After finishing the drink she led me upstairs to her room which is where things got weird...

...I went to use the restroom and after I got out I layed on her bed and showed her a Youtube video that
i thought was hilarious. She cuddled up with me and laughed about it, but afterwards mentioned that she needed another drink. I said "Cool, I'll grab a bottle of wine at the bar," and went downstairs to get the wine. When I came back upstairs, she seemed to have cooled down and was no longer interested in finishing the night with a bang. I didn't push the issue, but said goodbye and wished her well.

Please give me some tips on what I could have done to create a better situation, and how to learn from this.

-Chris

...uh oh. She just hit me up on snapchat and said "Wait, come back." I'm not going back. Win or fail?

Should have room serviced the wine.

Could have invited her to your room if you didn't want to go back.

Dude. She wanted a fling before getting married.

You should have pulled your dick out.

You should have gone back after getting that snap chat. She would have opened the door, and you would have gone in and started taking off your shirt without saying a word.

This is what she wanted. She wanted to fuck you, and be done with you forever.

Oh my god why did you not go back?

Fucks sake.. sometimes I just don't get it.

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^^^^ WORD!

Don't let us deflate yourself OP, we are merely giving our opinions. You did what you thought was best at the time. Onward and upward my friend.

Yeah, I can see that I pretty much sabotaged myself on this one. One problem I had is that I didn't know a good way to dismiss the fiancee issue...I just had no idea what to say about it to put her at ease. I tried to just ignore it, but I feel like she needed some kind of reassurance from me.

You didn't have to "put her at ease". And she wasn't looking for reassurance, she was looking for an out to let loose and blame it on "it just happened". You really should have room serviced that wine.

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I still have this problem sometimes when dealing with girls. A lot of the time, you have to strike when that iron is hot. You likely won't get another shot if you miss that window.

The reassurance she wanted from you was to make her feel sexy.

She appeared to be looking for sexy time but we weren't privy to the facial expressions and voice tonalities she was using which caused you to not want to go back to her room. Don't beat yourself up man. Take what you can learn from this experience and move forward.

Depending on your perspective, you're more of a man than I am because any time a woman tells me she is engaged or married I immediately friendzone her (or has she just done the same to me).