Hey Guys,

I'm not new to the game but new to 'the community'... I dated a good amount in high school, even more in college but never really read or studied any formal approach to pick up. I'm an attractive guy (or at least my mom says so), well dressed, educated- I have more confidence then I know what to do with and a broad smile I can't hold back. I haven't had trouble talking to women since I was 15 and really love dating and the whole process of PU.

After college I settled down into a LTR with one of the girls I was seeing- we moved to the country and were together for about three years. When we broke up last summer someone gave me a copy of DYD- it was a great read and totally reminded me of what I do everyday- sales! A lot of the same tactics of pick up can be applied to selling and vice versa. I read 'The Game', VAH and a few other classics- my buddy lent me the Lovedrop CD's from Mystery's box set and I've been going though David D's interview series. I have a small group of guys I go out with that are into pick up and a solid list of girls that will wing (or at least hang around and help me DHV). I think having girls around is one of the most important parts of attraction- I can't remember the last time I went out with anything less then a 50/50 crowd- I think the best ratio is 4 girls 2 guys (myself included as one of those guys). When I was in collage I called this the 'girl = girl theory'- basically hanging with girls equals meeting more girls- ya ok, my theories were a little less sophisticated the RSD or whatever- but it works! I love reading over the new theory that I've come across- I'm not sure if it's really helped my game- but it really hasn't hurt it. Most of all it keeps me motivated to keep going out and keep getting numbers and keep kissing girls and keep my game up.

I have two issues interfering with my game- the first is that I'm a workaholic. I'm chained to the office and I really can only get out on the weekends (dating, PU, parties, any thing social needs to happen from Friday night to Sunday afternoon). This is nice because when I do go out I have a nice stack of cash, but it does limit my ability to date several people at the same time...limit not hinder... The second issue is that I live in the suburbs- like 45 minutes from the city. I'm out here because I'm close to work and can just walk to the office but its almost impossible to get a women home with me. Let me just be clear about this- there are no girls between 18-29 that live around me- if they are here they have kids (not my scene). I go to the mall, I go to the gym, I go to the bar and all the women are either in high school or middle aged- no HB's to be found in a 20 miles- and I don't blame them- this part of the state sucks and is boring. So every weekend I head into Boston or NYC and stay with friends in the area. It can be a bit tough to get a girl to come back and make out on your cousins couch- not that it doesn't happen, but it just gets in the way of my game. So anyway- once my lease is up this September I'll be moving into Boston and that should help with at least one of those issues.

So anyway, I'm glad I stumbled on this board today. I'm going to drop a few of my newest openers (variations of the opinion opener), read over some more posts maybe see if there is anyone in the Boston area that wants to swap info on pick up locations and events in the area. Also looking for some good spots to PU in Manhattan- I've just started hanging out in 'the real city' and could use a list of cool spots.

Cheers,
Busker

Hey welcome to the community, I've been "studying" the Pick Up arts for around a month however I haven't really actually done anything with the Knowledge due to AA.

I know I shouldn't be targeting just one girl but hey it's not rejection it's negative feedback, so far it seems i'm doing okay I just got to take it to the next level. =)

Know how I got over AA- this is a true story. I was dating this girl and out of know where she up and left for San Fransisco- complete other side of the country. So a few months later while I was in LA I called her up and told her I was going to be in the area- which was a lie, since the only reason I was going to SF was to see her (AFC move for sure)- so anyway I drove like 8 hours north and what happens when I get there- you guessed it, she stands me up. So there I am, alone in a city I hardly knew. I had dinner reservations at this nice restaurant in Berkley and was determined to take someone out to eat. While I was comfortable talking to girls in general, the context of talking to girls in a new city, alone, was a bit rattling and I could feel hesitation setting in. So my plan was to just start asking girls out to dinner at random- however, every time they rejected me I would give a dollar to a homeless person. I must have asked 30 girls out to dinner before one finally accepted- I actually had to start asking homeless people if they could break a ten for me.

So the reason for giving the dollar away was to train myself to get over the anxiety. So now, when I go out and get rejected by a girl at least it doesn't cost me anything! I think this was based on some old Chinese or Greek story or something- But remember, its her fucking loss for rejecting you- and when it happens think about the context of what you did- did you lean in, did you forget to smile, ect... and this helps us improve ourselves. Also there are lots of reason why we get rejected- maybe she's on her period or something- it's not necessarily something you did wrong.

so what happened with the girl that you had dinner with?

We talked, I paid. I went to my hotel alone and drove back to LA the next day and then flew back to the East Coast a week latter and never heard from her again- really not the point of the story, or a high light from Busker dating career- but it did give me a good mind set that I've been able to apply for a number of years since with much better success. What's really my point is that you approach 100 women, you get 10 numbers, 3 dates and one fuck... this is also the basics of direct sales- cast a big net.