Gentlemen,

This is a new era, one where the new generation of hot girls (around 18-23) are so into texting and social media, that the old timey "bro just call her, and be direct" type of game does not work as well. You must be masters of texting. Here is a quick troubleshooting guide to texting, in general terms. This is not going to be an article full of texting lines and quirks, instead something sustainable. More of a foundation to build your texting game from, and make contextual banter (just like how your game in person should run, no gimmicks).



First lesson- Calibrate Calibrate Calibrate.
You must calibrate to her, because all girls are different. For instance I am texting three girls right now, completely differently. Almost like I am a different person, because I've successfully calibrated to each of them. A few quick Calibration fixes, 1- if she is not texting you a bunch of smileys, don't be the one who does. It's okay to try out a smiley or two towards the beginning, but if she doesn't respond with some herself, cut it out. 2- same goes for how long the text messages are. Do not send a ton of long paragraphs to which she responds to with "cool.". You are showing neediness, and weirding her out. It is okay to send maybe two or three sentences, as long as they are not fluffy. But if she doesn't respond with the like and sends a long message, DO NOT KEEP SENDING LONG TEXTS. One girl I am texting is pretty short and sweet with her messages, and I am doing the same. The other is completely opening up to me and I am doing the same, sharing experiences and how I feel about situations. The other girl is using tons of smileys and "lol's", and I am doing the like . Calibrate man.

Second lesson- Being Timely.
You can't be texting her back within two minutes all of the time, just like you can't text her back exactly 2 hours after she texts you. You have to be RANDOM with when you text back. Sometimes texting back within 5 minutes, other times it takes you hours and you send two texts, because you were busy doing MAN SHIT. This is not something that should be fabricated, for best results you should actually work on having a busy schedule, and not able to check your phone all the time. Yesterday I did an 11 hour Bootcamp and only was able to text the girls I am talking to while my student was off in an hour long convo with some girls I opened for him at the bar. But later that night I was just laying in bed reading, and was texting back after about 2 minutes between pages. This is attractive. A girl does not want a guy who is glued to his phone, doesn't have anything going on better than to text her, or interrupts his daily life to check his phone to text her. It all projects low value and neediness. So be timely, and random. RULE OF THUMB- NEVER TEXT BACK INSTANTLY. JUST DON'T. ALWAYS WAIT AT LEAST TWO MINUTES.
I know for noobies it is hard because you are still building your cool life, and may have to fabricate it a little bit. Take up some hobbies that take time out of your life, such as lifting, reading, or taking in another part time job.

Third Lesson- Not getting offended.
You gotta ditch your texting ego man. Girls are going to ditch, and not text back. Girls are flaky sometimes man, they are like deer in the woods. If you can catch them, they are fucking marvelous and a pleasant sight to see. But step on one wrong branch or ruffle the wrong leaves, and she will take the fuck off. You can't put weird expectations for her to text back, or hang out with you. You gotta be interesting, funny, not needy, and different. There's tons of girls who will just stop texting because she has a million other guys to text, it happens. Don't feel like you have to flip out on her. Assess the situation objectively and work on your texting game on the next girl. Move on.
I remember I used to get pissed at girls for stopping texting me, or just turning into a bitch out of nowhere, and I'd kinda flip on her for it. Totally just trying to protect my ego. Until I realized this was only hurting me, and had to come to an end if I wanted to fully take advantage of my texting game. You have to learn to let it go when you fuck it up, and move on. Look at what you did wrong. This brings me to my last point, which is one of the BIGGEST MISTAKES WITH TEXTING... especially with girls you just picked up on Day Game/tinder/other situations where you haven't really spent time together.

Fourth lesson- Building Rapport.
If you don't already know how to build rapport, you have to learn man. It's how we connect as human beings. I remember when I started, a pua book I read said "don't build rapport over texting, it puts you in the friend zone". Total bullshiiiiitt. If the girl doesn't know you very well, like in tinder, random meeting on the street and having to go, or some other situation where you didn't get much time to talk to her, she will be suspicious of what you are up to. That's how girls are, especially if you are a badass motherfucker, she will wonder if you are just trying to fuck her and never talk to her again. Building rapport over text is the only way to cut through this barrier. You absolutely must build texting rapport, especially if you want to skip ahead and get her over to your house on the first meetup .


I will work on posting some examples of me doing these through my own texts on here, so stay tuned. Any questions feel free to ask.

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Solid pointers.

Building rapport through text is something a lot of us could benefit from. I have become better at it, but I can still learn.
Examples would be appreciated.

Texting isn't really all that important.

An example of 80% of my text I send to a woman before I sleep with her.

After I get her number:
Me: Was cool meeting ya. heres my number, save it.

She will usually reply something about nice meeting me too and to save her number. Then the next day or a couple days later:

Me: Whats your schedule like this week? Me + you = wine and a movie at my place.

Either she agrees and we figure out a day or she blows me off (doesn't happen often because I ONLY take a chicks number if she seems very interested in meeting up later.)

The day of the meet I'll send a quick text "I just picked up the wine. See ya tonight at 8"

Thats it. No need for complex "text game" or shit like that.

So lets say you get her number Sunday and ask what's a good day this week and she says 5 days later Friday .. You don't text her at all between the 5 days ? Only on the day of the agreed meet up?

Rarely do they give me a date that far in advance but in the event they do I'll sometimes send a quick text or two a few days later.

By the time you get a womans number she already knows if she likes you or not so no need to overcomplicate shit.

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Hmm sorry dude... You may be from an older generation where, yeah texting is really not that important.
But the millennials communicate 99% through texting, and if you don't know how to use this skill properly you are shooting yourself in the foot. Especially with a girl you weren't able to build a connection with, and it was a quick flakey number, or tinder.

You may not realize this, but it is a new language that we all must learn, just like non-verbals. For instance when you text someone saying:
Hey man!
Hey man
Hey man.
Hey man

They are read in the mind differently, and convey different meanings. You create somewhat of a "pseudo" inflection in your mind (or at least the millennials do).

To say texting isn't important.. I respectfully, yet wholeheartedly, disagree.

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Text game is definitely important since you'll most likely be away from her more often then with her, yet you don't want to lose momentum by just never talking to her in between.

I think the best lesson from the post has to do with the attitude of "send it and forget it". If you start overthinking things or allow what's going on in the text conversation to effect your happiness in person, then this will throw your game off completely. If you think of every new text conversation as an experiment to learn from, regardless of what some might call "failure", then you'll feel confident and be far more successful.

You millinials don't understand the power of not being available.

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This x100000^

I'm 25, not an old fart. I'll be sure to let the next 18yo girl I fuck know that she shouldn't have fucked me because I didn't text her enough.

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Texting, just like a lot of other things is great if you want/can use it, but not mandatory.

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