Last couple dates I've been on when shifting topic of conversation to sex, I ask them about any of their crazy hookup stories. Most of the time it doesn't seem to be a big deal. However I find that if I share a story about mine without being asked they lose interest and don't want to be around me. I know you are never supposed to mention anything about sex referring to you and your date, but where does the whole calibration factor come into play here? Only thing I can think of is that I didn't screen correctly and they were thinking of me for a potential bf but then find out I obviously wouldn't be faithful etc. Either that, or it shows that I am not discreet.

So ultimately, do you ever share stories like that without being asked to try and build a common connection and understanding of the hookup culture? Or do you just use their experiences to qualify them? Is it socially wrong to share your stories in a way like this that doesn't seem like bragging?

Almost seems on par with the 'how many girls have you been with' shit test where the less you reveal the better.

Anyone?

Speaking for myself personally I don't talk about this shit with girls much if at all. In my experience they don't want to hear it. When I was younger I used to TRY to talk about this topic and it seemed like they just thought i was trying to impress them and it did not work at all.