Hi guys,

I'll skip the not so entertaining details as best to my ability. I have been dating this girl for about 3-4 months, exclusivity being agreed upon not so long ago when it was already obvious and the relationship has progressed to that point on it's own. She initiated this talk.

Anyway, last night I was out with friends and she gives me a call. So these morons (I use this term affectionately, I love the fuckers) start making it impossible for me to have my phone call, shouting around, telling me to hang up, basically making all sorts of background noise that were making it hard for me to hear her. We all do this kind of imature shit to each other randomly, but she got upset.

This happened once before a week ago and apparently it really bothered her back then too, although she didn't mention it or seemed affected on the spot. Not as in pissed her off, but she felt bad. Now putting myself in her shoes it's somewhat understandable that she'd get upset, IF they knew I was talking to her or disliked her in any way. However, that's not the case. Friends didn't even know who's call I was picking up.

Anyway, she got all defensive and cut the conversation short with a passive agressive tone. I texted her saying that was uncalled for. She replied "Maybe you're right, but it's not the first time this has happened and I don't like when your friends urge you to hang the phone on me. I don't think that's normal".
I just said Ok and let her cool off. Later she sends me some pics, says she's upset, I tell her that the people at my table weren't even aware who I was talking to and that they do this kind of thing every now and then. She doesn't really acknowledge any of that.

Haven't talked since. I know she's upset but what can I do? It's not like I'm about to apologize for something someone else did. I don't see how that's the appropriate thing to do.
And although I don't want to turn a relationship into a power battle, I honestly don't want it to become a habit that whenever she gets pissed for invalid reasons and I end up apologizing or whatever.
I have no problem doing that when she's in the right, but that's not the case.

As I'm writting this post it becomes apparent I should just let her come to me, however having some outer perspective or insight can hardly do any harm.

For now I'll go have some drinks with my friends and not do anything in that regard.

Thanks for reading and have a nice Sunday.

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I'd tell my friends, "when gf calls, quit the shouting etc."Then next time you're out with them and she calls, just tell them its "gf" and they should be quiet.

You dont have to apologize for something other people did, but you're kinda in the wrong. If it were your boss calling or something important, you would've/shouldv'e handled the phone call differently.

She's overreacting if she's still mad, but I can see why she'd be upset. It's a SMALL thing...but that doesnt mean it should be dismissed. A simple "my bad, I shouldve told those guys to quiet down" instead of trying to making it about your friends. At the end of the day, it's you..and you're gf. If you're having a conversation with her, have it. If people are making that impossible in the background, handle it.

You couldn't have walked away a little?
Or tell the GF; 'Hey gimme a sec I'll call you back'?

This seems simple to me.

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What Heywood said.

Or soft next.

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Actually I couldn't have walked at that moment.
Anyway, she messaged me not long after I created this thread and apologized for overeating.

Thanks for the replies. Also lol at soft nexting your girlfriend...

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How come?

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