So ive been in this LTR for about 10 years. Its been a roller coaster and i've tried to get out of it multiple times. But prior to finding this forum. It was pretty tough being alone and moving on, so the LTR would be off and on until one day i decided to move out of state to get away from this girl. Right before i moved we had sex one last time and thats when she trapped me! I came in her and she got pregnant (by her choice, i provided birth control and she lied about taking it) so fast foward 4 years later. We have a kid together and have been living together for 3 years and still a roller coaster relationship. So im officially done and want to move on but its hard to let seperate from my kid. Any other dads out there that been through similar? How did you move on? How are things with ur kids being seperated from you?

I'm a single dad with two kids. I know where you're coming from, except obviously I'm not in your specific situation.

I can tell you from my own personal experience that things are what you make it.

I can't give you any specific advice, but I can tell you that it will work out eventually.

Imagine the worst possible scenario with this situation. The worst possible scenario should end with you dying alone under a bridge. Not gonna happen.

Now imagine the best possible scenario with this situation. The best possible scenario should end with you a billionaire. Not gonna happen.

Now imagine a scenario that's in between those two scenarios for this situation. That's about what's going to happen.

As far as moving on. It was easy for me. I just like women in general. So I surround myself with lots of them.

My kids are fine. I'm their dad. They worship me. Nothing changes that.

Kudos for actually wanting to be in the child's life bro... Here in San Antonio it's terrible, in the last month I think I've met 5 single moms and the father(s) are no where in sight. Are you getting joint custody?

I'm not a dad by choice... I do have a advice on the matter, as I've seen this so much and have thought a good deal about children, having had many mothers ask me for a relationship. You can still be a father to your child, but just be careful of what he sees you doing. I don't want to be a father, because I want sexual variety, and I know that's not the proper environment for a kid. I'm sure you know children are molded by external influence.

If your gf is that manipulative and crazy, prepare to get a good lawyer. Actually, consult a lawyer asap.

Can you pursue her ass legally speaking? lol

What I would do is pursue my goals, and my career. I'm not saying "leave the kid", no. Just live your life, you'll still see your kid, right?

Sorry OP I don't have any advice, but I'll never put trust in women considering birth control ever again. Thanks for sharing, people can learn things from honest posts like this.

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