You have to know a woman well enough to get emotionally attached to really get hurt. The goal is to get them before that point. If you get rejected by some girl you seen and approached at a grocery store, mall, club, beach, you can't get hurt by that. She could be a lesbian, she could be in a serious relationship, any number of things, and you don't know her. So she doesn't matter. Don't let yourself get hurt by those your emotionally connected to, by only going after the ones you haven't.

I disagree with that to a degree. You are responsible for the choices you make but not everything that happens to you. If you are walking down the sidewalk and guy painting a building above you drops a paint can and it hits you on the head giving you brain damage are you 100% responsible for that because you chose to walk down that sidewalk? Some things happen and they are out of our control.

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1st off great thread Lennon, I can relate to you 100% I too suffer from low self-esteem and its the one thing I am really trying to work on. Someone mentioned going for a jog for 20 mins 1st thing in the morning and its similar to the "hour of power" I do in the morning. I got the "hour of power" from Tony Robbins "Get The Edge" and I would highly recommend it to anyone regardless of how succesful. Its a very broad program designed to get you thinking in different ways and acting upon your dreams. Its fantastic I can not stress it enough, I mean obviously its not PUA percific but there are great things within that program paticularly on AA and will help you improve the overall quality of your life!

Still I have yet to apply all I have learned but I notice improvement daily. I posted a few weeks back a facebook convo I had, had with a girl using the PUA techniques I had picked up (bare in mind only been at this for a matter of weeks). Anyway I had it set up she was interested, thought i was funny, cheeky, charming etc. She asked to come out on my birthday then when I did go out. I virtually blanked her all night! Said hello, gave her a hug and thats about it, she even bought me a drink ffs lol. Basicly I hit a wall, got really nervous and it affected my whole night it wasnt like I was ignoring her but really engaging everyone else, I withdrew into myself alot. I mean it was my b-day FFS everyone was out for ME and still i struggled with confidence. I think inner game is so important it is a real stumbling block for those of us without and vital to A succesful pua I would say. Anyway I havent txt or spoke to her facebook since so when I see her on saturday maybe I can work on it again but im not pinning my hopes on it. I guess i will have to show im interested as she probably believes im not and work on attractione etc. again

Anyway got sidetracked what I was going to say is you cant bemoan those things you can't control because you have no control over them! I know its cliche but expect the un-expected and live each day as if its your last because it could be! I know easier said then done but its soooooo true. Luck generally will even itself out overtime and you wern't in the twin towers when they went down or hit by tsunami (always someone worse off never forget that) One very usefel thing I learnt from Tony Robbins which I use in the "hour of power" is to go through each morning and list all the things you are LUCKY and grateful to have. Start with your health or whatever, work outwards to your famiy then your friends/colleagues/whatever. It makes you realise what you HAVE not what you DONT and it puts you into STATE right there 1st thing in the morning you already feel good and ready to crack on with whatever. Also dont forget be grateful for all the problems you face and for your advisaries or haters lol as these are the things that motivate you to push on in life and are what make you who you are! If someone doesn't believe in you then use that to motivate you to do exactly what they believe you can't. If there is a problem work around it, solve it or deal with it. You will never be without un-forseen problem so learn to stay calm and love them. As soon as you solve one another bigger and harder one will come around the corner its a fact of life, its how you deal with it that matters (Like I said I myself dont apply all of this all of time and there is much more but it works I can promise you that, its about exercising those emotional muscles you dont use. Its hard to begin with but you get better just like PUA)

P.S I am the classic knows things in theory far better than in practice lol although compleatly new to this PUA thing so not even there with the theory yet