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I got a girl i kinda comsider myself to be something like in a relationship with she has an ex boyfriend that she has not seem to let go yet but she keeps telling me she loves me and she still misses this guy he recently sent her flowers she secretly texted him she thinks they're pretty and that she misses him and wants to see him how should I handle the situation any good idea guys be relentless not sugar coating and give me straight forward even harsh if has to be advice I would really appreciate it thank you
I've dealt with similar situations.
One I dealt with about a month ago.
Call her out completely. Tell her you don't deal like that. Tell you are walking away. Don't tell her you are thinking about walking away. Tell her you are done.
Do it while she's vulnerable. Like when you two are laying in bed. Just find a way to bring it up, bring it up, stay EXTREMELY calm about it. Be ICE COLD with her. Just tell her you're done with the bullshit, you can't handle a two timing girl, and BE READY TO WALK AWAY.
The response your looking for is for her to realize you don't give a shit, and she'll drop the guy.
The response you don't want is for her to call your bluff and leave.
Either way, you win.
Seriously, be ready to dump the chick.
EDIT: The situation I have dealt with is very similar, except I'm sexually open. In my situation, the girl I fuck the most (who spends the night at my house the most) was lying to me about guys she's been fucking. Knowing that I fuck other girls, and very openly say when I am, she chose to lie to me about guys she's fucked. I encourage her to fuck other men because I don't want it to be one sided and want her to have her sexual freedom. But instead she lied to me over and over about different guys. Not only that, but we have a no relationship agreement, and come to find out she'd been telling her friends how in love with me she is, how she wants to date these other guys but can't get away from me cause she wants me, etc, etc. I was pissed about the lies so I called her out while she was laying on my chest cuddling. I said the words "Do you want to just leave now? I really don't give a fuck about this conversation." I was ICE ICE ICE cold. And she responded in tears and apologies. I forgave her. She's told me about guys she's fucking now. All is well.