Yeah sorry guys I was frustrated when I wrote it so I was very unclear a bit, so some more technical details:
To establish a little more credibility among you since I do sound like a bullshitter those 6 girls first.
I realized I had oneitis so I decided to get my mind off her a bit.
Those 6 I mentioned.
The first one was my ex(if I can call her that way, never been in a relationship with her, just saw each other for a couple of weeks) I invited her to a party I was going, so alcohol + things got heated, I pushed and pulled all night, there was some hesitation but I started talking to some other girls at the party and she took my hand, told me "come with me", I answered: "It better be fucking good, otherwise you're killing the great connection I had with this chick", she said "you'll see" and from there on, one thing let to another"
Second girl was a girl in the dorm where I live, honestly never attracted me much, but I was in a fucked up situation emotion-wise so I went on and started bantering with her, then we went on and argued with each other for like another 10 minutes about vodka, we got to dancing, danced for like 20 minutes or something with a lot of kino and escalation, I then pulled her in the hallway, kissed her and took her to my room.
Third girl, I was at a networking event and she was the organizer, she seemed very cute and lost, like she couldn't find anyone to talk to her, so I negged her(I don't use them very often)saying something like: "Do you know the organizer I need someone to complain to about this terrible event", she smiled and said something like "it's my first one", after the event we went out for a coffee, then the week after had another date in a bar and after that one thing led to another.
A remark which I have to make, I used the technique in the manual about the first dates, and constantly put myself into a sexual state(never used it before), in order for her to feel the emotion and kind of saw a lot of difference in her attitude, like she was escalating too, she seemed pretty horny.
Forth girl: Club, I approached like 20 girls that night she seemed okay, talked for like 5-6 minutes, danced, then talked again for like 20 minutes, took her home. - BTW I hate clubs and gaming there
Fifth girl: This was another at the club and we looked at each other for like 3-4 times, she then signaled me to come with her finger, but I passed right next to her and went to the bathroom, on my way back she grabbed me by the arm and said: "Seriously", I said something like, "never been so serious in my entire life, why do you ask?" She asked me where I'm from, I answered from Narnia, build up tension for another 4-5 minutes, danced for a while, things escalated from there.
Sixth girl: I actually just made out with this one, another party(I go to a lot of them), nothing much, a college party she was drunk, I didn't put in too much effort, sat next to her, her first question guess how old am I, I said something like: "70", she said you guessed wrong, I'm "22", okay she was very drunk, and I was probably her fifth that night.
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Epilogue: All of them were one nighters, except for the chick from the networking event, saw her for like 2 weeks but ended it, because she called me about 10 times a day, and didn't like her that much. Still calls me like 2-3 times a week.
Now, I know I haven't tried a lot of serious dating so I can forget her, but let's put it like this. When there is something in my head that I'm obsessed with I tend to go for all or nothing, that is why I'm in this line of business and that is why I'm successful at it because I don't let failure stop me.
Now her:
Around 2 weeks ago, I mapped out all of my behavior towards her and tried to correct any "gay friend" behavior I might have. To elaborate I started teasing her a lot, using a lot more kino, some push and pull and not complying with her, because I started noticing a lot of compliance tests that for some reason I never noticed them with her before. So, this is what happened: We went on a party, she mentioned that there were rumors that we were dating and some other stuff, danced later for a while talked some shit. Overall started noticing a lot more kino from her side, she started touching me a lot, leaning into me and other stuff.
Then there was this situation where I mentioned that I like her friend and that my ex is coming in town for a weekend(not in the same sentence), she reacted a little weird and later mentioned something like we should get drunk tonight, so we did and after everyone went to bed we stayed up until 5 a.m. I was pretty drunk and irrational talked about some deep-emotional shit, I teased her some more, we hugged a lot for some reason, she was leaning into me all the time and I thought about going for a kiss, but I was too much of a pussy because I haven't been in a situation like that before and didn't go. I don't know if I should regret it.
Now what I need your advice isn't about whether to game her or not, but rather what strategy to use, how to behave, because I have never been an "orbiter" by know, you know what orbiters are heterosexual gay friends. And I hate that. And she means too much to just go for all or nothing, I prefer indirect in this situation.
Thank you for everything and again, ask me if you need any other details.
CHAT
