You probably heard of the 3 second rule. It states that you have 3 seconds
to approach a girl before it's too late.

In my experience so far, the 3 second rule doesn't really work for every situation.

It's really good for situation where you have a very limited time of approaching a girl, so you
have to hurry up before she leaves.

However when you're in the same space as the girl for a while - example grocery store, coffee
shop, classroom or work environment, the 3 second rule can actually work AGAINST you.

How?

Well let's say the approach doesn't go well.

Now you're stuck with this girl and you have to take the "OMG did he really just approach me??"

So to avoid that, I came up with a strategy I call "The Ease Strategy"

What you do with the Ease Strategy is let's say you see a girl at a grocery store,
pushing a cart, and instead of running after her and opening with:

"Hey I saw you from over there and thought you were cute..."

I would slowly push my cart towards her direction, and position myself in such
a place where a natural opportunity to talk would come up.

For example, she might be in the soup aisle, so as I approach the aisle, I would say,

"What do you recommend - you seem like a soup connoisseur..." and I would jump
start the conversation.

Often if I allow some time before I approach a girl, a situation will come up where I
can start a conversation with her naturally.

I will notice something that I wouldn't notice before, and it would be very easy to start
a conversation with her.

What do you guys think? Do you think it's always necessary to use the 3 second rule or
are there situations where it's probably better to take some time before you approach?

What were some of your experience with this so far?

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I've actually done this before but never really thought of it in a way that it could be used well.
I think its pretty good personally ill try it out some more

It's a good strategy, but at the same time a security blanket. The problem with it is that you are waiting for the correct conditions to happen before you start a conversation. If those conditions don't present themselves, you'll probably decide against approaching.

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The 3 second rule is a suggestion to help guys get over their fear of approaching and just do it. Once you get to a point that you see a girl you want to talk to and that doesn't scare you, then you don't need the 3 second rule anymore and you can have setup higher quality approaches because there is no chance you will psych yourself out and not go.

Until the point that a guy is comfortable enough with approaching that you don't feel nervous as you take that first step towards her to strike up the conversion, then the 3 second rule is good to limit the amount of psyching out and potentially making an excuse that stops you from going.

I agree with The Doctor. I don't take the 3-second rule as meaning that I only have 3 seconds to approach a girl from the first moment I lay eyes on her. I see it as more of a rule for when you're in that now-or-never moment when you have the perfect chance to approach her but if you wait too long you'll start questioning yourself. In these moments the 3-second rule keeps us from talking ourselves out of it and missing the opportunity.

So by all means set up the approach to make it look "natural", but when she's right there next to you and you know it's time to open, remember the 3-second rule.

I like to get a good look at a women before I approach her.
3 second rule is good for breaking the orbiting habit.

This is the same strategy that I employ. Like Jack said it can result in you missing some girls but the main advantage to the strategy is that she feels your energy for a little bit and if she doesn't scamper away in 4 seconds there is a certain tension that builds up.

One time i tested how long I could make it last and the girl literally hung around me for SEVERAL minutes. I finally "rewarded" her by speaking with her.

I love the dynamics of all of this.

In some ways the 3 second rule can come off as canned to the girl...........ESPECIALLY if you're opening verbally directly ........... as opposed to opening nonverbally directly and verbally situationally.

Waiting until the time is right is almost sexual. It's fucking music and art, and the girl slides in to this frame happily.