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PostPosted: Sun Feb 21, 2016 5:00 pm 
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Hi everyone,

I have been living in Germany since 4 years and been day gaming almost 6 months..I still have a language barrier but it all work pretty fine, so i can roughly guarranty you guys that body language is the most important thing when talking to girls :D

So, i will get to the point... I approached this hot girl at a shopping mall, 5 minutes of interaction, got her number (she wrote her number on my palm since my battery had died :D), texted her "it was a pleasure, My Name", but she didn´t reply. Next day in the afternoon i texted her "I assume you have been kidnapped since you don´t text back, if you need help, press 1". She loled, we exchanged a couple of puns, set the date then i went silent for ~ a day.

I texted her the day before the date to confirm it, so it was confirmed. (It was agreed that we will meet up in a small town since it is close to where i work and she lives there).

The Date: She sent long text to me 2 h ago prior to date and told "I can´t make on time since I am still driving but if you can wait an extra 1.5h i can def. meet you " I was like WTF :D 1.5h, really !?! hahaha. Then i texted back "hey no worries. but i can´t wait that long since I have to take my train back home. And if you are still late, since you are on the road, that will cost me another 1.5h" Then she said "ok fine, we will have to postone this for some other time", and I didn´t respond. An hour later she texted again telling that "On the second thought, I might come to your town, since I have my car parked there. I want to say Hi to a friend whom I didn´t see for ages and maybe we might run into each other :D" (All the locations I mention in this post are 1 hour close to each other). And she came :D

The date was all good. Jokes, touching flirting was all there. I was with her only 1.5h since I had to go a B-day. She walked to the bus station with me I gave a firm kiss on the cheek while grabing her waist. Then I left. (She also mentioned the text I sent her about kidnapping and told she found it very cool). And yeah I didn´t set another day for the second date.

She came to my town again for the second date. We had dinner, changed the venue to a bar and had a drink. Before she left, I kiss closed her. Then we walked to her car. After the last cigarettes we kissed again, then she drove away. After an hour or so she texted me and told I should send the photo of us I took. I did so. And that was it for the night.

The next day i texted her "Good Morning :)" but it took her for 8 hours to text a waving hand smiley (!?!?). I didn´t write her back. After 2 hours later she sent our pic editted and said Happy Valentines Day :D and I wrote back "I miss your lips" And gave our interaction a two day pause, since she didn´t respond back with what I wanted.

After two days I asked her if she wanted to catch up but she said "Sorry, i am planned on that day since I am invited to a party" and asked if I am doing good. I said that I am good asked her how she is and told her to have great time at the party.

Then another 3 days of silence. After that I asked her if she wanted to go climbing. I know she would be pretty enthusiastic for such an offer since she had complained about she can´t find a partner to climb on the last date. Her response was "I might go :)" But her text came 4h after my text. The lines we exchanged after that was:

Me: You don´t like me
Her: What makes you think so ?
Me: You don´t text me if I don´t text you. I think you are not that much into me as I am into you.
Her: Ok, I will be honest with you...My last relationship has broke into pieces a short while ago and it was painful for me. I liked meeting you, it was fun and you are a stunner. However, I can´t image letting myself into some thing new. That became clear to me in the last days. We appearantly met each other during the wrong time (or too early). I didn´t want to raise your hopes..That´s why went a little silent. I can only offer you a friendship and if that is enough for you I am up for climbing:)
Me: I appreciate your honesty, but I don´t want to accept your offer..Take care:)
Her: I can understand that, it was a pleasure to meet you, and take care..
Her: I appreciate your honesty as well..You are cute:) Take care...

I didn´t write back anything to her since that day (since 3 days)

I moved on, I also met another girl yesterday, who is also hot :D But what bothers me here is that this is the 3rd time that something like this happening to me. And I wonder why..?? I was pretty sure I was gonna f-close her on the third date but missed her and don´t know why..Comments, advice much appreciated

Cheers, Lavainfield


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 21, 2016 6:16 pm 
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Are you usually the type of guy that tries to get women to give you a verbal response on how they feel? If so, that's part of your problem.

Secondly, people are more in control about how they feel about someone if they feel that they are being pursued. Being pursued allows you to make decisions. Think of the moment when you told her that you couldn't wait for her, she came to you. When you started trying to get the responses that you wanted, she pulled away. Shortly after that she started giving you your options when you were originally giving her the options.

Try not to be so concerned about asking her how she feels about things so much. If she agrees to meet you, you know she's into you. If she starts offering alternatives after turning you down, she's into you. If she turns you down without giving you an alternative, she's not. No reason to ask questions about if she likes you or not.

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PostPosted: Sun Feb 21, 2016 8:14 pm 
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Hey JackZero ,

Thanks for your reply!

I don´t believe that are my problems, I usually text stuff like "You are not interested in me anymore" when I know it can develop any better. It is my way of putting an an to the interaction.

However, I still don´t know what goes wrong after k-close. I properly escalated then kissed her. She also initiated the second kiss.

But what then happend is still a mistery..What do you guys usually do after k-close?


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 21, 2016 10:30 pm 
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I don't think you get it. It's not after the kissing that's messing you up. It's the needy behavior and then you crashed and burned with the "You don't like me" text. When she was on the fence, you pushed her back to the other side.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 23, 2016 8:26 pm 
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I got your point now, you are right. Apart from that text, I made some other mistakes which made me appear a little needy.

What should be the next strategy wtih this girl? Should I get in touch with her again after a while ?


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 23, 2016 8:36 pm 
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Take the new girl rock climbing. Get her to take a picture of you climbing and send it to the original girl and tell her that you're sorry that she missed out on the fun.

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