| Hello, I am Herbert 55 years old, university professor, married since 20 years, 3 children. 5 years ago I and my wife decided that we wanted to have an open marriage, and since then I had a handful of relationships, mostly with women more than 20 years younger then myself, although the most deep was (and is) with a woman 10 years younger. I am naturally both very shy and very introvert, but I worked on myself to become less shy, but still being myself.
I am not really interested in pick up as such, I like to come to know a woman very well. Sex after a while naturally just becomes part of it. I also seem not to be interested in women unless I fall at least a bit in love, after knowing them a little. It also works the other way round: either women fall in love with me quite fast or they do not seem to consider me, very much. When a relationship ends it is each time very painful for both.
I am quite concerned about my age, and I have always thought I was rather unattractive, and my age has not improved this, although I look younger than my age. However the women I came to know well in the last years always said I was very good looking, (one even said, usually she dislikes so good looking men, but she made an exception for me), so I am starting to believe it myself.
I am still very shy inside, but I can often conquer it, it feels wonderful to start talking to a woman, regardless of the outcome, it feels like a huge victory, because I know it is something that would been impossible for me a few years back. And to my surprize it is almost always somehow positive, the women are friendly (only one or two exceptions in the last few years, but even these very mild), most of the time it just leads to a friendly chat and maybe she becoming a nodding acquaintance, but sometimes there is a strong mutual attraction that can be felt almost immediately after starting to talk, and this often leads to a relationship.
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