Hi guys,

I've been together with my GF for more than 2 years now, with a lot of ups and downs. We almost broke up a couple of times but each time we decided to give it another go.

We are both very stubborn and tend to argue a lot, she's a bit younger than me and feels like she can never win an argument and that I always want to be right.
She on the other hand can be VERY jealous. She gets jealous when I go have lunch with my mother.

Last week was the lowest point we've ever gotten and we actually broke up, it was her call and I agreed. She said she wasn't sure because she still loved me so the next day I wrote her a text asking for another try and she agreed. We both agreed next time there was trouble we would break up for good.

We met up the next day and watched a movie and we had sex, but the next days she has gotten distant. She doesn't initiate text and replies very short to my texts. I asked her if she wanted to go out for a couple of days in a hotel we both like, and she replied she wants to take it easy and needs some space first.



So now for the actual question.... What's my best approach here? Should I text her on a daily basis, should I stop texting, should I try to meetup? (We both live with our parents still, I'm 24 and she's 20) She used to complain a lot how she always has to text me first, but at the moment I'm the only one sending anything...

Some of you might think I should just move on, but I hope I can get some advice aswell on what to do here to save the relationship if that's still possible.

Thanks in advance!

When the door says "Pull" what happens when you continue to "push" it? It won't open and if you continue with more and more strength you'll eventually break it.

A sudden increase of frequent arguments, detachment, etc. could mean that there is someone else in the picture. Have you noticed anything else from her as far as weird behavior goes?

Either way man, you have to pull back now. You're not going to continue initiating daily with some one who isn't showing much interest and all of a sudden things are going to go back to normal. Just take it easy for the next three days and see what she does. I wrote an article on WayOfThePlayer called " Is Your Girl Slipping Away" that you will find interesting and helpful to you during this time. Feel free to check it out.

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Thanks for the replies guys Will definitely read your article Eddie Fews, thanks for mentioning it.

It's not a sudden increase in arguments, we just argue from time to time about stupid things. I am pretty sure there isn't another guy in the picture, we were doing good until the time we had our last argument and we were with eachother almost everyday. So I probably would have noticed.

Anyway I will take it chill these next days and stop texting a bit, would it be a good idea to try and meetup in the weekend?

Did you not read what we just said?

Stop initiating and leave her alone for a little while. Thats a horrible idea.

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Got it! Just not sure how to follow-up after having left her alone for some time. But I guess I'll see how she reacts.

Let her come to you man.

I would even recommend ignoring her the first time she tries to initiate. And leaving her to initiate a second time, before you respond. It shouldn't take more than 2 days. And it would be you giving her what she claims to have wanted.. "space".

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On average how often do you argue and give some examples of what happened and how it was resolved or not.

I'd break up with her if I were you.

Relationships are like a dam. They work just fine, but if you don't know how to maintain them, cracks start surfacing all over the place. Then you notice, start trying to fix them, but ultimately the rate at which they appear is faster than the rate at which you're fixing. Inevitably it won't hold under the constant pressure.

What I'm saying is that when a woman starts doing this kind of "I need space, I need a break, I need blablabla", it basically does mean "I need a new man". In my opinion you're just prolonging the lifespan of an already poisoned relationship. It will die, you're simply making it more miserable for everyone.

And I know you won't listen to that advice, so the next best thing is to leave her alone. Don't text, don't call, don't contact, don't suggest to meet up. Don't do shit until she comes to you. I don't care if it's her birthday tomorrow. Leave her alone.

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I'd say like once a week, including small arguments.

The last argument leading to the 'breakup' is this one:

A week ago she said she was going to the cinema with a female friend of hers and told me I should go do something with my friends. 2 of my best friends were going to an after work 'party' in another city and invited me. So I told her I would go to this after work thing and told her it was in a different city, she replied with 'oh that's cool!'.

She then asks me what this after work party actually is, I sent her the link of the event on facebook and told her to check it out, as it had a big description and I hadn't been there before. Some smalltalk later, she started replying very short and obviously something was up, I ask her what program she's watching on television and what's it about, she replies with: Go look it up on their site.

I was pretty pissed she replied like that and told her that reaction arrogant and childish since I always look everything up for her, she then said that her reaction was justified because I didn't bothered to explain her something which I could have easily done in 1 sentence.

The next day we both didn't text eachother at all, two days later she sends me a text 'Is something wrong?'. Which I replied to with: 'What do you think? First you act like that and then you don't text me for a whole day'

She then came over and we had our talk that led to our break-up. Apparently she had gotten mad when I told her I was going to this different city, and her first reaction 'oh that's cool!' was supposed to be sarcastisc.

I'm aware I probably I handled this situation badly and acted childish myself, but no point asking advice if I'm not being honest here.



- She was working for school and needed my help to explain something, I told her I could'nt come right away as I was busy with something, so she got mad.


-My dad has makes weird jokes sometimes, I went shopping with my dad and my girlfriend and my dad made one of his jokes to the cashier. Since then she doesn't wanna go to any shops with just me and my dad, because it would embarrass her. I didn't like it but I just said ok.


-I'm always late. Whenever we meet up I'm always like 15 minutes late. (unless we're going to a restaurant or something where you HAVE to be in time). I told her this is a big flaw and that I really need to work on this. She doesn't believe I can.



One thing I forgot to mention: A lot of this arguing started some months ago when she started hanging out again with this female friend again she also went to the cinema with. She always look angry at me and never says hello, she hates me for some reason. They used to be best friends before we started dating, so maybe she was angry at me I 'stole' her best friend from her, I don't know. She started constantly texting and snapchatting wit her.



Anyway last night her dad called me and asked me if I could come over. My girlfriend was gone to volleybal practice and her parents wanted to talk to me without her knowing. They basicly told me my girlfriend has been acting depressed since we had our last argument/break-up. She barely talks, she wants to stay in her bed all the or just run away, she doesn't know what to do. She also wants to stop school etc.
They are very worried their daughter will regret it big time if we break up and they asked me if it was maybe better to give eachother some space and only try to meet-up in the weekend to try and reconnect (we saw eachother everyday, we live very nearby). I told them I had stopped texting my GF and they agreed this ist he right call at the moment. Her dad also told me he had asked her if she had met someone else, and she said no not at all, she's just strugling with herself and doesn't know what to do. He said his daughter would never lie to him, but who knows.

I realise breaking up might be the best or easiest way to handle this, but we had some really great time together and we still love eachother it's damn hard to just give up on that. Her parents were actually crying when we were talking yesterday, they really want us to work out aswell.

Thanks for the honest advice. This is my first real relationship ( I was a real partygoer, I was seeing different girls at once but never committed to any of them) so maybe I'm kinda scared of letting go.

When you say it's poisoned, I'm hoping to find the antidote

Bullshit.

After reading that bro.. I think its best to call this quits. You're too accommodating. And you're almost like the girl in the relationship.

If my girl was hanging out with someone who "hated " me it would have to stop or we would have to stop. All she is going to of is tear at our relationship day by day, little by little. I'd tell her straight up that friend isn't helping the progression of our relationship, so she has to find some new ones and leave her alone. Girls want their friends to have the same relationship status as them so they don't feel alone. So if a girl has a friend that cheats on her boyfriend she'll subconsciously encourage her friend to do the same so she doesn't have to carry that guilt alone.


End it man. I think thats the extent of the advice you need. Call her up and tell her its best that you both move forward. She'll cry and try and manipulate/guilt you into changing mind but you have to hold steady. Her tears are selfish, they have nothing to do with you. Theres a great article called " Why You Shouldn't Care About Her Tears During A Break Up" on Return of Kings. Go give that a read. Get rid of her man. You'll feel much better than if you let this all dwindle down into the point that she has no choice but to get rid of you. Thats whats coming. Her "sudden depression" isn't for no reason. She's struggling with making a decision. And I'm 75% sure their is someone else. The behavior you wrote about is cheating like behavior. Don't try and ask her " Are you seeing someone else? " closure is for girls. You're developing oneitis and its not going to end well unless you man up and just take action now.

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It's your call OP, just take into consideration we've seen thousands of topics like this and there's a reason we're giving the advice we're giving.

Whatever you decide to do, report back, so others will have something to learn from this.

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She used to complain she doesn't have any friends, so just let her be with her hateful friend, that was probably a bad call.
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She texted me earlier today saying she's quitting school. I haven't responded yet. I'm gonna try and hold on to no contact for now. I completely understand what you're saying though Eddie Fews, I just need to think it over before I just call it quits. A close friend of me broke up with his long term girlfriend 3 months ago, and he's still regretting it, I don't want the same thing to happen to me.

Damn man, she says I'm too dominant and bossy, I'm confused
I know man, I've been lurking on this forum for a long time now and I've also read similar topics. I'm feeling kinda stupid for being THAT guy who doesn't follow advice.

I will definetly update though.

She's fishing for a panicked response. You weren't firing back any bullets so she tossed a grenade.

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