UPDATE: Hey guys, so I followed your advice and have been focusing only in having fun with her and things were cool(good sex, connection, etc.).
Today however she liked a photo from her ex on fb, I sent her a text saying i wanted to talk about something and she freaked out, asking me whats wrong. Then we met and when I said what bothered me, she said: "really?? I liked the photo because he appears with his brother when they were little and i think its cute, it doesnt mean anything else..we already talked about my ex thing and it bothers me that you bring it up again..you are too jelous and I have a feeling your jelousy will fuck things up in the future, so I dont know.."
I said that Im not really jelous guy, but liking a photo of the most recent ex, who had been hitting on her, isnt precisely a nice thing to see. She said that he didnt hit on her after they broke up (months ago she told me he did) and that it was a product of my imagination. She also said that these kind of text messages telling bad things are not things she wants to recieve and it hurts her a lot that I doubt her..I said well I want to focus on the positive and have a good time, but these kind of things I think are unnecesary if ure dating me and geting to know me.
So she said she has to think about all this, gave me a big kiss and left. I sent her a message telling her that I wouldnt send those kind of texts again and that I love her and want to have a great time together. She responded that she needed 1 day to forget this and that on sunday she will be the nice girl I know again (we had plans to meet on sunday, im taking her to a cool place to spend the day).
I feel like its fucked up but at the same time it provides her with the emotional rollercoster that girls crave, otherwise it would be boring for them. I feel good about expressing my needs and what bothers me, if I keep it to myself to "not appear needy" I feel I am actually being needy by being afraid of talking up to a girl.
So...what would you guys do? Wait and see what she does is what I'm thinking.

Girls don't "crave" emotional rollercoasters unless they're damaged.

You're doing your best to not try to come-off as needy yet its not addressing the issue. Its putting lipstick on a pig basically.

Also you're making threats, so if she falls-on-line you have to ask yourself is it really coming out of the energy (on her end) that you want it to? This is setting a very negative precedent.

You're playing a game you're not going to win, guaranteed.

This has fail all over it.

Yeah, this was a fail

Is it really that hard to say "look I don't agree with a chick I'm dating seriously (if you're telling her you love her) being so tied to an ex that flew across the world recently to get her back. That in my mind hints that you're not over him, especially with all the other shit. Regardless, you're not ready for what I want. Take care"

If you feel this isnt what you want...just say so.

OP i ve been there in exactly same situation. Mine eas but not so bright with you. At the fisrt stage so quickly i tought i found the love of my life so decided to make the things faster. Do i ve met with her family, which she also did. Acc. to this, i asked let s put a photo to instagram. She refused me because she said in our photos she looked not good. So i said ok let s make much more. I knew it was a bit AFC. on the other hand i knew thatTa while ago she was with some guy and almost there are about to marry. It saw this photo process a step that she could proof she get over this shit. After this shittt refuse stuff she endly said that she does not wanna put before it goes more serious. A Fuckin red flag. I said wtf i met your family and i m planning to marry with you why are you acting like that. Afterwards i understood it was all abot her ex. I think she had also feeling about him. I took her fb and instagram account she searched him many times. I realised that the she is faking bitch. Then i ve decided to write some shit as comment to instagram. She erased it instantly. It was AFC but from other perspective it eqs a proof that she is not serious with me. I took the control and acted Alpha and did not give a shit. Out of the blue she acted distant and cold. With the time it trqnsformed itself to leave me at new year and gone to another cirt where her ex lives. This motherfuckin bitch was really good to hide her steps. No fucking party photos as u tough which i figured out she was with him. But i refused to beleive and choose to close ny eyes cuz i am dumbass. Now i can see clearly the picture. I ve decided from now on, who is avoiding to put photos, it s a sign of red flag. Belive me or not, you should take care your ass if you want to wake up oneday fucked ass hell, dumped as junkie, sad is shit. Push it bro if you think serious otherwise listen up the people here and just fuck her without emotion and save the day...

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You sound like a total kook.

Ok i am kook maybe but enlight me with your unique wisdom why?

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I'm good.

you r good, i m kook, but there must be ugly truth?

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The situation would not work for me. I aim to not second guess myself and if there are exes involved, I would say that the person has not moved on and doesn't care that those standard young adult shenanigans leave you exactly where you find yourself. Does it take a genius to know that that ex stuff creates what you are experiencing? I think people and woman are way smarter and strategical than are given credit for and very little is innocent or an accident. If you feel off, she is ok with that and wants that IMO.

UPDATE 2: Hi again guys. Something kind of shady happened the other day. She had 10 days of vacation and she went to Israel with a girl-friend that invited her for a 3 day tour there, then she went to see her family to Germany, leaving a total of 0 days to spend together. I sort of understand since I dont have much money right now (looking for a job) and couldnt go with her, but even then before the vacation she told me she would try and leave a spare day for us when she came back, which didnt happen.
Apart from that, when she came back she posted an album with photos of her in Israel(which her ex didnt even take 5 minutes to like all of the photos) and I posted a funny comment on one of them, joking with her, with a "miss you" at the end. She instantly deleted the whole album (lol) and initiated conversation with me on whastap like nothing happened inmediately after deleting it, writing a lot and asking how are things. I mentioned that I was wondering why she hides me on fb and she said she doesnt want her parents to know right now, because her mom is ill and her uncle aswell and she didnt find the right time to tell them she's seeing me...doesnt sound very convincing tbh.
I also still dont know any of her friends who live here, which are several girls, there always seems to be an excuse as to why they cant come when we go out. I do not know anyone in her life, and Im not even sure shes mentioned that we have something going on to anyone at this point, and shes gone out with me and my friends several times and knows my mom.
She's mentioned a couple times in these 3 months we've been here together that sometimes its hard for her to respect me because I dont have a job right now(Im studying a Master degree).
Also lately (since the issues that I mentioned in the last posts) she seems colder and more distant for the most part (she no longer seems very interested in sex like before,although now she works a lot of hours and is very tired but still...)
I really liked this girl and I wanted to be in a serious relationship with her and she said and acted as she liked me, but I still dont know if she wants a serious relationship or how long does it take for her to decide (its been 3 months together) and her behaviour lately makes me doubt.
So should I be more distant and focus on myself or ask her if everything is ok between us or dump?

Delete your fb account. Sarge other girls.

If having sex and fun with girls isn't for you and you're more into seeing pictures of yourself on Facebook, you need to think really hard about this if you haven't realized it by now. Once you realize that this behavior is really absurd, you have to delete your Facebook ASAP.

No, you don't want this girl. You just want pictures of you together on her Facebook. For now, she can only give you her pussy and not the mark of ownership that you two are together on her fb. Find several other girls who can give you both.

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Yes I already deleted my facebook some days ago as it only brought bad things and attitudes for me and I see no sense in having one anymore.
I have to mention that she told me a month ago that she didnt want me to do stuff with other girls (we went out one night and saw that I got approached by a girl). She said that flirting is ok because it boosts selfesteem but nothing more than that (making out, sex). I've already made out last weekend with a girl in a party that later gave me a blowjob that night...I did it because I felt this girl im with now doesnt give me what I want and is distant. So should I tell her that I dont want to be exclusive anymore or just keep on going having ocasional sex with her and meeting other girls meanwhile?

Fucks sake, where the fuck do you guys get these ideas? Seriously? That's legit one of the most stupidest things I read around here, right up there with "hug close".
Christ.

OP I told you from the very first posts on this thread that you're being overly optimistic thinking this girl is taking you seriously.
Also, yes, you are jealous. Personally I don't understand why you'd get worked up over her liking a picture on facebook, but given all the other things she's doing, yeah, it's somewhat understandable. What is not understandable however, is why you're being complacent in this situation.

She hides you from her friends.
She hides you from her family (i.e. deletes an entire album off one comment, lol).
The ex situation is obviously bothering you.
etc

And don't get me wrong OP, you have faults of your own. Aside from the stupid belief that women need emotional rollercoasters to be happy, you don't have a job. I don't care if you're a Masters student. You're a 24-ish years old grown ass man. Get a damn job. I'm a Masters student too. I also work.

Point is, you need to get your shit together. You also need to get rid of this girl, because she obviously doesn't value you much. Part of which is your fault, but part of it is also hers.

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Women do not crave emotional roller coasters unless they suffer from a personality disorder.

Whomever made the suggestion they do should be shot in the head.

Let your nonverbals speak for you. That's the most effective communication when it comes to relationships.

As for emotional rollercoasters, women in general love to watch romantic comedies while men love to watch war-action movies. It's a universal as well as timeless NORMAL human behavior. Here's how Dr. Helen Fisher discusses it: https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_ ... anguage=en# She calls this emotional rollercoaster ride, "Romantic Love".

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