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The fact is women want to feel emotion and when a man evokes it they feel excitement whether it's good emotion or bad emotion. Women get hooked on it. Thus the bad boy and the story of the nice guy being boring and predictable.
Men are the same way and they are more susceptible to a woman that makes them feel emotion. Not a good argument to women being emotional.
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The 'logic' in man is that what a man is attracted to makes much more sense than a woman choosing a bad boy over a nice guy. Of course, when one understands how attraction works within a woman it all makes perfect sense - especially when the woman is attractive to some degree.
I'm discovering that a lot of guys that have success with women usually don't know what they're talking about when it comes to understanding women. This is especially applicable to the guys that say attractive women are somehow different. Attractive women want the same things that any other woman wants.
I would assert that Karlb's painting a rather mysoginistic (and inaccurate) view of women as being lead sheerly by emotion and beyond that having masochistic tendencies (e.g. having such strong emotional hooks in spite of better judgment). Sure, that may apply to a minority of women with low self-image (incidentally I suggest these are the women most likely to get into abusive relationships), but it's more the exception than the rule. Lot of conjecture and an opinion likely based on anecdote, I find no merit in it.
I agree with Jack that men would be equally susceptible to "emotional hooks", albeit men who struggle with impulse control issues and insecure attachment patterns. The difference is men have been acculturated to distance themselves from their emotions, and even worse to disavow themselves from them. This doesn't mean men don't experience them, it only means (generally speaking) that they are less in touch with them than most women. Men are taught to be heady (get caught-up in their minds and think through things), women, on the other hand, are taught to be more feeling-oriented. There may also be gender differences that go beyond learned behavior/socialization (e.g. hardwired difference) which may influence these propensities. Again, I am generalizing as there are some men who are quite in-touch with their feeling states, and there are also women who are more 'in-their-head'.