Met this new girl recently I really like her, date 3 has passed and still didn't have sex with her yet. She knows about my 3 date rule, and knows that she isn't the only girl in my life, and just recently asked me if I could stop seeing others to date her exclusively. She has told me that she is unsure of me and how I feel about her because yes I always tend the game the fuck out of her and she knows that I can leave her at anytime. I honestly don't know if I can take her seriously to date her exclusively because sometimes she can be very contradicting and not always congruent with what she tells me.

However sex isn't really that big of an issue in this case because I see potential in this girl beyond the sex.

A little backstory, date 1 was my best date I ever had, really gamed her hard and talked to her about a variety of topics ranging from sex and relationships. I even asked her what could she bring to a relationship that I could consider valuable. She admittedly told me that no guy has ever asked that before, and she actually wrote up a list of things that she could bring to a relationship on date 2. Date 1, lasted about 5 hours long with different venue exchanges, small sexual innuendo, she even bought me a round of drinks. She didn't want to kiss me the first date and I gave her shit for that.

Date 2 was interesting, took her out for dinner, then after went to some bars. She got way too drunk, finally led for the kiss which leaded into heavy make outs. While we were on the streets, I even remember a few people yelling at us to get a room. Then I grab a cab back to my place, one thing led to another, she's on top of me grinding with her clothes on. As I attempt to pull her clothes off she is literally passed out, like completely dead. For the next few hours I'm literally trying to get her up, and she eventually goes to sleep on me. We wake up the next day she buys me breakfast. That next morning, more heavy makeouts with my hands on her ass, she's pulling more LMR telling me that she wants to date me exclusively before we have sex, wasn't sure if that was a shit test also I was really frustrated from the night before but didn't mind to wait until day 3.

Date 3 was just last night, I told her its her time to treat me out. She planned this dinner for us at this cool place which she paid. Call me crazy, but I don't like paying for multiple dates without the girl investing a little I believe in equality. Anyway after the dinner, we go to a bar for drinks, she ran into her friends, to which I was introduced to. Which changed the dynamic because it got a little awkward. After they left the bar we stayed and continue to chat and whatnot. Because I've spent from what it seems a lot of time with her, sexually I was craving her. She literally started grabbing my dick underneath the table and I'm telling her I want to fuck. Then she tells me hey we can do a quickie in the bathroom. Which I denied because I just wanted to fuck her so bad, then she tells me she doesn't feel comfortable because she hasn't shaved in so long, but we could cuddle at my house. I gave her so much shit for this and was kinda pissed off. I planned another date with her for this Friday, very late night at this lounge and from there I will have no choice but to seal the deal, I can't wait any longer. She asked me what should she wear I told her something sexy and to be shaved lol.

What your thoughts and opinions on this, I'm I being too hard, not getting the clues and making the proper move despite her BS. I am overreacting, not allowing her the time, as time progresses it only increases the intensity. As well with each date that passes she's getting more and more open sexually. Its only a matter of time.

Sorry for the long post--

Dude,

Why are you putting so much thought into something that is going to happen?

She put it on the table get it.
This is your blockage.

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Your right I don't know why I am over-thinking, I think its just best for me to relax and let it go with the flow. Sex will happen, and if I want more of this relationship that will happen as well. I have to realize that I am in control and stop thinking so damn much.

You've made your intentions clear. If she continues to see you it's almost guaranteed that she will give you sex, probably for the next date.

If she had a major problem with it she would have either ended things there, or will tell you before the date again.

So she broke your boundaries, you let her, and she's now asking you to further break your boundaries, and you are letting her.
Sounds like she's as contradictory in her statements as you are. I'm being straightforward with you here; you are breaking your boundaries, and so is she.
I don't see how. You were just complaining about her as someone you could date exclusively.
Not bad. . .
I'm glad you didn't take advantage of her drunk state. Good for you, man.

Heavy makeouts, grabbing her ass, etc, and she doesn't want to fuck. Sounds like a shit test to me.
Go on. . .
What!?! Okay she wanted to fuck you in the bathroom, and you denied it because you want to fuck her. Man up dude. She wanted you to man up and lose control around her. She wants to feel your desire for her.
I could give a flying fuck less what a girl has to say about shaving. If I adhered to every girl giving me some off handed fifth degree excuse as to why she can't fuck, I'd be a virgin.

And she even disqualified her shaving problem by saying you could cuddle at your house.

Quit taking words at face value, bro.
Quit getting mad.
Okay. . .
I think you're looking for too much. I believe you are just shy of requiring it in writing that she wants to fuck.

She would have fucked you on the first date.

Pick up on her signals a little more, quit taking things she says at face value. You don't need giant SEX THIS WAY road signs. It sounds to me like you're waiting way too long for her to give you a "Okay urbangent, Sex will commence in ten minutes!"

I'm exaggerating, obviously, but I think you should get the point.

You talk way too much. And wtf is this exclusivity shit before sex? Exclusivity takes time. She has to earn it. 3 dates is by no means enough for her to prove herself to you in to that extent.
That happens several weeks / few months down the road.

Sex naturally happens before that.

Just get her to your place and like he^ said, stop talking everything literally.

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There's no such thing as shit-tests.
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When a girl says " I love you" she is saying it to the guy you were being right before she said.. Therefore if you allow her saying "I love you" to affect you or your frame of mind in anyway she no longer loves you. She loves the guy you were being right before she said it, not the guy you turned into after she said it.

This is where you go wrong with every girl you talk to. Taking their words and shaping yourself based upon it. Instead of allowing their words to be a marker of the type of character they enjoy most. The one right before the compliments on it. Not the new one all jolly and riled up over the compliment.

Everything else has been covered.

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Hey Eddie, not sure if your response was referring directly to me about the "I love you" she never told me she loves me during anytime between dates 1-3. But nonetheless I will keep that in mind, because she has told me that recently.

Just thought I'd give an update, after date 4 or 5, she invited me to go on a quick weekend vacation with her, she offered to pay for my flight, I was kinda turned off since I would never ask someone on vacation I barely knew, but I wasnt going to turn the offer down. I went and I had a blast. As for the sex I don't remember how many times we had sex, can't even count at this point nor how many dates we been on since then. She's a great girl that I could see myself in a relationship with, but for the current time, I'm taking it day by day.

Thanks guys...I just needed some patience and to take the lead when she was giving me all the hints initially