| Hi!
My name is Alex and I live in Eastern Europe. I usually had an average dating experience, but lately, after exiting a three years relationship, I find it quite hard to regain my equlibrium in not only dating, but also other areas of my life. I am currently very busy with my work and barely have 1-2 hours left per day and just tiny ammounts of energy, and with the money I am pretty much on the survival line, not much left to spend on dating. I am not saying this because I need pity and comfort, I am saying this in order for you to make yourselves a picture about the bleak situation in which I find myself right now.
In the last year I have spent quite a lot of time learning about dating and PUA tactics and routines, but since then, my game actually worsened. I am not blaming this on PUA, it's just that I clearly applied what I have learned in the worst way possible, and with your help, I am hoping to correct that.
The only improvement I saw was with my opening and approaching, also some improvements in the overall attitude. Now I am not needy anymore, not clingy, not whiny, I am witty and a little cocky. But now girls tend to see me as arrogant just because I am not any of those things anymore. Once, a girl actually compared me to an AFC that was doing a lot of free favors to many of my female colleagues and told me he is a real man for doing that, not someone like myself which only rewards good behavior. I know that it's wrong what she said, but these are the girls I have to contend with.
I noticed that being witty works with some girls, but most, especially the beautiful and cute, seem to preffer the AFC's more around here. Yes, I know they do not know what they actually want, but this is the situation and somehow I have to circumvent their negative responses, and their supportive views towards the AFC's.
In spite of this, I know I improved since, even if they appreciate so much the AFC's, they are still not sleeping with them, and despite of criticizing me so much, it's is very clear they are attracted to me, only they are frustrated because they can't get me on their terms.
Yet, one thing became very bad in my approach / behavior, something to do with the middle game, probably. Couldn't identify yet, what exactly. But there are a lot of girls both at work and outside it that are doing all in their power and bending backwards just to know me. They are so into me initially. But after they get to interact with me for one date or about an hour, they completely lose their interest. And this after they had such an initial high interest! Something is clearly wrong here, as this never happened to me before learning game. Before learning about PUA, my game was 50% natural (with some quite good bits) and 50% AFC (with a lot of fumbling and stumbling around). Despite of never suffering from approach anxiety, my openers and what followed after lacked and had trouble approaching because of this. Now, as I alreayd said, I fixed this after learning game, but my middle game somehow got seriously hindered, a thing that never happened to me before. I even got rejected by a 5! And this after she desperately did all in her power to get to know me?
So, what I do now? Despite of a lot of girls wanting to know me and an abundance of girls at my work and outside it, all I do now is steer away from them as much as possible, I literally hide myself from them and rarely get out of the house, the only situations when I go out being to go to work and buy groceries. In other words, my socialisation and interaction with girls went down to 0. And I did this intentionally, and find myself forced to keep doing it because each time I interact with a girl, the situation is very painful and basically the same - she is very interested in me initially, but after she gets to know me better, even a 5 will not accept me. The only girls at work that are still dreaming about sex with me are the girls I did not approach, and since I like some of them, I do my best not to approach them until I can fix the obvious problems that I have with my middle game.
This is pretty much the number one reason I am here. And I hope you can help me!
Despite of studying a lot about game, from as many sources I could get my hands on, my current game is very loose. I simply can't make one coherent continuum from opener to date, to second date and to perhaps relationship / sex. After delivering quite good material initially, I then find myself stumbling for words.
I am really sorry, you had to read this little novella, but I tried to paint a complete picture of the precarious situation in which I find myself right now. My aim right now is tu build a minimum of coherent material (with your help) that I can study and learn in 1-2 weeks and which will help me get out of the house, safe in the knowledge I have all the tools I need in order to interact with a girl 30-40 minutes without her losing interest. Right now, I do not aim to get laid or even get a relationship. I am for something much smaller in scope, but something that I cand do well and fluently from beginning to end : approach - build some attraction (enough for an ongoing interaction) - build some comfort - banter a little, and keep her interested / entertained for 40 minutes, without running out of words or steam, or witty come backs to her comments. Right now, I do not care what follows after those 40 minutes! All I want is to be able to exit my home and be able to have that 40 minutes fluent, continous interaction with as many girls as there are interested in knowing me. I hope you can help me with this!
Thank you in advance!
Best regards!
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