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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:11 pm 
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broooooooo, she showed a VERY HIGH level of investment to you and you kinda fucked it to be fair.


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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:32 pm 
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You need to contact her first. Call her today & own up to your actions.

Think about it from her point of view: She asks if its more than just sex, and when you take her out to dinner she gets excited because she feels like she's getting a relationship. Then you act like you're seeing other people... If she's as great as you say she is, and she wants a boyfriend, she's gonna cut her losses at that point. Why would she contact you again? It's not gonna get her closer to what she wants. It would be in her best interest to go on dates with other people. That being said, this soon she probably still feels hurt and still likes you (or, how things were before you fucked up)... try to clear things up, and she'll probably be understanding.


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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 10:13 pm 
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Shit.

I sent her a "what's up" text an hour ago. She usually responds in two minutes. The plan was to steer the conversation quickly into a meet-up or phone call.


Isn't apologizing over text a mistake?

Should I wait for her to respond, or hit her up again with an apology?

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PostPosted: Fri Jan 22, 2016 11:33 pm 
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Alright. She just replied "Hey you. I'm at work".

Hmmm she doesn't seem pissed at all. "Hey you" is what she says when shes glad to hear from me.

I'll arrange a meet in an hour or so.

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PostPosted: Sat Jan 23, 2016 12:33 am 
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Don't overthink. It's done.

You've apologized (right? I can't tell).

Now act like it never happened if you did.

It was probably a big deal to her but you don't need to act like it was.


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PostPosted: Sat Jan 23, 2016 12:49 am 
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I told her the night of the fight "you know I care".

But I have not apologized yet. I'm going to keep it light and positive with a movie hang out and wait for her to bring it up.

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PostPosted: Sat Jan 23, 2016 8:10 am 
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Well, it worked out.

I never brought up the incident, neither did she. I made a movie date and she started sexting me. Her family is in town so we're set for Monday night.

It looks like her high level of investment kept this to a blip. Good, because this girl melts my heart. :)

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2016 9:40 am 
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You're gonna fuck up a lot of relationships with people (not just women) if you keep this "he who can never say I'm sorry" attitude up OP.

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2016 1:47 pm 
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The 9's and 10's I date cringe at "I'm sorry". They just see it as weak behavior.

But, point taken everywhere else.

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2016 3:47 pm 
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The 9's and 10's I date cringe at "I'm sorry". They just see it as weak behavior.

But, point taken everywhere else.
Look, you can do whatever you want, but consider this:

If you let the idea of coming across as weak influence your behavior, that's exactly weak behavior.

Being supplicant is not the only form of neediness. Overcompensating the bad-boy persona is just as bad. Granted it will get you laid by certain (and damaged) women, but even those will eventually see through your masquerade. And except a festering pool of insecurities, there won't be much to see.

Life isn't black and white OP. And women will never judge an action in isolation. Actions are contrasted by the man behind them and by his motives.
If you apologize because you're scared shitless you'll never get your dick wet by anyone close to her level of hot, then yeah, she will cringe. That's a desperate man with a selfish motive.
If you apologize in an authentic fashion because you crossed a line, there's no ulterior motive. That's a quality guy just owning his mistake. He likes the girl enough to care about hurt feelings, but his life doesn't depend on it. That's anything but weak.

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2016 4:05 pm 
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The 9's and 10's I date cringe at "I'm sorry". They just see it as weak behavior.

But, point taken everywhere else.
I disagree with this^. If you hurt a girl (it doesn't matter whether it's a 1, 9 or 10 as you put it), you don't have to be an asshole and not apologize. If you hurt someone, genuinely saying "I'm sorry" doesn't make you a pussy. Saying "sorry" is also based on your frame of mind. Why are you saying sorry? Are you saying it to win her over? (This is neediness) Or do you genuinely feel sorry for a wrong you did?

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2016 11:06 pm 
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You don't say things like that to a girl you're sleeping with 3 times a week.

Either you tell her you wanna be in a relationship. Give it a "label" for her and then go cheat on her. I don't suggest this route because it is a substantial amount of work but to each his own.

Or... Stop fucking seeing her so much! You're acting like the two of you are in a semi serious relationship. If she really is nothing more than just a way to get out your "carnal urge" to have sex and you're not willing to commit, then you need to spread that "urge" out among other girls.

You need to settle down her emotions either one way or the other. Either give her the peace of mind that she's got your dick to herself or stop pounding her pussy so much.


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:31 am 
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You don't say things like that to a girl you're sleeping with 3 times a week.
Yeah. I'm sure she's still feeling that, too. Not thrilled with myself.

Great advice, everyone. Thanks.

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 26, 2016 9:42 am 
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That was a fun read. Good thing you have tons of investment with this girl to keep to going. I wouldn't apologize with words, but do it through action.

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 27, 2016 2:35 am 
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Thanks.

So she came over last night and stayed until 9 am. Crazy sex, watched a movie, ate junk food, got stoned. We did talk about the incident. She laughed about kicking me out, then snuggled up to my shoulder.

The previous poster made an awesome point about showing my remorse rather than talking about it. She had picked out a movie she really liked the night I fucked up. I texted her two days later telling her I rented the sequel and that we should watch it. She said "that's adorable".

I guess this was my way of showing we are more than sex, and that I cared about what she liked.

Things are better than ever. She tried to get me to go shopping today but I declined. I'll save that for later.

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