The most powerful influence tactic of all is validating someone on something they've done well. It's consistency on a meta-level as everyone loves to feel good.

If this validation comes from a source of authority, someone they like, or someone with lots of social proof, then you're working on multiple levels.

And then they do it more, on their own account, so they feel like the agent of their own positive feelings and you don't have to explicitly really do anything "persuasive."

So...

In this particular situation, assuming your girlfriend likes you (:)), I'd wager the best move is something like this...

After you guys hang out, if she's in a particular good mood, text her the next day and tell her you had a great time with her. That you could tell she was less stressed out and it felt good to see that side of her again. Or, even better, her smiled seemed unrestrained and it made you so happy to see it.

That kind of thing.

Kind of hard for her to accuse you of being manipulative if you are just authentically stating your feelings in a situation like this.

Aaaaaaahhhh yes. So simple, and so similar to what I did for running, yet I didn't even catch it.

This is why Daniel Balboa is the man.

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Money Texting <--- good title? Doesn't suggest a new mechanism. Maybe coming up with some random name for the mechanism would be good.

I've already made several YouTube videos related to texting, maybe I should make another product.

My ideas:

Confidence Installation System
Always In State
The Popular Guy

I know there's a need for texting advice (clients have voiced it), so it's probably a good idea to just make the text product.

The Money Text System?

Still brainstorming on this one. I'm solving the need that guys are getting flaked on, guys aren't getting texts back.

The Value Text System?

The Value Velocity Text System?

Value Velocity Texting?

Text Gold?

Also, do I need a mechanism for an audience that is decently sophisticated, but is loyal? For example, JC has products named like, attraction god, or other things that are reasonably generic. Not sure.

Maybe I should just do the list thing... ie

51 Texts that make her want you

Oooo, that might actually be good.

Maybe I'll go with that one.

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Started validating and giving positive reinforcement whenever Amanda was happy, and is working like a charm. Today she had a "super" day

That, and now suddenly she's being a lot more responsive physically too. Happens when girls are full of good emotions. Fantastic!

New VSL being uploaded as we speak, gonna run a campaign advertising the current price before it goes up on Saturday, incur some scarcity.

Saw ANOTHER twitter post looking for some text game product. He referred to needing a "text game bible". Maybe that should be what I call the product?

What do you guys think...

"Text Game Bible"

or

"51 Texts That Make Her Want You"

?

Either way, gonna start thinking about either making the marketing for the product first or making the product first. That, and making more SEO videos, ramping up the number of search clients coming in.

LETS DO THIS

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Awareness trumps sophistication.

In other words, loyalty and highly engaged customers are sophisticated, but can be more directly marketed to. This is why JC - with his hyperloyal fans - can market pretty directly.

I'd encourage you to dig a layer deeper into the issues around texting...

What are they really after? Not being ignored? Being able to consistently get dates? Getting more phone numbers?

It's a tough one because the non-marketing cure for poor text results is to just be more discriminate about who you take phone numbers from. But that's not a very good product

The differentiator could be as easy as "Getting Dates With Easy Using These Simple and Fast Texts for Guys Who Have Better Things to Do." Doesn't have to be some super new thing. Just tell them what's different about it.

does anyone have the layguide pdf?

The proposal is in! Even though I spent a third of the time as most people do on it, it was well received by my advisor. He made some suggestions, and I'll work on those.

Time to catch up on sleep, exercise, and business, though.

Saw a great Ted talk on how great leaders inspire action: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qp0HIF3SfI4

I've done some analytics on my Youtube channel, and have gotten a better hold on how to better do video SEO, so I'll be implementing the new knowledge in future videos, in order to drive up the number of new incoming leads. I started the content and the VSL for my new product, "51 Texts that Make Her Want You".

It's gonna be insane, I'm going to transform the way guys text girls. I see a world where guys aren't texting stupid, shitty messages that girls end up not responding to, they're not sending dick pics or things that end up on straight white boys texting on tumblr, but they're sending texts that get girls to instantly respond.

They're getting girls to text them out of the blue.

I see a world where GUYS have control of the texting universe, and not girls.

Didn't exercise this week other than a couple short runs, gonna get back into it this afternoon. Decided that to optimize my physical health, gonna do this schedule:

2x a week lift

1 lift is all push: bench press, squat, and overhead press

Second lift is all pull: pull ups, dead lift, cable row, and bicep curls

And that's pretty much all the major muscle groups. God I love compound lifts.

The rest of the days of the week will all be dedicated to running. Gonna have to eat a shitload of calories if I want to make gains.

Amanda's very, very in love with me.

Got a bunch of cute girls on the periphery.

Life's pretty fuckin' good.

Got a bunch of social events planned this weekend to reward myself, and going to get to work on my newest video.

The more value you put out into the world, the more wealth you attract.

Just do it.

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Sup yall! It's been a solid weekend. Here's the cliffnotes:

Friday night I organized a dinner party at a Thai restaurant. I reserved 8 seats, but 12 people came. God I love being social.

It was tons of fun, and a welcome relief after spending so much time with my nose down, grinding out the phd proposal.

Afterwards, I went to Cassandra's for awhile, where we had a bonfire and sang some songs. One dude mentioned my girlfriend, and I could see Cassandra's face instantly fall.

Poor girl, hahaha.

After that, Amanda and I chilled and fooled around a bit.

The next day, this girl that I teach with, a cute Asian named Shannon, texted me out of the blue, telling me she had gotten my number from a mutual friend. She wanted to grade tests together. So we do that, and then she invited me out to grab lunch, but I had a prior commitment.

Which was band practice. I show up with Mackey and Connor at Connor's parents house, and we jam out to some songs. Forgot how much I loved playing music. Connor had met Amanda at the Thai dinner the night before and told me he thought she was hot.

Weird.

After that, I worked a bit on my new product, and then met Jesse for Deadpool, which was SICK. The movie was straight self-amusement. If you want a good study on self-amusement, go check out that character.

After that, I met Amanda, who wanted to fool around again, and after that, we went bowling.

Sunday I met Shannon again to grade, and this time, we went and grabbed lunch after. We chatted for about an hour, each told some stories, laughed a lot, and connected a lot. She's got a long distance boyfriend, so she's probably just looking for some male attention locally.

I tell her the now-infamous Holly poop story, which always has them lmao'ing.

After that, I recorded and uploaded a new VSL, a new YouTube video, sent out a value packed newsletter, and cleaned up the auto-responder sequence sent out to new subscribers.

Hell yeah, sick day. Gonna exercise with Amanda later tonight and then write a bit more to round out a sick weekend. Keep it sleazy, you.

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Oh, and before I forget.

Right before Amanda and I left for our bowling reservations, she was being all tired and lazy and mope-y on the bed. I was kind of fed up with this behavior, as it happens a lot, so I told her, "I think you're better than that."

"Just start taking action and you'l feel better."

In the car, she was worried that my roommates heard us fooling around, and she said that Ben probably hates us.

I reassured her he doesn't, and that he didn't hear us (we weren't even being loud, at all).

I lost my temper a little bit because of how negative she always is (tired, lazy, negative), and these words came out of my mouth:

"Why do you always view things so negatively? Like have you ever heard me complain about anything at all? I always see the positive in every single situation."

She fell silent for a bit. Her body language signaled discomfort. But then she changed the subject and started talking more positively. The rest of the night, she was cheery and energetic.

So I can only assume that she agreed with me, and felt the desire to change.

Kinda sloppy on my part, but hey, if it worked it worked.

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Amanda and I talked, it went well.

Well, she broke down and cried, but she admitted a couple things.

Namely: It's not right to put down other people in order to make yourself feel good.

She points out how slutty other girls are to make herself feel good about "being pure."

She points out how dumb other people are to make herself feel good about being smart.

She told I was totally right.

Boom, success.

Next step: Some of those people are actually cool, and awesome people. You know, people that you could learn something from, people that you could admire.

God this is such a fucking project.

An interesting one, though.

Started Walter Isaacson's Steve Jobs biography on audio book for lab work, not totally hooked on it yet. Not sure what value it brings to me, other than environmental exposure to great men. Would much rather listen to something on marketing or copywriting or something.

I'm getting better at everything... YouTube SEO, email marketing, influence, etc., but it's a slow process. That's okay, just gotta be consistent. Made a sale at the new higher price, that's exciting.

Finding out more and more that email open rates kinda suck across the industry.

Mine's floating between 30-50%. I think entertainment / engagement is king on the internet these days. You gotta self amuse while you teach, or else people just lose interest.

I've just started JC's email millionaire system product, which will definitely help me get even better at this shit, and spring break is in 3 weeks. Amanda, me, and two of her friends are going to head off to do some hiking in Utah, and theres a long drive, meaning I can pretty much finish my entire Text Product and the VSL for it there. HELL YES.

Meanwhile, going to be consistent with my YouTube uploads, and learning how to SEO better. Getting better with each video, and getting more and more engagement, but it's slow.

It's been a rollercoaster ride, and a mind-blowing amount of work, with much more to come, and sometimes these days it's bogged me down a bit, and my productivity has fallen, but I'm still fighting the good fight.

I need to re-up my game and start focusing harder.

I WILL succeed at this.

I WILL earn my financial freedom, no matter how much work it takes.

And I WILL enjoy all the benefits when I get there.

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AAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!

Huge breakthrough!

So incredibly happy things are finally working out.

It seems so small when I write it out, but I made a video that is ranking highly in 4-5 different keywords, pulling in new leads, and I just gained 10+ subscribers within 3 hours of publishing, which is huge for me.

I think I finally figured out the whole video SEO thing. Not only that, but a flashbulb kind of went off in my brain in terms of how to get more interaction and position myself better.

I don't know if I can write it all out, but just to cement it in my brain, I'm gonng write down the whole SEO process.

first, do keyword research with TubeBuddy. Find a high traffic keyword selection to target, and target phrases that have low competition.

Design your content around those keywords.

Shoot your video with the following components:

Introduction, who you are, what you do, really quick.
Then, tell them what the video is about.
This should take like 10 seconds, and then boom straight into the content.
To establish authority / celebrity, try to fit in a fast question sent in from a fan, this ups opt ins.
Then boom into the content.
Then a call to action to engage with the video, and opt in to the email list at the end.

Then, optimize the video for SEO.

The title should include the main, high traffic keyword phrase, as well as a new mechannism to show how your video is different, makes it more clickable.

Tags- include all the optimized keyword tags I found off TubeBuddy.

Description- Write a description of the video stuffed with all the keywords from the tags. Then include Sales Copy selling the opt in click at the end.

Thumbnail- make it professional and clickable.

Get all this ready before video is published, and as soon as it's published, boom, promote the FUCK out of it, all over social media, and use the watch retention hack I figured out to get it to the top of rankings.

FUCK YEAH. Took me so fucking long to figure all this out without a mentor or coach, but I guess that's what it takes. Same as game.

Same thing with email marketing. Going through the JC program, and it's helping a lot. Gonna start including more Q&A in emails to establish authority and celebrity status. Man, if you establish authority and celebrity, your words carry so much more weight than normal.

I feel so happy knowing what to do and having a concrete plan for what to do, instead of blindly waving my arms around trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. This shit is hard, learning almost everything on my own, with no coach, takes a fuckload of time, just like in game.

But hey, that's for weeding out the guys that don't really want it.

Let's keep plowing.

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Just gonna jot this down, my sleep's been non-continuous, and it's been affecting my productivity and my immune system. Gonna cut all computer usage before, buy ear plugs, and wear a beanie over my eyes to bed. Journaling will have to be saved for the day. Gonna start getting my 9 hours.

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I'm becoming a sociopath.

Amanda called me up yesterday all huffy and puffy, saying we had to talk, and as soon as we sat down, told me how she didn't like it that I was challenging her to grow, and that it didn't feel like I accepted her for who she was.

We then proceeded to have a discussion where I out-logic'd her in very regard, with her being emotional the whole time, and me being COMPLETELY unaffected.

This reduced her to repeatedly saying, "I just feel like I'm a client you're trying to fix."

Without logical backing, the only thing left are her emotions of feeling unworthy.

So I told her a story about how my parents never accepted me and never told me they were proud of me until I was 25 years old.

After, she apologized for being ridiculous, cried, and then immediately felt better.

Holy shit I'm getting good at this. I think I'm in my own reality distortion field, where I have a huge narcissistic complex about trying to influence everyone become better people.

She also made a comment in the middle: "I hate how charming you are sometimes."

Lol

Anyways, the latest video absolutely smashed it, and I made another sale last night. I'm learning all kinds of shit, and the next step is to record / upload the newest VSL, and then make more videos. Things are going AWESOME.

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Decided to change the opt in from my Facebook group straight to the email list, so I wrote some sales copy on the bottom of each Youtube video, and in the last video, I got +10 to my email list, even though the video didn't do too great.

Each little piece I'm learning more. I'm so addicted to this. I can feel the momentum building.

The reason the past video didn't do too well was because even though I was dominating the search engines for my targeted keywords, the keyword tool I was using for Youtube isn't great for predicting search traffic volume. So from now on, when I'm doing keyword research for my videos, I'm going to use a combination of Google Keyword Tool and TubeBuddy to plan what keywords I'm targeting to maximize search volume and minimize competition.

New VSL is recorded, going to take another couple hours to edit and throw up, then gonna leave it be. It's pretty dope, and gonna just focus on traffic and the next product.

During spring break, I'm also going to clean up my 4-5 email indoctrination sequence based on JC's Email Millionaire program. FUCK yeah I'm stoked.

I also saw the first $100 hit my bank account from Clickbank awhile ago, and it felt amazing. So much hard work. It's invigorating when you can see the path you need to take to success with conviction, and all you have to do is walk it.

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Holy shit. Just went through video 2 of JC's email millionaire program and the info is just mind blowing.

The basic gist is this. In my marketing, positioning myself at the top as a celebrity and an authority makes everything I say hit 10 times, 100 times harder. INSANE

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