Hi guys,
I was just wondering what you guys think about the following approach:
On the first (or second or third) date, depending on the woman I tend to tell them that we can't go to my place, I won't have sex with her or that she can't stay at my place. The reason I give them is me being very principled and stuff like that. So far it has pretty much always worked well. I think that telling them you won't have sex with them up front takes away the fear and uncertainty about what might happen (provided they don't want to have sex or aren't sure about it). Also I feel like it increases your value and makes both yourself and having sex with you more desirable for the girl. It also happened a couple of times that I told them I am not going to have sex with them and they were really happy that I brought it up and that I wouldn't try and told me that they don't do that either ("I'm not like that"). Matter of fact we ended up having sex and it "just happened" while we both didn't plan on doing it. They would tell me afterwards stuff like "I don't understand why we ended up having sex while neither of us planned on doing that. That has never happened before" and bs like that.

What is your guys opinion on that approach?

Hey man if it works for you by all means keep doing it. I personally wouldn't go this route because I prefer my presentations to be dripping with intent, but to each their own. It doesn't matter in the least what I or any one else says for an opinion on this because as I said if it isn't broke...

You're giving them an alibi and removing the possibility of her being viewed as 'easy'.

Obviously a "it just happened" feeling is more exciting than having it planned.

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I think you're saying this out of your insecurity about being able to seal the deal. Where as you would say " We won't have sex". I would say " You know we're having sex tonight right? So I hope you don't have any first date hang ups" , because of my confidence in by ability to pull through.

As your confidence and skill increase you'll begin to use false constraints less and less.

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All very true and well said. Although on a certain breed of target, I could see this approach working. It seems dull at best and cheese at worst. Without a doubt, once you reach Eddie Fews' level, you will have much better options than this. It's just like he said, this approach would be training wheels for newbies.

Nailed it! I couldn't have said it better myself. Eddie verbalized my thoughts perfectly.

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